Admitting Defeat
July 18th, 2008 @ 11:01 am by Mrs. Sundae
Well, I’ve done it. I’ve admitted wedding planning defeat. (Yes, I am being a little dramatic) I sent the most pathetic email to our day of coordinator yesterday, swallowing my pride and confessing that I can’t make it through the next two months without her help. It takes a lot for me to admit I can’t handle something myself but with the last few weeks of rehearsal venue changes, broken contracts, bands who can’t keep it together, and all around unresponsiveness from vendors I am going to (I’ll say this as delicately as possible) lose my sh*t.
Vendors - 1 Miss Sundae - 0
Our coordinator is so affordable and truly so wonderful, this was a no brainer for me. I make her copies of all our contracts and hand it all over. She’ll take care of confirming with everyone, setting up a schedule for the day, telling the vendors when they need to be set up, making sure they are where they’re supposed to be, etc. I feel like there actually is a price for peace of mind, and I wrote a check for it this morning.
Sigh.
I do have to admit though, I feel like I am in this twisted game of Mercy and I just cried “UNCLE” at the top of my lungs. As we get closer and closer to September, I just want to be able to enjoy what’s left of the planning process. I really do love all the little details and the planning itself was smooth sailing until this past month. But from here on out I want to relish in dress fittings and picking out ceremony music; not making sure everyone fulfills their part of contracts and shows up on time. I feel like passing off some of the mundane details will take some of the weight off my shoulders and truly allow me to enjoy the rest of this experience. I feel better already.
So my advice to you, lovely hive, is don’t be afraid to ask for help! I think a lot of us head into this process thinking we can handle everything ourselves, and while we absolutely can, it doesn’t mean that we have to. There are friends, family members, and outrageously talented wedding coordinators out there to lend a hand. There will inevitably be stress, but I like to think the planning process should still be something we enjoy at the end of the day. In the stress of it all it’s easy to lose sight of what all this is about, so before that happens ask for help!
((Slowly stepping down off soapbox))
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8 Responses to “Admitting Defeat”
thank you. this is an excellent reminder… i’m also a september bride and things are really starting to happen. we’ll see how it goes after the walkthrough next week.
[fingers crossed]
Gosh, I am so proud of you Miss Sundae! I know that as an A type personality myself that sometimes letting go is impossible!
But with all of stress of everythign that is going to go on, on your wedding day - that having someone to handle the details so that you can enjoy your day, is huge!
I’d give you a big hug and a pat on the back if I was closer! 
Cool wedding planners pretty much rock! I see a huge difference at the weddings I shoot that are coordinated, versus the bride who is running around trying to get all the details finished.
I’m a late august bride and just confirmed the rate with my DOC this week! Whoo Hoo!!!
Miss Sundae! I know that this is a stretch, but I live in Milwaukee and have been searching for black and white damask fabric and stumbled upon your post about the fabric. Do you think that you would be willing to sell your table runners to me after your wedding? I would be interested in them if they were made for rectangle tables. You can email me at: brwneyedgurl22@hotmail.com
Thanks!
you can only have more peace from here. good move.
Miss Sundae - 1st - Congrats on ylour upcoming big day! and 2nd - I NEED YOU!!! I am trying to plan a Aug. 2009 wedding at Lake Geneva (The Riviera) from Dallas! It has been a lot more difficult than I thought it would be and I just started! I have just spent the last 2 hours reading your blogs! I LOVE THEM! Would you be willing to share some of the specific vendors you have used and your thoughts? My e-mail is sta_mellgren@yahoo.com! I am most interested in your ceremony location, who is officiating, cake information (I think it is in a blog),your do’s and don’t (or who you have tried and it just didn’t work out!) just to get started! I know you are busy and appreciate your time! Stacey
Mrs. Sundae, Chicago/Lake Geneva, WI
Age and Occupation: 28, Knowledge Manager
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 29, Investment Advisor
Engagement Date: July 20, 2007
Wedding Date: September 2008
Blogging Since: February 5, 2008
Venue: The Abbey Resort
About Me: It’s hard to believe that by the time Mr. Sundae and I get married we will have been together for almost ten years. When we first met in college we split dollar pitchers and now we share the mortgage payments. Despite our love for the city we are looking forward to tying the knot in Lake Geneva, Wisconsin.
Thanks for sharing! I’m coming to this realization as well.