Hi, My Name is Mrs. GB and I’m an Addict.
August 7th, 2008 @ 4:00 pm by Mrs. Gummi Bear
I’ve been trying to ignore it, but it’s impossible.
I knew this would happen…. I’m obsessed with wedding planning.
Admittedly, I was the one who adamantly did NOT want to have a wedding, being forced to have an intervention from Mr. GB and my mother about how I HAD to have one or I’d regret it… I knew why. Because if I let myself start looking, I’d never be able to let go. I can’t stop myself from staring at wedding websites, blogs, photographer links, beautiful designs and thinking how I could integrate that into a gorgeous wedding. Dreaming up DIY projects and thinking up themes that are different and interesting only to look down at my left hand and think “dammit, I’m already married. $(#)!@#!!”
I do have a friend who is getting married next year and doesn’t want to plan it, so I’m getting my planning fix vicariously through her… but after that? All my friends are married or not getting married in the near future. Where will I get my next fix? I need a wedding-dealer, I imagine some shady alley where a couple passes me an envelope of cash for me to call vendors and send them swatches.
It’s been nearly 10 months since our wedding; I thought I’d be over it, discarding this obsession for a new one. I was wrong. I’m this close to divorcing Mr. GB so we can get re-engaged and I can plan another wedding. Although I imagine people wouldn’t come to our second wedding, because it would be obvious I’m mentally unstable. I’m trying to keep that under wraps, you know.
What are other people doing to fulfill their obsession after their wedding?
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26 Responses to “Hi, My Name is Mrs. GB and I’m an Addict.”
I don’t know what I am gonna do when that day comes! My friend who recently got married brought her cd of her wedding songs over to our friends house, she put it on and danced to every single song. She relived her moments sang all the songs and even pulled out the roger rabbit and running man like she did at her reception. I looked on thinking damn I hope that doesn’t happen to me but it probably will, but hey whatever helps her need for her wedding fix!
I’ve gotten really into cooking and food. I forced myself to unsubscribe from all wedding blogs except WB and Manolo for the Brides. But right now, during the summer…it’s hard to not think about weddings. I’ve even caught myself looking at wedding dresses.
You could change professions and become a wedding planner =)
Mr. Cookie has posed this question several times, “What are you going to focus on once the weddings is over?” I think he is afraid that my wedding obsession is going to turn into baby obsession, but I told him it will turn into nesting obsession (ie decorating our house). NO BABIES, just yet 
I have a friend who’s getting married next year. I share all of my vendor info and ideas with her, but I pull back a lot because I don’t want to become that crazy, overbearing, thunder-stealing bridesmaid. I’m still sending out thank you cards, and trying to put together our album because our pix are still on c.d.’s so I have a few wedding-related projects to work on, but it’s not the same. I’m still lurking around weddingbee, and I secretly eyed a bridal magazine while going down the magazine aisle at the grocery store with my husband the other day (secretly because if he knew he would give me THE craziest look…like, DAMN, you had your wedding already!)
I guess I need a little help too Mrs. GB!
@Becky: I’m out of people to plan on getting married! Time to make some young friends….
@Vic004: the odd thing is, I love remembering my wedding day, but it’s the planning that gets me all excited!!!
@kleverkira: I’m glad it’s not just me, I look at dresses still too!
@Jen: It’s not an easy business to get into, but… but… [insert starry eyed look here]
@mlindsey: you’re better than I am, I still BUY MS Weddings!
@Miss Cookie: I thought I’d get into decorating the house, and I am, but it hasn’t ramped up any! Nothing can replace wedding madness in my heart… and brain.
LOL I posed the same question on the NWR boards a while ago. You know what helped me? I started doing inspiration boards for made up weddings. It was a fun way to keep looking at all the stuff I enjoyed, and I like to think of it as a lazy-woman’s scrapbooking. 
See I say become a wedding planner/coordinator if you are still coming up with ideas why not share them with others and make money at the same time. I am sure that is how many planners get into the business.
You can plan dinner parties… and some of these married folks are bound to start having babies at some point, so you could always volunteer to plan the baby shower. Planning my sister’s baby shower was soooo much more fun than her bridal shower. Everything is WAY cuter.
I plan to have lots of sit-down dinner parties with table/meal themes and everything.
I still peruse wedding blogs, wedding sites, bride’s blogs- all of it! You should see my Reader! I love being surrounded by wedding stuff and really missed it all when mine was over (luckily my sister was married a few months after me…). I’d love to get into the business of it but for now will be content with attending weddings with my husband as the photographers.
I am still planning but I am afraid that once it is over i will still be subscribed to ALL of the wedding blogs. What am I going to do? I seriously hope you guys find the answer before July of 09′ lol
I went through the same issues as soon as our wedding day was in the books last year. I decided that instead of fighting it I should embrace it, and started a wedding related side business. It’s a dream come true because I have always wanted to be a business owner & I found something I truly love.
Plus, wedding magazines are now “research”! I have more wedding blogs in my reader now than when I got married. HA!
You might want to pursue your passion and see how you like it.
I am also having wedding withdrawal…BIGTIME! I mean where is the bridal methadone? And it seems like when I express this sentiment to people they think I am a bad wife…like obsessed with the wedding and ignoring the marriage. That is not it at all! I LOVE being married I just also loved getting married. I don’t think the two are mutually exclusive. Any other ladies being accused of having their priorities mixed up because you miss planning?
I am hoping my love of all things wedding will start to subside soon. I need to move on with my life! I just can’t…yet.
“imagine some shady alley where a couple passes me an envelope of cash for me to call vendors and send them swatches.” LOL!
@MrsSpitzer: I keep my w/d symptoms to myself, so I haven’t had any accusations flying at me about my priorities. I’m too ashamed to come into the light! It’s crazy because it feels like I’m harboring some dirty, little secret….
Get pregnant. You’ll be amazed how quickly weddings become less-than-exciting. (And suddenly there’s a whole NEW world of papergoods, apparel, and decor … new stuff to be researched … detailed plans to be made … the whole 9 yards!)
you should be a wedding planner ms. gb… your wedding was so amazing and fantastic… anyone would want your creative juices planning their wedding!
I’ve been a weddingbee fan for a long time now, and you are one of my *favorites*! It’s so funny how reading about everyones lives makes all the bees almost like a celebrity of sorts! Anyway, where I am going with this….I have every intention of beeing a bee when I can, but if you lived close I’d LOVE for you to help with my wedding…..alas. I am in Illinois. 
I’ve been having the same issue. I have my husband talk me out of buying the new Martha Stewart Weddings every month. It actually brings tears to my eyes when I find something I would have wanted to do at my wedding. I’m not happy with a few aspects of our wedding, so I think I’m more inclined to pine away about how I *wish* it all went. I’ve been trying to let go, but it seems near impossible. You don’t plan something for a year and a half to just forget about it in a day!
Mrs Gummi Bear I feel your pain. I’ve only been married for a little over a month and already have the sadness of not calling up vendors or looking for the latest trends in wedding. Sigh…
I still love watching all the wedding shows to get my fix for now.
Ha ha… I’m seriously hoping some of my friends and relatives start getting engaged soon after our wedding!
It’s so great to find that this is a popular occurrence. I thought I was an odd one or something. Phew! What a relief to know I’m not alone on this boat!
Anyway, I decided shortly after my wedding that I did want to become a wedding/event planner. I am well aware and well-informed that helping someone else plan THEIR wedding the way THEY want it is very different from planning your own, but I love the idea of being able to help others with their projects and wants and still be immersed in this incredible industry!! Anyway, thanks for sharing this!!
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Mrs. Gummi Bear, San Francisco
Age and Occupation: 25, Japanese Importer/Illustrator
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 24, Game Developer/Programmer
Engagement Date: April 15, 2006
Wedding Date: October 13, 2007
Blogging Since: June 19, 2007
Venue: Organic farm an hour from San Francisco
About Me: I live for anthropologie, design blogs, sweets, japanese zakka, and vintage goods. We just bought our first home together and live with our two puppies and cat - it's a strange mixture of vintage, high-tech (we have 7 computers and 21 video game systems in all), and a whole lot of fur. Our wedding tries to embody the Japanese idea of "slow life", which is truly taking the time to enjoy food, company, and your environment!
Well, for one thing I have kept right on reading weddingbee!
Oh, and I posted about my wedding on my own blog, with tons of pictures, but now that I am almost done with that, I’m actually a little sad to have it all out there. All that’s left now is to finish designing my blurb book & then there’s nothing left to hang on to. 
I’ll have to have one of my sisters get engaged….
Becky