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The other day as I was walking down the street, some guy fell in step beside me.
“Hello,” he said.
I looked over at him, expecting to see someone I knew. Nope, didn’t know him.
“Uh, hi.”
“Beautiful day!” he said.
“Um, yup,” I replied.
And then, rather than leaving me to continue along my merry way, he kept walking beside me, chatting about the weather, working downtown and more about what a beautiful day it was (true! it was endearing and funny). He was kind of nervous and just, I don’t know, strange which caused me to wonder…
Is he… he can’t be… is he… flirting with me?
My mind racing, I thought to myself, what do I do? Ok, deep breath, no need to panic - I’ll just switch my bag from one hand to the other and flip my hair a couple times and scratch my nose and a couple other ‘yoo-hoo-please-notice-my-ring-and-save-us-both-from-this-awkward-moment’ moves I have up my sleeves.
So I did the routine. And it worked!
At least, I thought it did, until he passed me his business card.
D’oh!!
Luckily he was quite nice so I just smiled and said thanks and that was that.
The guy was honestly so polite, the only thing I can think of is that he simply didn’t think to look to see if I was wearing a ring. A simple mistake.
This little morning episode made me realize something: although having someone flirt with you is (obviously) incredibly flattering, when you’re engaged, it’s also flustering! Or rather, “fluster-ring”. (Ha ha, I slay me.)
It was also a reality check: Earth to Sea Breeze! Not everyone out there lists “checking out left hands to see wedding rings” as a favorite pastime like you do. (What can I say? I LOVE admiring people’s bling!)
Speaking of rings, here’s mine.
Top image by Duane Storey, taken the day I came to the office wearing my new ring… as you can see, I’m a blusher!
Anyone else a chronic ring checker-outter like me? Do you also have to remind yourself that not everyone has their personal radars scanning the peripheries 24/7 for all things wedding-related?
ha ha. I love the flinging the hair, check out my ring move. I have totally done that when I feel like someone is unaware that I am engagaed/married. And why wouldn’t they flirt with us, we’re beautiful. Its weird cause while I should feel flattered and instead I felt a little strange. Its time to start embracing it as a compliment again. And as for the ring checking? I never did that until I got enagaged. Now I am married and I check out left hands all the time.
I always check out women’s hands, before I was married I did that too. But now that DH is wearing a ring (which I love) I noticed guy’s hands more. Like the guy who helped us at our bank. I immediately looked at his hand and saw no ring and was like “Awww, he isn’t married, poor guy” 
(Not in a patronizing way but more like he was missing the party).
Cause marriage is just one big party you know…;)
I am totally with you ! I always compliment on a ring I like! And I am constantly looking for them too! People must think that I am nuts! I am also with you on gettting hit on with my ring on! You cant miss it! It actually happened two days ago at work. I had a pt coming flirt like nobodys business i kept trying to flash my left hand finally he said I can see your engaged or married to bad yuor really hott! Vey flattering and uncomfortable at the same time!
I think many guys are less aware of such things. I check out ring fingers all the time, but my fiance never does. He always seems dumbfounded when I remark that someone we don’t know very well is married.
“How do you know that?”
Left hand. Duh
I look for rings constantly, and when I see a nice/big one I tend to gawk. One quick funny story about flashing my ring: I was with my fiance when he saw a guy friend from high school who was with a very pretty girl, presumably a significant other. This girl gave me the death stare thinking I was somehow going to steal her man even though I clearly was with my fiance! I made sure to do the subtle/not-so-subtle hair flip/nose scratch/shirt fix routine. Honey, trust me, I’m no threat.
I still don’t notice these things. And even though I’m excited to marry my fiancé, sometimes my ring feels like the Scarlet Letter. It’s weird to be so easily identified by people I don’t know as a certain type of person.
And I love harmless flirting. Actually now that I know it’s going nowhere, it’s more fun!
I was getting hit on in a bar a few weeks ago (this never happens, EVER, so I was flattered) but after nearly an hour, it was getting old. I was definitely doing the hair-flip, nose-scratch, even adjusting my ring blatantly in front of him until he finally asked, “So, would you like to go out sometime?” I said, “Thank you, but I’m engaged” and held up my left hand. He said, “Oh, I wondered what that ring was about…”
So yeah. Some guys just don’t get the ring hint.
Guilty as charged… I always look at the left hand. Your ring is beautiful!
Your ring is beautiful! I never know what to do when someone is flirting and don’t pick up on the e-ring.
I’m one of those who are oblivious to rings even when it’s flashing in front of my face. I don’t know why, but I never look at a guy/girl’s jewelry.
i’m so oblivious to this, but ms. mango is always pointing people out as engaged or not engaged.
Love your ring. I think it actually be the same as mine 
Is it a Diana? Love love love the simplicity. (But I’m obviously bias.)
This totally happened to me on a public bus in Chicago, less than two months after I got engaged to my now-husband. The guy flirting with me finally noticed the ring and was like, “Oh. He’s a lucky guy!” It was a funny moment.
My honey gets so embarrassed because I will always talk to someone about their ring. When did they get engaged, or when was their wedding, how beautiful it is, blah blah blah. He is so private, and I am out there for the whole world to talk to! haha
I definitely think that weddings bring us all together.
I think the reality of it is that some guys don’t care. I found myself in an awkward situation as well where I had to say I was engaged and his response was “well let me know if you change your mind?”
really?
I think the most awkward experience came when my gynecologist hit on me. I was very clearly wearing a ring! And think about why a lot of women go to the gynecologist. Hellooooo! Things were very awkward after that…icky!
I definitely enjoy checking out people’s engagement rings. The one thing to remember is that most people don’t look at your ring finger, especially guys. Even if they did, it still doesn’t stop them from flirting!!!
There’s a song I love by mc chris, this nerdcore rapper that i love, called “Check the Ring, Yo”. It’s quite amusing. I believe you can check it out on itunes/amazon.com.
@AlliCat: I love when I don’t proofread before posting. Strike an ‘I love’ from my comment
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Mrs. Sea Breeze, Vancouver/Dominican Republic Age in 2008 and Occupation: 30, Communications Manager Fiance's Age in 2008 and Occupation: 29, Experiential Marketing Director Engagement Date: October 6, 2007 Wedding Date: November, 2008 Blogging Since: July 17, 2008 Venue: Majestic Colonial Resort, Punta Cana About Me: Planning a destination wedding by the sea should be (oh no she di-in't…) a breeze (…*sigh* yep, she did) but when you've never been to the Caribbean, your powers of imagination are really put to the test. Luckily, I'm 90% resourceful, creative optimist (and kooky, neurotic practicalist-if-that's-a-word for the other ten). Other than writing about our week-long celebration of family, friends, laughter and love, I adore books, shoes and… you guessed it… long walks on the beach.
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