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An unexpected challenge we faced was determining how to word our wedding invites. Mr. PN and I spent a lot of time deciding exactly how to word our invites and corresponding stationery. I was leaning toward something a little more whimsical…
As autumn leaves
turn their brilliant hue
two lovers will join and say I do
Mr. PN, on the other hand, wanted it a lot more traditional…
Mr. & Mrs. Pinot Noir
request the honor of your presence
at the marriage of
There are many options on how to word your invites depending on your unique situation…
Since my parents, Mr. PN’s mom, Mr. PN’s dad, and Mr. PN and I are all paying for parts of the wedding, we also had a challenge on choosing the wording. In addition, Mr. PN’s parents are both remarried. In order to include everyone in the invitation it would have had to look something like this:
Mr. and Mrs. Bride’s Parents
Mr. Groom’s Stepdad and Mrs. Groom’s Mom
and
Mr. Groom’s Dad and Mrs. Groom’s Stepmom
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of their children
Miss Pinot Noir
and
Mr. Pinot Noir…
Wow! That’s a mouthful! I don’t think that would have even fit on our invitation! So, in the end we went with something simple:
Together with their parents
Miss Pinot Noir
and
Mr. Pinot Noir
Invite you to share in the celebration
of their marriage
on Sunday, the first day of January
two thousand and eight
at eleven o’clock in the morning
Auberge du Soleil
Napa, California
Luncheon Reception
immediately following the ceremony
We also wrote our own text for the RSVP postcards and info cards:
RSVP Postcard
The favor of your reply is
requested by August 1st
_________________
name(s)
___ Accepts with Pleasure
___ Declines with Regret
We are arranging for safe transport to and from the
ceremony and reception, are you interested?
____ YES ____ NO
Information Card
Side A
A block of rooms has been reserved at:
Hotel
Address
Website
Telephone
Group Code:
For more information visit our
wedding website at:
http://www.pinotnoirweddingwebsite.com
Side B
Airports
San Francisco Airport (SFO)
15 Miles to Hotel
Oakland Airport (OAK)
20 Miles to Hotel
San Jose Airport (SJC)
45 miles to Hotel
Local Transportation
A coach bus is available to transport guests between the hotel in San Francisco and the ceremony and reception at Auberge du Soleil in Napa Valley (60 miles). If you are interested in this transportation option please indicate your preference on your RSVP Card.
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Did you have trouble choosing how to word your invites or RSVP cards? Did you lean traditional or whimsical?
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Our folks are paying for the wedding and my folks are divorced and remarried, and everyone wanted to be named on the invite so we went with:
Together with their parents
Brides Dad + Stepmom
Brides Mom + Stepdad
Grooms Mom+Dad
Bride and Groom
invite you to celebrate their wedding
Date
Time
Location
I’m glad someone addressed this issue, because my FH and I are hosting our own wedding. I’ve been mulling over how that’s going to look on invitations (which I am getting ready to make, eek!) and this was totally helpful. Also, our invites are going to be in English and Nepali (which is written in the Devanagari script from India), my fiance’s mother-tongue. I think its going to be really beautiful!
Is anyone else doing bilingual invites? If so, are you having each language on a different side or mixing them? Ideas would be great on that and on creative or nice invite wordings.
Our invitation would have had to include two remarried parents on my side and two divorced but not remarried parents on his side if we’d gone that route…
We went with ‘together with our families…’ Bride and Groom ‘invite you to join us at the celebration of our marriage’ then for evening guests the even less formal ‘invite you to join us for cake, drinks and dancing to celebrate our marriage’
I think… it’s not definitely finalised yet!
OMG do I ever! We havent started on our invites because we are 14 months away. BUT my FH and I are paying for 75% of the wedding yet his mother and step dad are helping and so are my parents. His biological dad ask about the wedding with his wife but as soon as money is mentioned he changes the subject. He did offer once to “give a little” BUT he never mentioned it again. So like I told my FH that if he really wanted to help and really cared then he would be very persistant in asking and would be more involved but since he is not that shows he doesnt want to help.
We wanted to include our parents but because all parties are helping with cost we wanted them all to be equal. Groom’s parents are divorced and remarried so in order to keep it simple we did “daughter of” and “son of”. We felt this was the best solution:
Please share our joy
at the wedding of
Bride
Daughter of Mr. Bride’s Father and Mrs. Bride’s Mother
&
Groom
Son of Mr. Groom’s Father and Mrs. Groom’s Mother
We went a little less traditional…here’s ours:
Years ago when we were young our hearts were brought together as one.
Now and forever, partners in life under trees swaying, we will be husband and wife.
Bride
and
Groom
look forward to sharing with you the vineyards, the sunset and the memories of our wedding ceremony.
Friday, the eighth of August Two-thousand and eight
At six o’clock in the evening
Falkner Winery
Temecula, California
Dinner reception immediately following
We used “together with their parents” even though we paid for the whole thing ourselves. Anarchy!
We also used “Together with their families.” My mom and dad are divorced, and then my mom and step- dad are divorced, but they’re all helping out, in addition to me and mr. espresso so- that was definitely the easiest route to go 
We went with :
“Ms. Trebuchet
&
Mr. Trebuchet
have chosen the first day of the rest of their lives together to be
October X, 2008
Please join in their celebration
at ten in the morning
at X Location
Reception to Follow
X Restaurant”
We’re paying for the bulk of it, with my parents putting a little in. They knew we were going in a more untraditional direction with the wedding, and my parents wanted to contribute but didn’t want to get flack from the rest of my family for not pushing us with the wallet towards something more traditional. We plan on honoring both families at the reception.
I guess we went whimsical:
Come celebrate with us!
_______ and _______ are getting hitched
on Saturday October 11, 2008
at 3 o’clock in the afternoon
Join in the festivities at _______ Winery
(Winery’s address)
Adult Reception with cocktail hour, dinner
& dancing to immediately follow
We are paying for about 60% of the wedding ourselves - the rest coming from our parents and money raised from a stag and doe. But like Trebuchet, we are untraditional, so our parents were prepared that we didn’t want the “traditional” wording. They are fine with it!
like others above, we’re footing the bill for most of it, but are getting a little help from various parents. rather than require a map to the myriad relationships, we went with a simpler design. ours ended up somewhat traditional with a touch of the whimsical:
_______ & ____________
Together with their parents , invite you to celebrate their wedding
Saturday, September __, 2008 at 4:45 in the afternoon
[location info]
Food & merriment to follow
Our situation is a little different, I guess. Since Mr.GV and I are both around 30 but still struggling financially, we wanted to both acknowledge my parents’ paying for the wedding but also maintain our independence by not being “presented” in third-person by my parents; rather, we wanted it to feel like a less formal invitation that they signed at the bottom. The situation is also sensitive because Mr.GV and his family are estranged, so although tradition would dictate that my parents’ names would be on it and not his, it still felt awkward to draw attention to it *just* being my parents at the top of the invitation.
So ours:
Please celebrate with us as
GV & Mr.GV
are joined in marriage
[details]
Mom & Dad GV [not full names, just the shortened versions]
I’m struggling with this issue myself. I prefer the traditional wording, but it implies my parents are paying for the wedding when FI and I are actually footing the bill. I want to honor our parents, but I don’t want them getting the credit for a wedding that FI and I paid for. It’s complicated by the fact that both FI and I are preacher’s kids, so we have two congregations expecting the traditional wording. *sigh*
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Mrs. Pinot Noir, New York/Napa Valley
Age and Occupation: 24, Health Educator
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 31, Market Researcher
Engagement Date: November 10, 2007
Wedding Date: October, 2008
Blogging Since: June 25, 2008
Venue: Auberge du Soleil
About Me: I am a Minnesota raised, NYC transplant planning a destination wedding in Napa. I'm balancing my love for the environment and my hubby-to-be's love for tradition to create our "green wedding in disguise." Our wedding will include local food and wine, antique touches and lots of love and laughter. When wedding planning isn't taking up my free time (and money) I love to read, cook, workout, watch baseball and travel! Follow along in my adventure as I attempt to plan an eco-friendly and socially responsible wedding (with eco-oblivious Mr. Pinot Noir).
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