Life as a Maid of Honor

My short stint as a Maid of Honor for my sister was really amazing. I’m not going to lie, it was a ton of work, but when you’re planning your own wedding it really doesn’t seem like work and when it’s your sister…I mean, come on. There is no greater joy.

All in all, I performed the classic Maid of Honor duties. I threw her a bridal shower, I kept my phone at my side at all times for the couple of weeks preceding the wedding to put out any fires, I was her craft slave (that was rather voluntary, actually) and on the wedding day I was her stress reliever.

I did a few things I am especially proud of:

1.) I made Sister Coconut an iPhoto book (thanks for the idea, Mrs. CB) documenting all of the events leading up to the wedding. I had all the girls sign it! In the book, I also attached her bridal shower invite, the menu and the advice cards I had mailed along with the invites. I also included some of the games we played.




2.) Thanks to
Miss Peacock, I decided to buy tank tops for the girls to wear for the morning of. The girls wore pink, which matched our dresses. Sister Coconut wore white and I wore a light pink with a cute baby picture of my sister. I got some laughs.

(That’s Audrey. She was the rockstar bridesmaid. She will likely kill me for posting this.)

3.) The morning of the wedding, I got up early to prepare a nice relaxing bath for Sister Coconut. I woke her up very gently, no frightening buzzes were allowed! Didn’t she look rather happy at 9:15 in the morning?

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4.) I mentioned in a prior post the mistake I made in forgetting her rehearsal bouquet. Well for the day of, I had packed an emergency kit that included lotion, tissues, swabs, band-aids, lip gloss, a compact, etc. I also had other items like a camera, a video camera, her shoes, and perfume, and I put it all in that tote you see above. That was my go-to tote. I made sure everything was in there and that was all I needed to keep track of.

5.) For the rehearsal dinner, I made a slide show! Yes, I know everyone does this, but when you can make the quarterback of a college football team cry, you know you did good! (Anyone watch Friends? Remember Monica at her parents’ anniversary party?!?)

6.) Before I had the privilege of putting her dress on (which was the most amazing experience by the way), I made sure to lay out all of her accessories for the photographer. As a fellow bride to be, I knew that was going to be one of the pictures! I also made sure to hang her dress in a pretty spot before the photographer arrived!

(Steaming the ladies’ dresses!)


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(As you can tell by the look on my face, I was all business!)

7.) During pictures, I was an annoying tissue blotter. Being July in Florida, I didn’t want Sister Coconut with a shiny nose! I considered it my #1 duty to make sure she was looking fabulous at all times! ;) Although, look at her, it was a pretty easy job!

8.) During the reception, Sister Coconut was being the responsible bride going to all the tables to greet her guests. After five dance songs, I had to do it. I ran over, apologized to the guests and stole the bride. The song was “Shout!” and it was probably the most fun I’ve ever had at a wedding reception. The next hour was filled with non-stop dancing and it seriously made my entire night.

9.) The last thing I would say is that I had so much fun being a Maid of Honor!

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Mrs. Coconut

Location:
Tallahassee
Wedding Date:
November 2008
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    Linzerella, Guest @ 4:05 pm

    Umm … can you me MY maid of honour too? I mean, no slagging to my own MOH who is fabulous … but come ON! You sound amazing!

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    espresso 1308 posts, Bumble bee @ 4:11 pm

    Ya seriously Miss Coconut- you may need to write a book for future Maid of Honors! Your sister was so blessed to have you :)

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    Jen, Guest @ 4:20 pm

    Wow, I wish I had you as a sister and MOH! Everything looked beautiful. Is her dress a Casablanca gown?

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    skm, Guest @ 4:28 pm

    wanna be my moh? i swear i was going to post that even before the gals above me did :) You’re the best, your sister is quite lucky :)

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    Laura, Guest @ 4:29 pm

    Sounds like you were an AMAZING maid of honour!

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    Veronica, Guest @ 4:34 pm

    Wow!! I’m gonna have to make sure my bridesmaids read this entry!! :o p

    She’s so blessed to have you!

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    margarita 369 posts, Helper bee @ 4:41 pm

    wow you were an amazing moh!! :) the color of the bridesmaids dress looks gorgeous on you!

    also, can i ask you what software you used to make that slideshow? my brother is making mine and he’s kinda freaking out about how to do it.

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    misscoconut 351 posts, Helper bee @ 4:48 pm

    Hahah, thanks for all the love ladies! I’d love to be ya’lls Maid of Honor, but it’s gonna cost ya! ;)

    @Miss Margarita: I actually used PowerPoint and plugged my laptop into the flat screen, afterwards I downloaded an evaluation copy of Wondershare PPT to DVD, I’m planning on purchasing the software though, and sending copies of the DVD to family members.

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    misscoconut 351 posts, Helper bee @ 4:48 pm

    @Jen: Yes, I believe her dress was a Casablanca!

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    jasmine 1170 posts, Bumble bee @ 5:11 pm

    You were SUCH a good maid of honor! I never had a sister and I didn’t have a MOH, but now I’m wishing I did. I would have totally loved to borrow you for the day! ;)

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    greentea 765 posts, Busy bee @ 5:11 pm

    must be nice to be eachother’s MOH and planning a wedding around the same time. sharing all the ideas and knowing HOW to be a fab MOH because you’re also playing the bride role.

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    Vailbride, Guest @ 5:44 pm

    I think her dress was Casablanca 1827- that’s mine too! You did a wonderful job Miss Coconut!

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    sja, Guest @ 6:14 pm

    You are such a sweet sister! You are both so pretty!!!

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    Natakie16 997 posts, Busy bee @ 6:59 pm

    You are a great MOH! I just have to say that the BM dress color is beautiful!

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    kathy, Guest @ 9:01 pm

    Wow, that slideshow nearly got me teared up, too! Great job!

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    tiramisu 1091 posts, Bumble bee @ 11:32 pm

    Wow Miss Coconut! I especially love the slideshow- good job!

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    Shelly, Guest @ 12:26 am

    All I have to say is WOW! The posts above mine said it all already….just wanted to say you did a fantastic job in fulfulling your MOH duties, definitely above and beyond what is expected.

    I swear I’ve heard that song before…I love it…can you tell me what the artist/title is?

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    Jodi, Guest @ 9:17 am

    Not only were you an excellent MOH, you are so lucky that you had fun being MOH. I’m sure your sister appreciated it. I did not have that luxury earlier this year. I was MOH for my fiancé’s sister. If I could go back in time, I would have said “HECK NO!” to her. I wish I was exaggerating but MY MOH had to give me water pills because my blood pressure was too high during the stress of my FSIL’s wedding.

    I gave her a bridal survey to make her feel special and to make sure I knew what her desires were for her shower, bachelorette party, and her expectations of a MOH.

    I helped her with the design layout of her wedding invitations.

    When her printer kept eating her invites, I printed them for her without her offering to chip in for an ink cartridge.

    I designed and printed her map cards (again no offer for ink).

    The person who was supposed to do her programs backed out at the last minute so I did them (finally got new ink from her but she didn’t reimburse me for the stock photo that was used like she said she would).

    I designed her bridal shower invitations and bridal shower recipe cards. I did most of the shower work while her best friend/bridesmaid kept asking me “What am I doing again?” (this girl couldn’t even give me directions to her house, my UPS fiancé had to do that for me). She kept trying to push the tasks that she volunteered to do on me and when I refused, she complained to the bride that I was mean (and the bride instantly took her best friend’s side, didn’t even ask me what happened).

    I made sure that she knew she could come to me to vent or ask questions since I was engaged longer and had more time to research wedding stuff than she did.

    I would go shopping with her at Michael’s to pick up ribbon or photo mat. If her Michael’s ran out of something, I looked for the item at a Michael’s closest to where I live.

    The day of the wedding I made sure she knew to motion me or give me a sign if she wanted me to nicely escort everyone out of the room so she could have a moment alone if needed.

    I tried bustling and pampering her but her best friend kept forgetting that she wasn’t the maid of honor. She even made a speech when I had a dress malfunction and left the room (I didn’t find out until after the wedding when I saw pictures).

    Despite the things I did, I wasn’t appreciated. FH asked me why I was doing so much, especially when I agreed to do her programs after the bridal shower fiasco. After all, I was planning my own wedding (which was put on hold because I was so busy from hers) and we were house hunting. I told him “Because I love you and she’s your sister”. I shouldn’t have though. The bride would get snippy and the only thank you card I received was a generic “Thank you for your generous gift”. Not thank you for you’ve done, not thank you for the bridal shower or the bridal shower gift, thank you for designing all those projects for me, nada. Oh and when I got my MOH gift (jewelry), it wasn’t presented to me like “Thank you so much” or even put in a gift bag. It was “Here put this on”.

    All I can do is learn from the experience. I don’t mind going out of my way for someone if it’s appreciated…. which it wasn’t. I know now not to go out of my way for his sister because it is never truly appreciated, it’s like she expects it. I also know to make sure that my girls know they are appreciated (and FSIL is a bridesmaid… I asked her to be in the wedding before she got engaged). I sent them all a Thank You card a couple of weeks ago just to remind them that I do appreciate everything they do and it means a lot for them to be a part of our special day.

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    Jodi, Guest @ 9:18 am

    @Jodi:

    Crap, that was long! Sorry!

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    Emily, Guest @ 12:48 pm

    The song is “This Year’s Love” by David Gray.

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    Steph, Guest @ 1:46 pm

    Can you tell me if that dress is white or ivory? I have the same dress and I love it!!

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    misscoconut 351 posts, Helper bee @ 1:54 pm

    @Steph: The dress is ivory, but it’s a lighter ivory. My dress is ivory and it looks considerably darker than hers, so I think it just depends on the designer!

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    weddingspeechhelp, Guest @ 3:01 pm

    Hey great blog, we all hear about the stresses of being a maid of honor. It’s nice to see how much fun it can be too! And nice slideshow, it was really touching, and put me on the verge of tears. I’m really glad that your sister found happiness!

    I’m curious though, did you have to give a speech, I hear more and more MOH’s are giving speeches. Which I can bet can be frightening. Statistics show that most people fear public speaking more than death! So if you have to give a speech and are nervous, I found a great site, Maid of Honor Speech Help that offers NLP advice for using your mind to overcome your fear of public speaking.

    Again great blog post, I really enjoyed it!

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    weddingspeechhelp, Guest @ 3:02 pm

    Hey great blog, we all hear about the stresses of being a maid of honor. It’s nice to see how much fun it can be too! And nice slideshow, it was really touching, and put me on the verge of tears. I’m really glad that your sister found happiness!

    I’m curious though, did you have to give a speech, I hear more and more MOH’s are giving speeches. Which I can bet can be frightening. Statistics show that most people fear public speaking more than death! So if you have to give a speech and are nervous, I found a great site, Maid of Honor Speech Help that offers NLP advice for using your mind to overcome your fear of public speaking.

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    weddingspeechhelp, Guest @ 3:04 pm

    @weddingspeechhelp: Sorry for posting twice! my computer was glitching so I pressed the button twice!

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