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Mrs. Martini, New Jersey Age and Occupation: 30, Telecom by day, Superhero by night Fiance's Age and Occupation: 32, Investments & Finance by day, Hip hop dancer by night Engagement Date: May 24, 2008 Wedding Date: March, 2009 Blogging Since: August 18, 2008 Venue: The Venetian About Me: Things that make me happy: Haribo Happy Cola gummies, TV shows on DVD, buying books although I never read them, 80’s rock ballads, ramen, and of course Mr. Martini! He is the calm, logical and number crunching finance guy. I can’t even multiply double digit numbers in my head and I am so indecisive that trying to choose between light green or slightly lighter green paper stresses me out (Wedding planning is going to be soooo much fun). We both find great joy in nabbing great seats at the movie theater for a blockbuster movie on opening weekend, and we are both absolutely crazy about snowboarding. And he loves to cook, I love to eat!
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What My Contact Lenses Have Taught Me.

August 22nd, 2008 @ 2:09 pm by Mrs. Martini

Everyone knows that true love isn’t all fun and games. I don’t know of any couples that can claim that their relationship is perfect in every single, absolute way. There are definitely hardships, but the fact that you can overcome them is what makes it love, right?

I would be lying if I told you that Mr. Martini and I don’t fight. Of course we do! If we didn’t, it wouldn’t be a relationship. Luckily, he is the sane to my craziness, and sometimes when I get over-emotional, he knows just what to do to calm me down and work things out in an adult manner.

I also don’t know of any couples that don’t get annoyed at some of their partner’s habits. Some of my habits irritate Mr. Martini to no end. One annoying habit of mine that gets on his nerves: I wear daily contacts, and when I take them out I tend to toss them on the ground instead of throwing them in the garbage like I should. He gets sooooo mad when he’s walking around and he accidentally steps on a contact with his bare foot! My argument is that contacts will eventually disintegrate and disappear (wow, this theory sounds totally stupid now that I’m writing this out on a public blog, but I digress). But according to him, the only reason they “disintegrate” is because he crushes the dried contact into a million pieces with the heel of his foot.

I know, I know, so not girly of me not to throw them out the proper way. But I always forget to take them out before I go to bed and if I sleep in them, my eyes get super dry and irritated by morning (I’m actually not supposed to be even wearing contacts because to make a long story short, I’m pretty much allergic to them). So most of the time, I end up taking them out in the dark, half asleep, and toss them to the side. Eventually, I learned to place them on the windowsill instead so that I can throw them out properly in the morning. But that didn’t work out so well because of course I’d forget to dispose of them, and they would blow away onto the floor, usually in the direct path of his feet. Whenever Mr. Martini comes over he literally walks into my room as if he’s walking into a land mine. The funny thing is, I never step on my own contacts! So why should I change my habit for him?

Because I will be getting married to him, that’s why. He still proposed to me knowing that one day, he will be stepping on contacts in his own home and there is no escaping them. It was the least I could do. Of course, he never gets really mad at me for it, but I do know that it bothers him (even if it’s just a little bit) and he doesn’t exactly jump for joy when he happens to step on one. So I’ve since learned to accommodate my life to meet his needs. If I forget to take my contacts out, then I’d better get my butt up out of bed and throw them out like a normal human being. In the end, I’ve broken a bad habit, and he is a happier Mr. Martini.

Of course there still is the occasional contact run-in, but I SWEAR that it’s just an old one that hasn’t disintegrated yet. And he believes me. And trust is one of the most important parts of a relationship.

Of course my contact drama is just a silly example of a larger subject, but the point is still there. Trust and sacrifice are what counts if you want to make it work!

What sacrifices have you made for your significant other “in the name of love”? And just for kicks, any amusing habits about your significant other that just drives you nuts? And the most important question of all - how long do you think it takes for a contact lens to disintegrate?

Just kidding about that last one.

Just for laughs, these are the pictures that inspired me to write this entry. I was just looking at pictures I took of my dog a few months ago, and suddenly noticed something I haven’t noticed before. Do you see it?

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No? You still don’t see it??

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30 Responses to “What My Contact Lenses Have Taught Me.”

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cdenton (message)  16 posts, Newbee

There’s a contact by his nose. :)

 
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jaycee

I am so disgusted, yet amused!! Kudos for you on breaking that habit!

 
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crispet1

Dried contacts are surprisingly hard. I almost cut my finger on a broken one, no joke!

 
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pinklau325 (message)  152 posts, Blushing bee

My fiancee shakes his leg in bed. It drives me nuts! I have been asking and asking if somehow he can stop but he has bad knees and numerous knee surgeries. I know my bad habit to him is leaving all my purses around the house when I change them on a daily basis. I definitely have been better lately!

 
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princessporkie (message)  12 posts, Newbee

hahahaha. I hate it when it dries up too. lol I can imagine tons of dried contacts on your floor. lol

 
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mlindsey (message)  349 posts, Helper bee

Uggh gross..I mean, way to go! Breaking bad habits are hard, but your attitude about it is so sweet and so realistic and a reminder of just one part of what marriage is about. I think me and hubby’s offensive habits toward each other are too numerous, and some too gross to name here….

That’s so funny how the offensive contact is just chillin’ right by your dog - who is going to town on that ball!

 
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Miss Martini (message)  245 posts, Helper bee

@princessporkie: hahaha to be honest i’m not that bad. 90% of the time, i do remember to throw them out, i just forget once in a while. but for some reason mr. martini seems to find every single contact that ends up on the floor!

 
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shibaby (message)  202 posts, Helper bee

hahahaha that’s hilarious! :)

 
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roseskier1 (message)  102 posts, Blushing bee

This cracks me up! I’d use it to your advantage and tell him that as a wedding gift, maybe he should get you Lasik surgery!!! ;) I used to have such a hard time with lenses and my honey helped me pay for the surgery last year and it was the best gift I’ve ever gotten!

 
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Miss Cookie (message)  784 posts, Busy bee

I love your metaphor! I’ve had to make some sacrifices for Mr. Cookie and he’s made to for me. Sacrifice is truly what a relationship is all about! Great post!

 
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Tulips (message)  37 posts, Newbee

Miss Martini, you are just too funny. I love your blogs. One thing I am trying to sacrifice is my shoe collection in the back of my car trunk. I used to keep about, I don’t know, at least 10 pairs of shoes in there. I kept them there because I have a tendency to change my shoes at the last minute before work or after work, or when my shoes are hurting my feet, or when I think another pair goes with my outfit more, and so on. He would complain about the mass of shoes in the back everytime he opens the trunk to store anything we just bought from shopping. Well, I have cut down to 3 pairs now, but I don’t think I can go any lower though.

 
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Eliza

Sometimes problems like this respond really well to practical advice: why don’t you get a cute, small wastebasket and put it by your bedside table? You’ll be able to toss contacts into it in the dark, and no more crunchy contacts underfoot…

 
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budgetbeautiful

You should just take your contacts out when you get home and put your glasses on and start fresh in the morning.

His most annoying habit is when he says “I have something to tell you! But I’ll tell you later” (when we’re together, alone, etc.)Drives me NUTS. He also doesn’t clean the dishes as quickly as

 
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Misspodo

omgsoh….I was laughing so hard I almost forgot I was at work and had to cup my mouth and make sure no one heard me…. I had no idea of ur funny habit…and that contacts don’t disintegrate…I may have thought they would too ..weird. Anyways in terms of habits that get on my nerves…..someone u & I know likes to leave USED underwear all around the bedroon flo~

 
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Miss Sea Breeze (message)  912 posts, Busy bee

Those pics are too funny.

The thing that Mr SB does that drives me bonkers is the ‘chairdrobe’ (see UrbanDictionary.com)–in the KITCHEN. (?!?!?)

 
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missuskatie

Ha! I love this! I usually fully intend to throw mine away and they get stuck on my finger I guess and end up on the floor and I’m so blind without my contacts I don’t even notice! I always wonder how many people have invited me into their homes only to find hard, dried up blue tinted contacts on their bathroom floors. It’s good that you are learning though!

 
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Mrs. Canary (message)  636 posts, Busy bee

HAHAHA. Hysterical, Miss Martini. I hate my contacts but am too scared to get lasik. Hmmm… our pet peeves/bad habits all have to do with dishwashing in some way.

 
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Miss X

I am by far the one with the most annoying habits between the two of us (@Miss Sea Breeze: including major floordrobing).

 
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callalillies (message)  106 posts, Blushing bee

easy solution. LASIK!!!!! :)

 
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Ffiffi

I remember how much of a pain it was wearing contact lenses and how my man just couldn’t understand the limitations of staying out late/being blind if I lost my glasses/going swimming/losing one contact lense/running out of solution etc etc. So that’s why I recommend laser eye surgery every every time - I had it when I was 21, and it’s been three years of amazingness!!! Just thought I’d mention it again :) x

 
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Emily

haha - your illustration of love and sacrifice by way of contacts disposal is hilarious!! Love’s all about compromise in our home - if he watches an hour or two of wedding shows with me, the tv is his for a bit for playing PS3 or Wii! if one of us (usually me) forgets to fold the pile of clean laundry for *forever*, the other is really nice about it… :-)

 
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Tiramisu

*blushing* I am totally guilty of the leaving around the daily contact lenses too. Drives Mr. Tiramisu mad, and I’ll admit, is totally gross.

 
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Tea

lol, that was the first thing i noticed when i saw the picture! i wear contacts too but they’re the weekly kind so there’s no tossing them out every day. that and i keep my stuff in the bathroom with easy access to a trashcan so no worries about them finding their way to the floor.

what kind of dog is that? he’s adorable!

 
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cannotwait (message)  1,040 posts, Bumble bee

can you add a trash can by your bed? I blow my nose a lot in bed & had to add one to not gross out the fiance w/ the pile that was there in the morning…YUCKY!

 
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VideoBride

Ha, that reminds me of a little post my sister made on her blog about her fiance:

http://coyotenicole.blogspot.com/2008/07/what-non-hunk.html

I like how you and he justify your “quirks”.

 
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Sarah

I used to wear Dailys and did the EXACT same thing. My fiance would get so mad. I’ve got monthlies again due to my budget, so its no longer a problem. Very funny to hear someone with the same issue!

 
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Shasha

Oh man, those pictures made me bust out laughing. Thanks for sharing.

My FI has gross, smelly dog who has chronic infections *gag, right?* The dogs DNA is all over the house and it makes me nausous. I used to constanly vacuum and dust but I DON’T LIVE THERE! So I quit. Now I just b!tch (periodically) about it.

We’re 9 weeks out to WD and the dog is still hanging on. My niece is a vet tech and ever SHE says its time for dog to “check out.” She tells me there’s no such thing as a doggie hospice though. WHAT am I supposed to do now?!

*gets busy praying* :-/

 
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CharlestonBride (message)  54 posts, Worker bee

OK, I’m going to jump on the laser surgery bandwagon! I had PRK 2 years ago (not a LASIK candidate) and my FH convinced me to do it. I was 20/100 and now I’m 20/20! I was pretty freaked out but it’s over in a few minutes and so worth it!

 
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lazybride (message)  64 posts, Worker bee

my biggest pet peeve is that he is PERPETUALLY late. ALWAYS. i am ALWAYS on time…which makes this problem a HUGE one. i blame it on my anal retentive, super controlling nature vs his easy going nature…which works out for the both of us in the end EXCEPT for this case. we have to meet in the middle but there are always arguments over why he was late and why i’m the last one to be picked up at the train station…etc!

 
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kdx1n

hahaha! that’s totally disgusting! i know, because i do it myself! i’m so glad to know i’m not the only one. now that i’m living with my fiance, i’m much more diligent about a) taking my contacts out before bed and b) putting them in the garbage. when i lived alone, i would put them on the nightstand. they’d stick to the wood and when i’d try to peel them off, they’d crumble, leaving a telltale remnant. i love your post! thanks for sharing.

 


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Mrs. Martini Mrs. Martini, New Jersey Age and Occupation: 30, Telecom by day, Superhero by night Fiance's Age and Occupation: 32, Investments & Finance by day, Hip hop dancer by night Engagement Date: May 24, 2008 Wedding Date: March, 2009 Blogging Since: August 18, 2008 Venue: The Venetian About Me: Things that make me happy: Haribo Happy Cola gummies, TV shows on DVD, buying books although I never read them, 80’s rock ballads, ramen, and of course Mr. Martini! He is the calm, logical and number crunching finance guy. I can’t even multiply double digit numbers in my head and I am so indecisive that trying to choose between light green or slightly lighter green paper stresses me out (Wedding planning is going to be soooo much fun). We both find great joy in nabbing great seats at the movie theater for a blockbuster movie on opening weekend, and we are both absolutely crazy about snowboarding. And he loves to cook, I love to eat!
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