The Packet.


Edit: Thanks for the enthusiastic response! As promised, here is a sample of our wedding weekend packet, tailored just for the hive!

Daffodil’s Wedding Weekend Packet Template

I wanted to add that after my original post, several people who had helped out with our wedding called me to let me know that, indeed, the packet had been extremely helpful and was really key to our uber smooth wedding day…which made me super happy to hear of course! And above is a pic to prove it! So hopefully, this (or something similar) will come in handy on your wedding day too!

Thanks for your patience as I made all the edits. Happy planning!

It became a bit of a running joke among all involved in helping out on our wedding day. I admit maybe it was a bit over the top, but for a J-personality type* like me, but hey, it was as much for my own sanity as it was for helping everyone else know where to be and when. That’s right- I created a 15-page “Wedding Weekend Packet” for all involved! It took me probably a full three days straight (with little sleep) to really get everything right, but I did it and sent it out to everyone about four days before the wedding!

Now what could possibly take up 15 pages you ask? Here’s a glimpse into my pride and joy…


We began with a cover letter introducing the packet to our friends and family. The contents were as follows:

  • Logistics overview
  • Overview of weekend events
  • Detailed wedding day schedule
  • Map, directions, and travel
  • Contact list
  • Description of roles

The Logistics Overview. A list of key wedding day contacts (aka people to call if you have absolutely no clue what is going on), key locations and their addresses, and a list of the key events taking place over the course of the week.


Overview of Weekend Events. A three-page list of all the key events taking place over the next few days, including a pre-wedding family celebration dinner, our rehearsal, our rehearsal dinner, and more, all the way through to our afterparty. Under each event, I provided the date and time, location, point person(s) to contact, who was required to attend, and a brief description of the event.

Detailed Wedding Day Schedule. This was probably what may have been a little overwhelming for some at first, but I sincerely believe it was the reason why our wedding day went so incredibly smoothly! It was a two-page schedule listing the main activities, underneath which we broke out specific activities by 15-minute increments. It listed each activity next to the time and the parties involved. Here’s a glimpse…


Map, Directions, and Travel. Pretty self-explanatory. This was a two-page section that included a map of LA (which I created using Wedding Mapper and then just taking a screen-shot of the image), directions from the airport to the hotel, hotel to the church, church to the rehearsal dinner site, and the church to the reception site. We also included travel tips for our out-of-town guests, including travel options and approximate rates.


Contact List. A full contact list of about 50 people, including their names, phone numbers, emails, and role of each person involved in helping out with the wedding.

Description of Roles. This section was five pages long, the longest section. It was for a good reason though, as we detailed out the specific responsibilities of different people involved, preempting any last minute wedding day confusion. We included what activities they needed to be present for, what time to arrive, and what they were on point for. Of course, people didn’t have to read all five pages – All they had to do was jump to their section (i.e. bridesmaids, or scripture readers, or attendants, etc.). Again, another key reason why our wedding day ran so smoothly! A huge thanks to Mr. D for helping me with this section and with the contact list…This seriously took me forever.


That about sums up “The Packet”! I wanted to post up the template, but it has way too much personal information in there right now, with names and phone numbers of people everywhere.

But yeah, this was what we sent to our friends and families (vendors got something different, which I will share in a future post!). You wouldn’t believe how much crap I got from some people smiley402, ranging from our friends jokingly saying every time “Well, let me refer to my 15-page wedding packet…” all the way to some adults (who will remain nameless) saying “What a waste of time…who would ever read 15 pages!”

In the end, I do hope everyone appreciated it! But if nothing else, going through the process of creating this at least gave me peace of mind, allowing me to relax and enjoy my own wedding day…which was reason enough for me! smiley101

*I am referring to the Myers-Briggs personality types. A “J” personality tends to approach the world with a plan, prefers to be organized and prepared, and has a tendency toward closure and completion (as opposed to taking a more adaptive go-with-the-flow approach). If you get a strange sense of joy in crossing items off your to-do lists, creating itineraries and schedules, etc., you are probably a “J” personality type too smiley302.


Mrs. Daffodil

Los Angeles
Wedding Date:
May 2015
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    Crystal, Guest @ 3:41 pm

    I would love a copy of the entire packet. could you please send me a copy at I would appreciate it very much

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    Christopher Russell, Guest @ 5:05 pm

    I would like a copy. Could you please email me at

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    Anne, Guest @ 9:34 am

    I think this is a great idea! I don’t think it’s over the top at all. Everyone needs to be organized, especially on a wedding day!

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    Jessica R, Guest @ 10:22 am

    I would LOVE a copy so that my day can be as successful as yours!

    Thank you!

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    Amber, Guest @ 11:01 am

    I too would love a copy.

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    Miss to Mrs, Guest @ 12:58 pm

    Love the timeline! I need it! Can you please email a copy to me?

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    Maria, Guest @ 8:46 am

    I would love a copy of the timeline!! Please email it to me, if possible!! :)

    Thanks soooo much!!

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    Kelly, Guest @ 6:45 am

    Love this. I need to be organized and know what’s going on. (I have never been to a wedding…I’ll be the first of my friends to get married…so I’m a little clueless) could you please send me a copy!? I’d appreciate it so much!
    Thanks :)

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    Jackie O, Guest @ 5:07 pm

    Please send a copy!

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    Brittany, Guest @ 8:28 pm

    Please send me a copy. This is wonderful!

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    Mesha84 0 posts, Wannabee @ 7:10 am

    I would love a copy please! Thanks so much!

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    Patrice S, Guest @ 7:52 am

    Please send me a copy! This is amazing!!!

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    Brittany, Guest @ 8:58 pm

    Could you please send this template to me?
    It’s be greatly appreciated!!!!

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    Megan H., Guest @ 12:18 pm

    Holy Cow! This is amazing! I have been wanting to create something exactly like this but I have never developed a full brief for something before so I was completely overwhelmed with what to include and how to organize it – this is absolutely perfect!

    Thank you so much for sharing your creation and allowing other people to use it! My personality is much like yours and even though I will probably get teased for giving out something so detailed I don’t care! This will be a huge help in communicating information so everyone will know what to expect =)

    Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!

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    Kirsty Law, Guest @ 8:36 am

    I’m getting married 5/30 and would love a copy!! Thank you!!

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    Penny, Guest @ 6:36 pm

    This was heaven sent! Thank A MILLION for sharing this!

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    Deborah, Guest @ 7:44 pm

    This is fantastic! I was thinking about making a wedding packet, but didn’t know where to start this is definitely helpful! Could you send this to me?
    Thank you!!

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    Erica Green, Guest @ 9:08 am

    I would love a copy!

    Thank you so much in advance! You are a life saver!

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    rlpedi28 0 posts, Wannabee @ 8:58 am

    If there’s anyway AT ALL you would be willing to send me a template I would be eternally grateful!!! My email is

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    parielafrance22 0 posts, Wannabee @ 7:06 pm

    Can you PLEASE send me a copy! This is a wonderful idea to keep everything together.

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    brdck7 4 posts, Wannabee @ 4:23 pm

    I would LOVE to have a copy of the template as well! My email address is I’d so appreciate it! :)

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    mslisa8592 0 posts, Wannabee @ 6:14 pm

    Could really use this. Please please share I would really appreciate it!

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    vava 0 posts, Wannabee @ 1:23 pm

    Can i have a copy please?It will be really useful to my sister wedding. Thank you

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    frugalbride2be 0 posts, Wannabee @ 4:04 pm

    If possible, can you please email a copy to

    Thank You

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    gabtorre 0 posts, Wannabee @ 4:04 pm

    I would love a copy of this!

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    aimee16 0 posts, Wannabee @ 6:38 am

    would you please send me a copy? this would be a life saver!!!

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