Weddingbee Blog

The title of this post is a line that Mr. Avocado used on me just this week… ah, so close!

It’s sad to say, but my left ring finger is naked, and always has been. Some of you may be thinking, “She’s a fake! A crazy bride planning a wedding without a groom.” It’s just not true, please believe me! As my wonderful mother pointed out to me when I was stressing about other peoples’ perceptions, I am engaged, I just don’t have a ring yet.

I even went so far as to buy a $10 stand-in from Wal-Mart. I’ve found that any mention of the wedding causes people to immediately glance down at my hand and then judge me when they don’t see a ring there.

I bought this big ropey black one in hopes that Mr. Avocado would think it was hideous enough to immediately propose. It didn’t work.

Correct me if I am wrong but I think I might be the first Bee in the hive without an engagement ring on her finger. Through this fantastical blogging universe, I have learned that I am not the only bride who is planning her wedding this way though, and I bet there are a few of you Weddingbee readers who are going through the exact same thing as I am!

I have been fine with letting Mr. Avocado to do things in his own way since he always does such a great job of letting me do things my way. We believe this to be the key to our success as a couple, as it allows us to exist as two unique individuals working to create a functional unit. Sorry to get all deep and philosophical on you for a second, but it’s really true!

Unfortunately this system has garnered a lot of confused questions from our family and friends. I have ALWAYS been a little crazy about weddings (you know the type, she already has her dress and flowers picked out, she just needs a groom to meet her at the altar), so I think a few of them might be thinking I am planning our wedding in that manner. But, I am not pressuring Mr. Avocado into anything he isn’t ready for. We, plural, want to get married to each other.

So to prove once and for all that there is really a ring, I will show it to you. Because it is currently sitting on his desk right now in plain sight. I can see it in a green bag. But I won’t put it on my finger and wear it around the house anymore, I pinky swear.

Here it is in one of the now world-famous Paloma’s Nest bowls. This isn’t mine. I had to give it away to some other stupid bride. It says “Love Conquers All” in Latin. And the bride isn’t stupid. She’s nice and will provide it a good home.

Yes, that is really my ring. But isn’t it kind of ugly and blurry and misshapen? I’ve decided to wait to show off the ring until I’ve experienced the official proposal. So we will all be waiting, hoping for Mr. Avocado to officially propose before I move home to central WA and get strange looks every day.

Please hive, tell me it isn’t true. I’m not the only one with a dress, photographer, florist, venue, and much much more without something pretty sparkling on her left hand? Am I? Any other ring-less engaged brides out there?