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Sometimes, when it’s almost midnight, and you still have twelve more hand sewn felted birds to make, dark little niggling thoughts can creep into your brain. Thoughts like,
“are these birds really and truly cute? are people just trying to humour me? will placing these birds in our twig and flower centrepieces be way over-the-top…are my little feathered friends…TACKY?”
So it was very fortunate when, after adjusting the umpteenth tiny pink wing, I scrolled down on the Offbeat Bride to read this article.
Conclusion?
Our wedding is SO TACKY. And your wedding, sweetheart? It’s completely tacky too!
The author (Ariel, I believe, correct me if I’m wrong) makes this brilliant point - you can never ever please everyone “because you see, “tacky” is in the eye of the beholder and there is always, always going to be someone who sees things differently than you.”
That right there, folks, is the single most useful piece of advice for planning a wedding that I have EVER heard. Now that you have the power, please pass it on! 
What “tacky” things are you doing/including in your wedding?
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Cash bar - the tackiest of tacky. 
Oh yes, we’re having a cash bar too 
I’d rather be tacky than in debt because we decided to pay for our family and extended family to get schwasted.
I think registries are tacky - and we have TWO. I love receiving presents - but it still feels so weird (and tacky) that we tell people what we want, and then post that info on our website. 100% of our guests are taking planes and rental cars to get to our wedding, certainly none of them need to bring gifts… but I guess we expect them to as we registered at two stores (and of course LOVE receiving the presents).
OMG! I read that article and LOVED IT! I was honestly laughing out loud. Thanks for sharing!
(And, for what it’s worth, I think the felted birds idea is adorable!)
We’re having a cash bar at our reception, but we’re also having the ceremony at a Sake Tasting Room that gives out complimentary sake as part of our rental agreement. My wedding is going to be pretty tacky in many peoples’ eyes. I’m wearing a green dress I had made in China through eBay. It’s not the finest gown, as it uses some synthetic taffeta and a ton of aurora borealis beads/sequins, but it’s very dramatic. The bridesmaids are wearing very short metallic brocade trapeze dresses from Jessica McClintock (I think they’re targeted for prom). My FMIL refers to them as the “star trek” dresses. Groom is wearing a green silk dupioni suit I comissioned on Etsy (A risky pursuit, as we haven’t gotten it yet!) and the reception site is called a “fish grotto”. Oh, and on my RSVP website (surveymonkey.com) I requested no guests under 18 years, and to limit guests to those listed on the invitation. Very tacky.
Yes, while my tastes say that elegant is boring, most people will find my wedding tacky, and I simply don’t care (except when my FMIL mentions Star Trek dresses… That totally gets on my nerves!)
I just read your first line and I was about to quote that post to you…SOMEONE is always gonna think whatever you do is “tacky” so if it makes you HAPPY go for it!
Ditto on the cash bar. Not too many people at my wedding will be drinking so I figure, why bother trying to meet the bar tab?
Oh, and Chinese weddings automatically = Bright red/lots of gold. Tacky? Yes, but it’s traditional and will make my parents happy. Can’t win them all.
Ugh, I’ve banned the word “tacky” from my vocabulary and I’m a much happier/less stressed person now.
I’m dying to see the birds on the twig and flower centerpieces since I want to do something similar. It’s doesn’t sound tacky at all!
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I had a country-western wedding complete with the groom, me, MOB, FOB, and MOG in cowboy boots. The cake was inspired by tooled leather and sat on haybales. We served BBQ and bottled beer. DH and I two-stepped our first dance. It was probably tacky to some people, but most of our guests had a blast!
hahaha - I was going to mention that article until I saw you were talking about it.
How true. I have felt/button flowers that I LOVE!! I know a few will think i’m tacky, and they may not go with my dress (but really, what flowers don’t go with a dress?) but don’t care. I lvoe my tacky flowers
Oh I am definitely a TACKY bride. I have a GIANORMOUS phoenix tattoo on my back, I mean it’s huge as well as two other star tattoos, and do I plan on covering them up or wearing a shrug or full back dress…uhm No! Will most people think it’s tacky? Hell yes! But whatever, they are not me and this is not their wedding, if I love it, it’s happening. Long live the tacky affair!
I love this post! Let’s see, we’re only inviting 20 people (which means FI’s aunts and my best friend from high school are not invited), and we’re only serving beer and wine - not even a cash bar. Tack it up!
We’re having a cash bar, too (well, sort of…beer/wine/soda is free, the rest is cash). My thought on the subject is that as a wedding guest many times over I have always prefered the cash bar over no bar at all. (And now I sound like a drunk. *sigh*)
I don’t understand why cash bars are considered to be so tacky anyway. I think it represents, hey, we’re not interested in drinking but we know you might dig it, so it is available should you be interested.
FRICKIN A!!
I am inviting like 2 people that drink, out of a 115 people event. Besides champagne for a toast, I don’t think I should have to include a bar at all.
phew! I feel better!
PS: Your birds are adorable, don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Anyone that snubs a cute little bird like that has no soul. lol <3
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Age and Occupation: 24, Marketing Manager/Children's Lit Writer
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 24, Master's Student/Personal Trainer
Engagement Date: August 7, 2007
Wedding Date: October 2008
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Venue: Ceremony in a historic church, tented lawn reception at a golf and country club
About Me: 1950's housewife sent to the future, reborn as crafting-obsessed, jill of all trades. I enjoy decorating, writing, baking sweet things, singing show tunes/dancing in public, wearing pearls, and knitting sweaters for my furbaby, Harvey, to chew upon. I heart pink, and believe that sparkles are the new black.
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