Mrs. Toucan, Boston
Age and Occupation: 25, Full-time Research Assistant, Part-time Graduate Student
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 25, Actuary
Engagement Date: February 18, 2007
Wedding Date: June 7, 2008
Blogging Since: November 07, 2007
Venue: St. Catherine of Genoa, Jin Asian Cuisine Restaurant
About Me: I’m a Gemini to the extreme. On one side, I’m a girly girl. I read countless bridal and fashion magazines, and have an obsession with keeping up with the latest Hollywood gossip. On the other side, I’m a sports fanatic. Despite being a full-time bride-to be, full-time research assistant, and part-time student, I’m also a full-time Red Sox fan from spring training to October, and a full-time Patriots fan from mini-camp to February. I devote almost as much time researching my for fantasy football team as researching for our wedding!
When Do Things Get “Normal” Again?
June 27th, 2008 @ 10:57 am by Mrs. Toucan
Ok, I’m not going to lie. This is a complete cop out post. I know I promised recaps of our honeymoon and other pre-wedding stuff that I never posted, but truth of the matter is that I just haven’t had the time!
I really thought things would get back to “normal” after the wedding was over. You know, the part when I stop running around like a crazy mad-woman. But, when I got back from our honeymoon there was just so. much. stuff. I’m totally slammed at work and catching up on with all my projects (I guess they missed me?). We’re still not fully moved into our new place, never mind being unpacked and settled in. And soon, I’ll be starting up summer courses again! I’m starting to feel like I’m more stressed now than before the wedding!
When do things get “normal” again? Does life ever slow down?
12 Responses to “When Do Things Get “Normal” Again?”
I completely agree!!!! I thought I’d be a relaxed bee after the wedding, but if anything, things are crazy. Between moving, getting ready for our honeymoon, being back at work, unpacking, writing all those thank you cards — I’m exhausted! I’m ready for normal life too 
I am not getting married until the end of august and I am already having these unhealthy, unrealistic fantasies that life will so easy and calm after the wedding. I am “almost” looking forward to that more than the wedding. (I mean not really but on stressful days i need something to reach for.) I think the answer is, the never go back to normal…. life is always crazy! Ahh!
Haha!
You have no idea, Mrs. Toucan, how much I understand your frustration.
After my husband and I got married, we traveled every weekend for 3 months. All of a sudden there were twice the family events to attend! We also had 3 weddings to attend after our own. And then the holidays. And then the summer started and we have more weddings to attend. Not to mention, packing, moving, and unpacking.
I think life will become normal after a little bit. I suggest setting one weekend aside (if possible) for just the two of you. Or just yourself for that matter. To simply unwind, relax, and pamper yourself!
Um, yeah, I’m totally with you too. In the two months since our wedding, my husband lost his job, which jump-started his plans to get his own business off the ground, and we’ve been swept up in the apartment search and now moving process. We haven’t even started our TY cards. Eek! However, I’m happy to report that we’re off to the Rothbury Festival in Michigan next weekend for lots of good music, good friends and good times. 
I can totally relate! After our wedding, there was even more to do than before! Craziness. Things really do slow down… eventually. At least, that’s what it feels like. In truth, I don’t think things really slowed down much for us so much as we settled into a bit of a life routine together. I call it our “new normal”. Things are busy, yes, but my husband and I are having tons of fun figuring things out. You guys will too.
Life will settle down, I promise! It took us about 4 months to really feel like the craziness had died down.
Here are some things that helped me:
1) I addressed and stamped all of the thank you cards before the wedding. This helped me to get ALL of the cards out within 2 weeks! Yes, I had some envelopes stamped for people who ended up not coming, but i just cut the stamps off those envelopes and it was totally worth it! (Okay, so this won’t help you much now… sorry!)
2) I really focused on getting all of the gifts unwrapped, put away, and getting settled in. Really, it just took 1 saturday of working ALL day at this to get it done. I sent hubby to the hardware store & to the yard to do yard work (sometimes they just get in the way!) turned off my cell phone, turned on the radio, and just got to work! I felt SO much better at the end of the day.
3) As soon as your photog gives you the proofs, give yourself a time limit on when you are going to order your wedding album by. Too many brides never order theirs at all!
The last thing I want to say is that as soon as the chaos died down, I felt like I wanted to immediately start TTC… don’t feel pressured just because you feel like you can handle another responsibility - take time to enjoy your newlywed status!!!
Becky
p.s. Sorry that was so long!
Three months, and we’re not there yet!!! But much of that has to do with moving…. Who came UP with this whole moving-smack-in-the-midst-off-when-life-is-already-chaos thing? Madness, I tell you. Madness!
@Becky: Thanks for all the suggestions! I will definitely address and stamp my Thank Yous before hand
I wish I could tell you that it slows down eventually but just over 9 months after my wedding I’m still running around like crazy. I contracted Pertussis (whooping cough) while on my honeymoon so I coughed pretty much non-stop for 4 months, after that there was the sinus surgery to correct a deviated septum among other things. Then MH got accepted to grad school so there were trips across the country to tour schools and finally the big decision. Now I’m trying to tie up loose ends at work, plan the move, pack, and get ready to move cross country in August…
I need a nap just typing all that!
The good news is that you have your awesome hubby to help you out and it’s fun to look back and see how much has happened. Make sure you do things just the two of you (we have date night) or that you make time to just snuggle on the couch and watch movies.
No, it never really settles down, so quit your be-yatchin’ woman and bloggy, bloggy, make with the photos– chop, chop!
JK, of course ;)… but I AM looking forward to seeing all your wrap ups as you have time to post them.
It slows down, but it doesn’t… it take you down the next road. It’s amazing though! Amazing, exciting and sometimes scary as *$#@! It’s so easy to forget that there is life after the wedding.
