I know I was desperate for this information when I was trying to figure out the guest list, so I hope this helps someone!
We invited 252 people to our wedding. One week after our RSVPs were due, we have 184 attending, 64 not attending, and 4 that we still haven’t heard from (and at this point we assume aren’t coming). So that’s a yes rate of 73%. If you break it down by in-state versus out-of-state, 63/74 Mainers will be coming (85%), and 121/178 out-of-staters will be coming (68%). And yes, if you haven’t figured it out yet, I’m a big dork.
We offered an email address option for RSVP’ing, but only 14 people took us up on it- 11 to say they were coming, 3 to say they weren’t, and one second cousin to say “thank you very much but actually my husband and I are divorcing and won’t be attending” (eeek).
Out of the 184, exactly 92 are my guests, and 92 are Mr. Tiramisu’s! We’ll be filling the church up nice and evenly
Oh, and if you’re still on the fence about numbering your RSVP cards, or think it’s just something nice to do and not really necessary, take it from me:





I thought I was keeping it simple with “Name(s)” and not that ever-confusing “M” business!
We were expecting right around the number we got, but budgeted for 225 just in case (and to hopefully set ourselves up for a little extra honeymoon cash!). We expected a lot of our no responses, but were each disappointed and surprised by a few (Mr. T’s Godfather, and a couple of my good friends from grad school).
Were you surprised by what you found in your RSVP envelopes?
I had planned on numbering my RSVP cards and then tottaly forgot when the time came. We already received one RSVP card with no name! I agree with you Miss T, the numbering would have been worth the extra effort!