Miss Pinot Noir, New York/Napa Valley
Age and Occupation: 24, Health Educator
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 31, Market Researcher
Engagement Date: November 10, 2007
Wedding Date: October, 2008
Blogging Since: June 25, 2008
Venue: Auberge du Soleil
About Me: I am a Minnesota raised, NYC transplant planning a destination wedding in Napa. I'm balancing my love for the environment and my hubby-to-be's love for tradition to create our "green wedding in disguise." Our wedding will include local food and wine, antique touches and lots of love and laughter. When wedding planning isn't taking up my free time (and money) I love to read, cook, workout, watch baseball and travel! Follow along in my adventure as I attempt to plan an eco-friendly and socially responsible wedding (with eco-oblivious Mr. Pinot Noir).
Men in…Kilts!
July 3rd, 2008 @ 5:00 pm by Miss Pinot Noir
The summer before we were engaged, Mr. Pinot Noir asked me what I thought of him wearing a kilt at the wedding. Wow! I did not see this coming. While I never really had a clear vision of what our wedding would look like, it definitely did not involve kilts! I always imagined he would wear something like this:
Brooks Brothers Khaki Linen Suit
Brooks Brothers Golden Fleece Two-Button Pinstripe Suit
He continued to bring it up and I started to realize that he was serious about wanting to wear a kilt. At first I was completely against the idea. I thought it would look completely out of place at our wedding site in Napa Valley and too dressy for a daytime wedding. I envisioned reds and oranges, and his family tartan (kilt pattern) is navy and dark green. He told me how much it meant to him and how he viewed it as a way of honoring his grandmother (who passed away several years ago).
I realized that it is Mr. Pinot Noir’s wedding too and he wouldn’t dare tell me what to wear. So, I got on board with the kilt with one condition - that he would bring pants to change into for some of the formal shots. He agreed and we started the search for a kilt maker! This is what Mr. Pinot Noir and his wedding party will look like on our wedding day:
Mr. Pinot Noir will wear the Prince Charlie Jacket and the groomsmen, usher and ring bearers (his four brothers) will wear the less formal Argyle Jackets.
Since our original conversation I’ve come to accept the kilt for what it is. After all, all the celebrities are doing it!
What did your man choose to wear for the wedding? Is anyone else marrying a kilt lover?
33 Responses to “Men in…Kilts!”
I’m not, but one of my friends did this January. It was quite nice! His family is hardcore Scottish (they all have their clan motto and crest tattooed on their calves) so all the males were wearing their kilts. She also draped a piece of the tartan over her shoulder. I think for the Scottish, the kilt is their formal wear 
Oh I cannot even begin to tell you how excited I am that your wedding party peeps are wearing kilts!!
I can’t even get Mr. Pom to wear chucks, never-the-less anything else he considers non-traditional. I have a Scottish heritage mixed in there somewhere and so the only “touch” of that I’m gonna get in my Bridal Party are argyle socks!
I love kilts. My hubby to be is wearing one( we are getting married in Scotland–we used to live there) and now alot of other men taking part, and even some that are guests are inquiring about kilt hires.
I love kilts!
Now, I have to say that while kilts are great, Vin Diesel and Sting are wearing skirts. My husband is half Irish and half Scottish, but didn’t ever want to wear one. It’s a shame, he’s got cute legs!
Have fun, I think he’ll look great!
that is so exciting! kilts can look really great - shouldn’t be out of place at all, though pay attention to the footwear. bad options can take a kilt from sexy town to crazyville!
besides - rather than having your MOH tote your lip gloss, perhaps your FI can carry it, if he’s going with the little bags that come with kilts (I’m sure there is an actual name for these - pardon my ignorance!).
Hooray for kilts! My family was disappointed that my brother didn’t wear his kilt (he owns his own - the whole 9 yards!) They are so festive and really don’t look silly in real life.
Also - I’m glad that you made the point about getting on board with your FI’s preference, since he wouldn’t tell you what to (not) wear!
Kilt lover’s wife, here I come! My intended is Scottish through and through and insisted on wearing the full Scottish formal dress too. His main family tartan is almost all red, which worried me b/c that wouldn’t go with our colors at all, but he’s decided to go with the Black Watch tartan, which is universal and also happens to be his family’s hunting tartan. This one will go a lot better with our theme. I think it’s awesome– like you, I was a bit wary of it at first, but when I realized that it’s something he’s wanted to do since he was a little kid, AND he wouldn’t dare tell me how to dress on our big day, I decided to go all in. Now, I’m really excited and I think it’s going to look amazing! I can’t wait to see pics of how your day turns out. Good luck!
I am SO JEALOUS you are having kilts in your wedding. I am part Scottish and really want to find a way to incorporate that into our wedding (hopefully with a bagpiper), I would LOVE it if FH wanted to wear a kilt, but alas he is Irish and Czech.
@Miss Pomegranate: Miss Pom you and I need to hang out, to bad were in opposite sides of CA 
You took the words right out of my mouth!
Sorry there were so many typos in that last comment.
So. Jealous. I would LOVE to have our guys in kilts in honor of my Scottish heritage, but my Italian fiance isn’t into the idea! I want to incorporate it somewhere though, so he might wear a pocket square of my family’s tartan.
My wonderful husband wore a kilt for our wedding. I cannot imagine him in anything else. He went semi-formal. He had a kilt made in his family tartan while doing field research near Glasgow, and over the years accumulated the sporran, sgian dubh, belt, and a couple nice pairs of socks. He had a vest made for him for the wedding, and just wore a shirt, tie and vest with the kilt. He looked so, so handsome.
Don’t underestimate how classy and formal a kilt can look in pictures- those may become your favs.
Awww, don’t make him change! The kilts are awesome and so unique! Plus it will totally interrupt the flow of the day and pictures if he has to stop and change. He’ll look great, and it will show the true spirit of the wedding - the ones with pants won’t be *real*. Kilts are awesome!
fantastic! my Boy would kill me for saying this (he’s Irish American) but I love them. Me, I’m trying to get him to wear the Filipino barong for a few reception shots and I think he’s gonna do it!
We are having a destination wedding in Scotland, so my fiance is thinking about wearing a kilt. Nothing definite yet though. I have to admit I am still trying to get used to the idea and picture how it will fit in with the overall look/feel of the wedding (we are not having a strong Scottish theme, we don’t want to be over the top), but at the end of the day it is up to him…
I love the kilts and I think your groom will look great in it. I know it’s popular for the guys to have kilts now because the person who designed out wedding cake topper had a lot of groomsmen with wedding cake toppers.
My FI really wanted to wear a kilt, but it would have cost him more than what we’re spending on our honeymoon… so maybe someday later he could get one.
my FI is scottish, plays bagpipes and the whole deal. His parents bought his kilt for his grad present and he bought everything else. His attire for our wedding is SEVERAL thousand more than mine 
but he has also worn and will wear his many, many times and it was already paid for score! We kinda debated about what he would wear because he’s also in the military and has his dress uniform. I’m so glad he’s going with a kilt! our groomsmen will wear black suits and we’re doing a tartan exchange and I get to wear his families tartan! I’m so excited! If you’re FI wants to wear a kilt.. it’s really classy. Just make sure he’s comfortable in one.. because when you’re wearing basically a skirt and no underwear… they can be some nudity haha.
Hi there. My FI is Scottish, we’ll be having our wedding in Scotland (we live in England now) and he and his groomsmen are all wearing kilts. I’m so excited. The kilt is a powerful piece of clothing and do not underestimate how wonderful it will look. When my FI came to meet my family in Montreal and attended a wedding in his kilt, EVERYONE was intrigued and enamoured by his kilt. A few of the church ladies even asked if he wore anything under it (he didn’t)! It’s going to look great and pictures and I don’t think he should wear pants later unless he’s uncomfortable. Like you said, he wouldn’t tell you what to wear so just trust him. Also, you’ll probably find him irresistable in his kilt. Grrr…
Just had a Filipino-Scottish wedding where most of my family wore a barong or a Filipina dress, and my husband wore a kilt along with the groomsmen. There were even two men from Scotland there that wore their kilts with a baggy shirt (to look less formal than the groom). It was so fun for everyone to see the different cultures, even though I felt bad for the kilt wearers- it was pretty hot in the Florida sun!
Thea T: We were going to do the same thing, but we forgot the barong at home!
Mine is thinking of wearing one too. At first I was like errr… but as time went by I got quite excited at the idea. He has Scotch-Irish and Welsh heritage through his dad and I love the idea of blending our different cultures. It won’t be an easy task, but I’m happy with it. We have some tartan research to do and then decide if we go with the family’s color or a black more formal looking one.
I think it’s fun.
@NiftyBa: I popped on your blog and you were married in Pensacola? I know that area really, really well. I have questions about doing a mixed Filipino wedding that I’d love to ask you!
I think you have made a very wise choice, as a Scotsman who was married in the kilt here in Bavaria Germany, I can’t recommend it highly enough.
If either you or your intended need any advice about the kilt, or which accessories to wear with it, then have a look at my site at http://www.your-kilt.com
I wish you both a wonderful wedding day, and a blessed life together.
My hubby to be is Scottish (I’m about 1/2) and all the guys will be in kilts. I didn’t want the total visual blast of the competing clan tartan colors though so I did request that they all wear the Black Watch so we’d blend and not cause headaches or scary pictures! It seems that each of them had some wild color in their own tartans. augh. My colors are shades of lavender and purple so that would be an eyeful!
I grew up on a horse/cattle ranch so we’re having a Scottish/Cowboy wedding on a ranch in the mountains. My dad absolutely refuses to wear a kilt & will be in his tux with black cowboy hat (can’t imagine him otherwise.) (I’ll have cowboy boots under my long skirt anyway).
The post above about the sporran is wonderful. I don’t carry a purse anymore when he’s kilted! He puts stuff in my purse when he has on jeans so I return the favor when he’s carrying his “man purse”!
Enjoy the kilts, very sexy!
@Megan: Sounds like you’re marrying a Grant! So am I!
Hey Miss Pinot Noir. I found a really gorgeous wedding on a photographer’s blog with men in kilts! Enjoy!
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My FI is about half-Scottish, but his one request was that he was allowed to wear his kilt, so we decided to run with it! We’re taking the colors of our wedding from his kilt (a pretty light blue and green), and the groomsmen will be in black kilts, should be a nice contrast. Though we’re going to have to have a blurb in the program about why a “Hernandez” wedding involves kilts!
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I was SO excited when I read that Mr. Pinot Noir was going to be wearing a kilt! My FH is wearing one, and there is not much out there for North American kilt lovers. I am nervous about the kilt, and was hoping that seeing pictures of your wedding would make me feel better.
I’m sorry that things aren’t working out as they should.
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