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Ever since I moved back to Colorado from DC to be with Mr. Cookie, we have engaged in premarital cohabitation. And for us Cookies, it has been the best testament to the glue of our relationship yet! 
The transition of moving in and possession blending was pretty painless. I had lived a nomadic lifestyle up until that point — all I came with were my clothes and books. Mr. Cookie provided the house, dog, and furniture. We settled into domesticity quickly – divvying up the chores and setting a routine. And just as we were getting comfortable, the little quirks started to emerge.
I would say, but Mr. Cookie will deny it, that it all started with once-used tissues lying around the house. (The similarities between Harry leaving used teabags around the house when he moved in with Charlotte and we Cookies are strikingly eerie!) I found this habit of Mr. Cookie absolutely disgusting, and when pointed out Mr. Cookie didn’t even realize he was doing it. This behavior stopped for a while, but then the once-used tissue began appearing again…
…But before I go any further, Mr. Cookie was dealing with my own little set of peccadillos — particularly me biting my nails and disposing of them on the carpet. (I know completely gross!) When Mr. Cookie pointed it out to me, I was in the midst of nail on carpet toss, I immediately recognized my action and rummaged around our beige carpet to find said nail and properly dispose of it in trash can. Subsequently, I tried to stop, but the habit was instinctual.
The laundry list of our disgustingly gross habits does not end here, but I will spare you bees the details. And for a while the lack of our ability to break our own disgusting habits was crawling under both of our skins, but then the end all be all happened… I won’t disclaim who broke the air with the fart, but nothing is more disgusting and funnier than your partner’s flatulence. After that moment, Mr. Cookie and I made a truce, to be wary of our gross quirks for the sake of our domestic bliss!
They say it’s the little things that you love about your partner, but what disgusting and nasty habit of your partner’s just crawls under your skin?
My FH bites his nails. I’m mostly worried, because that means he’s nervous about something (no surprise though! he’s finishing up his dissertation this month!!). The annoyance, though, is that it leaves his fingertips seriously mangled - to the point where it hurts my skin when his nails brush across from a given angle. I told him if he doesn’t stop (he does -want- to stop), I’m starting him on a manicure regime! Believe me, hang-nails hurt like hell in “sensitive” spots!
Oooh… it was best when they start using the bathroom with the door open.
hahaha - I so love that you are willing to put that all out there!
The straw that broke the annoying habit camels back in our house was that he always leaves the shampoo container upside down. And since he always showers first - the shampoo gushes all over me. I pointed it out in a FRAZZLED RAGE b/c I just could not take it anymore! And he said “It never gushes on me.” I lost it. “of course is doesn’t! I put the bottle back UPRIGHT!!!” I seethed…. and then…HE LAUGHED! I was about to KILL him right then and there…. and then I laughed a little… and got more mad…. and then started laughing ALOT to the point that we were crying we were laughing so hard. Once we could breathe again - we talked about all the things that annoyed each other. Its still an active thought to not do some of the things - and we aren’t perfect, but we are working on it and we both know it.
We are not living together until we get married, but your post definitely prepped me a bit to expect some quirks. I also appreciate your honesty in putting it all out there:)
I agree with Cindy! Mr. Margs has been lobbying for those privileges but I haven’t given in yet. I’d say his worst habit is that he leaves piles of dirty clothes EVERYWHERE!
Miss Margarita~
Hold your ground! It won’t kill him nor does it take up time to kick the bathroom door shut before they go about their business. Don’t give in!
My husband doesn’t put cups away. I can always expect to come home numerous glasses or tumblers (sometimes still half full!) just abandoned on all sorts of surfaces in our home. Why it is so hard to walk your used glass in the kitchen is beyond me. The boy doesn’t even have to wash them! Just having them land on the counter in the kitchen would send me over the moon!
oh the used tissues! I could kill him for how many times a day I find tissues lodged everywhere (and I mean EVERYWHERE) around the house. I mean, ick!
the tissues are EVERYWHERE!!! I am so sick of picking up tissues that haven’t made it to the trash. Why tissues, guys? I dont get it.
Socks. My FI will lay on the couch and pull his socks off and just toss them where ever. At any given moment there are usually 3-5 socks laying around the couch, tucking into couch cushions, under the Lay-Z-Boy… it’s sick. And after 3 years of living together, it hasn’t stopped, so I just pick them up and get on with my life 
There are worse things that could happen.
No tissue problem in our house. My pet peeve is when he put non-dishes in the sink with the regular dishes (like a paper napkin or a chicken bone). I wash the dishes so I end up picking out all the pieces of wet napkin. GROSS!!
hahahaha… I am both of you guys, tissues and nails, although I clip rather than chew my nails before letting them fall to the floor. my husband is very tolerant, though certainly he has his own set of annoying befuddling behaviours.
I’m just cracking up here that I do the bad habits of both of you!
I do live with my FH - CRUMBS and DIRTY FEET! I know I have issues, not too many though (one or two) but how does one leave crumbs EVERYWHERE? And he loves to walk barefoot, which is fine but, we really should wash our feet before we get into bed. I’m working on his issues though. We’ll get it right before the wedding!
Aggie - I totally agree about washing feet before going to bed. I have always been a pre-bed shower kind of gal, so it still bugs me a bit that DH hops into the sheets without showering!
That being said, we both have plenty of faults. Mine include clutter (I like to leave things lying around on the table and counter tops) and his include not being tidy/clean enough (he waits until he literally has no more boxers to do laundry and he’s got at least 3 weeks worth). But you know what? worth every little raised eyebrow and tension filled evening. After all, who else’s dirty laundry would I rather be staring at than my DH’s?
I deal with the tissues also (could this be a genetic thing) but what really gets my goat is leaving the clothes he wears each day to work on the back of a chair in the kitchen (why men must immediately disrobe upon entering the home is still a mystery). So on Friday, there are 5 outfits on the back of the chair. I’ve tried getting mad, getting sad, and getting even, but nothing works. 
Yikes…I have a bunch of the bad habits you’re all talking about here! Fortunately, FI and I are pretty well matched in our bad habits, so we don’t drive each other too crazy
I loved this post! I truly think that the moving in phase is the true testimate of the relationship. that’s when all the dirty secrets/bad habits come out of the woodwork!
I’ve got my messy vs. his dirty, the dirty socks, the piles of laundry, and the many strewn about partially full cups….and although I may gripe sometimes, I wouldn’t trade him for anything.
Oh, and he never leaves the seat up! that trumps everything else. To those of you who have ever encountered the raised toilet seat while half asleep…you know what I’m talking about!
@Miss Pinot Noir: my husband does that too!
I forgive him a lot of things, though, not just because he overlooks my disgusting habits, but because he does all of the laundry.
Oh the farting, the farting! Sometimes it’s funny, but most of the time, it’s just gross!
@Miss Pinot Noir: mine does that too, with the napkins and such! Drives me up the wall.
Ha! My FI leaves his dirty underwear BESIDE the hamper and leaves used q-tips all over the place.
Buuutttt…I let the bathroom trashcan over flow and leave the kitchen trash next to the door ’cause I’m too lazy to take it outside.
We both fart.
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Mrs. Cookie, Denver Age and Occupation: 25, Nonprofit Fundraiser/Theatre Designer Fiance's Age and Occupation: 27, Financial Analyst Engagement Date: September 2007 Wedding Date: September 2008 Blogging Since: May 8, 2008 Venue: Ten Mile Station About Me: With a degree in Theatre I never realized that planning a wedding was a lot like Theatre Management, until I started planning my own. I am a coffee addict, especially Starbucks' Grande Mochas, yummy! I love to cook (especially chocolate chip cookies for my honey), travel to exotic places, and be creative. As a couple, Mr. Cookie and I are extremely practical, down to earth, and children at heart. We live in a cozy abode with our adorable Pomeranian, and love to play board games and watch movies into the evening.
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