DISE: Do It, Someone Else
August 19th, 2008 @ 5:15 pm by Mrs. Peacock
I believe that I have reached a stage in our planning where I am throwing in the towel on chunks of my to-do list. It’s time to cash in my chips and admit my losses. Fortunately, I have a wonderful family and a few patient friends to help.
1. I could not find a cake topper. After months of searching, I gave up this weekend. I asked my extremely talented aunt to make one for me and she gladly obliged. With only weeks to go, she will be making us two little lovebirds out of felt. That she makes herself. Out of wool. From her own sheep. Her craftiness is literally blowing my mind. I can’t believe that I didn’t ask her sooner!!! I sent her several little birds to serve as models and she is going to town. I didn’t want to give too much direction because I trust her crafty skills.
2. I never learned how to sew. This inhibited my ability to make little fabric pockets for our invites and covers for our programs. My mom and sister stepped up on the pockets and I dropped the programs. I haven’t looked back. My mom and Mr. Peacock’s mom are also making the flowergirl/junior bridesmaid dresses, although I never once thought that I could pull that off. Those poor girls would be walking down the aisle in silk potato sacks.
3. I still don’t understand Photoshop. Mr. Peacock had to make the little maps for our invites and he did a WAY better job than I ever could. He rules. This is one of the many things that he is doing for the wedding, and one of the many reasons that he rules.
4. I cannot run the wedding myself and still have a good time. I hired a friend who is just starting a wedding coordination business to be my DOC. I’m not sure what your definition of “day of” is, but it probably doesn’t include running venue walkthroughs and handling crabby vendors well before that big day. Mr. Peacock called her my insurance policy this morning and I could not agree more.
Before I became a student, I planned events for a living. I loved my job. I have never been worried about losing my cool throughout this process. I had a very “been there, done that” attitude. But a wedding is a unique event, at least for the people getting married. There are some crazy emotions involved and, frankly, I am getting a little tired. Thank goodness I have all these wonderful people to support me. 
Is anyone else learning to love delegating?
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19 Responses to “DISE: Do It, Someone Else”
Funny post title! Hurray for delegating!
And sorry, but I have to chuckle when someone says that something “literally” blows his or her mind
Thanks for putting a name to my life motto. I’ve had no problem delegating tasks for my wedding! I have managed to squeeze in a few DIY, but prefer DISE!
LOL @ DISE (Do it, someone else)!
@Linzerella: I am so with you on your last comment. A few of my helpers keep checking in, and I am not sure of how many other ways to say “I trust you. I’m sure it will look great.”
@Maude: She did! Can you make felt from your sheep’s wool? I sure can’t, and thinking about it makes my head hurt
I’m all about the DISE!! And with one month to go, large chunks of to-do list are getting changed to “NOT DOING THIS” at all . . . . Just don’t even want to think about it any more.
Ha! I did event planning before grad school too, and I am in the same place you are! If only I could delegate MORE… bwa ha ha.
definitely! we’re coming up on one month left and the delegation party is rolling!
OH!! I feel so liberated.
I just had a “meeting” and delegated some things to my mom, dad, FI and MOH. With 30 days left and a new project at work- I can’t take anymore. I just can’t.
I hope DISE catches on as a new term around the wedding world. It’s almost getting impossible for me to count how many DISE projects I have. Ithink people are beginning to avoid me.
love it, I was just thinking yesterday that there must be some brides who don’t want to DIY everything (or anything for that matter) and there should be a term for that too! I too a currently planning events and will soon (next month) give up my job to become a PhD student. I’ve just started planning my 2010 wedding so here’s to hoping 2 years will provide enough time to DIY and learne how to DISE.
I am SO at this point. A month to go and this week I finally realized I can’t do this all myself. It’s going to be hard, but tonight I’m going to sit down go over everything and start passing the responsibility on. Please, PLEASE…DISE.
I outsourced our wedding map to my brother and I LOVED it! Yay for super talented peeps!
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Miss Peacock, Chicago
Age and Occupation: 26, PhD Student
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 29, Internet Whiz
Engagement Date: December 5, 2006
Wedding Date: September, 2008
Blogging Since: December 13, 2007
Venue: St. Clement Church, Cafe Brauer (or a big church wedding and a fancy party at a cafe in Lincoln Park.
About Me: I am a grad student with a secret obsession for all things wedding related. I also love to read, travel, drink champagne and go for walks with our dog, Maisy, and Mr. Peacock. We are planning our very vintage wedding in the greatest city in the world, our hometown of Chicago. I am so proud to be a Bee!
I LOVE your acronym - DISE is my new motto! I have recently taken on delegating too - my mom and fiance have a big list of things they are responsible for.
What I really want is for people to do it, and not ask me about the things they’re working on, or what I think - NO. Just DO it, please. Someone else.