Miss Margarita, Boston/Los Angeles
Age and Occupation: 26, Healthcare Consultant
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 26, Doctor
Engagement Date: March 21, 2007
Wedding Date: August, 2008
Blogging Since: June 18, 2008
Venue: Saddlerock Ranch
About Me: I grew up in Southern California, moved to Boston for college, New York for grad school, back to Boston and now I travel the northeast every week for work. When I'm not on the go, I love to read, draw, shop, sleep and spend quality time with my fiancé, family and friends. We're long-distance planning for our "big fat brown wedding" in California and are excited to unite our Sri Lankan and Indian cultures and Buddhist and Hindu religions in a unique and modern way.
Ranking Your Love
July 1st, 2008 @ 8:23 am by Mrs. Margarita
The modern Sri Lankan wedding often borrows heavily from British traditions. We wear white/ivory colored sari’s, veils, and carry bridal bouquets. The picture below is of my parents on their wedding day almost 39 years ago!
How hot is my Mom? She rocked the beehive hair-do under that long veil 
The modern Sri Lankan wedding also involves having a bridal party. So from the moment we were engaged, I started freaking out about choosing my bridesmaids. I know everyone has lots of different opinions and personal preferences on choosing bridesmaids. Like many brides, I have a lot of friends from different phases in my life and I really wasn’t sure how I could choose a bridal party without leaving someone out or offending anyone. If I had it my way, I’d have 15 girls up there with me on our wedding day. Unfortunately, that idea was vetoed early by both my parents and Mr. Margarita.
My maid of honor has been my best friend/soul mate since college so she was an easy choice. She’s a rock in my life and has always been there for me through thick and thin. From there I had a really hard time choosing from my very close group of college girlfriends, high school, graduate school friends, not to mention family and family friends. Eventually, with much difficulty and deliberation, I chose three more of my wonderful friends to be bridesmaids.
After my bridal party was formed, I decided I wanted to do something special for all my other wonderful girlfriends. Like Mrs. Jasmine, I picked up saris for my close friends and family from India. I paired the saris with a card letting them know how much they meant to me. I also want to invite my close girlfriends to get their nails done with us the day before the wedding. I’d love to invite them all over to get ready with me on my wedding day a la Mrs. Lovebug, but I think that’s just going to be too much chaos for me.
Did anyone else find it incredibly unnatural and difficult to rank your loved ones?
12 Responses to “Ranking Your Love”
I have two sisters, one step-sister and a best friend, so it would have been pretty simple for me… but we’re having quite a small wedding and I felt like four was too many. Plus my fiancé has two sisters, so I wasn’t sure if I should have included them, but six was definitely too many!
So I decided to forget it, give them all different important jobs and not call them bridesmaids. It feels better to me, more personal.
I just love that photo! Thanks for sharing!
Becky
I am finding this especially difficult myself. I like your idea of gifting those other special ladies with a token to allow them understand their importance in your life. I may think of a way to adapt that myself to keep myself sane. If I had everyone I wanted to have in my wedding party I would be at about 10 girls! I am struggling to keep it to 5 or 6.
It was difficult because I have three close female relatives, and about five really close friends, but our wedding is so small that we only have room for about 2 or 3 attendents. They are kind of a package deal, though, because I can’t ask one family member without the other two, or one friend without the other four, because I’m equally close to all. So I just had to have my three family members and not include my friends as attendents.
My bridesmaid told me about the “house party”, which is basically a group of girls that are like bridesmaids, but they just don’t stand up there with you. There are 4 girls that I would have loved to ask to be my bridesmaids and didn’t because I thought 8 in total was too many, so I decided a house party was a perfect addition to honor all of my dear friends.
Hi!!! Don’t ask me why I read this site…hahaha. Maybe you should convince N to become a Bee, too…
Your mom looks beautiful!
I just ranked them all by length of time that I’ve known them! Made it easy and took the emotions out of it. 
My situation is similar to Guilty Secret’s no we are going bridesmaidless. Love the photo! Thanks for sharing it
Yeah, I feel like I’m in elementary school - back when we did rate our friends (or least we did where I live :-/)
@ Shannon - thats a great idea! I might have to borrow it
@ Jinna - HI! I am going to try and convince N to join..haha
@Miss Pom - I’m so jealous it was easy! I have such a hard time making decisions, that might have been the way to go
@Guilty Secret and Miss Gingerbread - Sometimes I look back and wish had done this because I don’t want to hurt any feelings. I think my mom would have killed me though
@AliCherri1 - thats exactly how i felt!
@MissJasmine & Becky - Thanks! I love that wedding photo
Soulmate! I had tears in my eyes when I read your post! I feel so priveledged to be your MOH and am SO excited for your wedding and to share all these experiences with you! And your mom still looks exactly how she did in that wedding photo! You’ve got some good genes…
