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Mrs. Avocado, Seattle Age and Occupation: 23, Student Fiance's Age and Occupation: 26, Consultant Engagement Date: July 27, 2008 Wedding Date: October, 2008 Blogging Since: June 30, 2008 Venue: LDS Seattle Temple & Hotel 1000 About Me: Somehow this little farm girl found herself a genuine Pole to fall in love and eventually move away to Poland with. I am an LDS bride attempting to plan a private religious ceremony, ring ceremony, seated reception for 100, and an open house while coordinating for guests flying in from across the United States and as far away as Poland. I try to avoid fads, excess waste, and saturated fat. I strongly endorse photography, DDR, calorie counting, rss feeds, cooking, and utilizing your resources.
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The 3 Guest List Bride

August 26th, 2008 @ 1:58 pm by Mrs. Avocado

Some brides have 2 dresses. Some brides have 2 veils. Some brides even find a way to work 2 or 3 pairs of shoes into the wedding event timeline.I have 3 guest lists.

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Event 1: The Temple sealing at 12:00 pm. As I explained previously, this is a private ceremony. The room we reserved seats 35, and we can fit 45 with people standing. The preliminary list from my mother was 67 people. I have had to fight tooth and nail to narrow that list down to an acceptable number. It’s been a process filled with tears, and I am very happy that the list has now been finalized.

Event 2: The ring ceremony/dinner at Hotel 1000 at 4:30 pm. We are sending out invitations to 127 people for a space with a capacity of 120. 40 of those guests are just my family members (and this only includes grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins over 20). Once we added 41 guests for the groom, some bridesmaids and a handful of friends for myself, there weren’t that many slots left for my parents who are hosting the wedding!

We made the decision to only invite married couples and older cousins, and then I made it extra controversial by inviting 4 of my cousins under 20 and no others. These 4 are my double cousins (my mom’s sister married my dad’s brother), and we have lived 30 minutes apart our entire lives. We see them at every family function, since they are related to us on both sides, and the two boys will act as ushers, and the two girls will be junior bridesmaids.

Event 3: The tented reception in my hometown the following week. I have lived in the same tiny town my entire life, and there are just too many people in my life that would be very sad if they didn’t get the chance to meet my husband. We’ll be having a potato bar, cake, and a lot of socializing at this event. We are sending out 200 announcements for this, although we only expect about 125-150 people to attend.

In putting together our invitations, this many guest lists has been a nightmare. We have two wedding websites, and two versions of the invitation that must be sent out. I don’t want to send out an invitation stuffed with information about the weekend in Seattle and realize that it went to the wrong person!

Creating a guest list means making sacrifices (and a few headaches). What sacrifices did you have to make?

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10 Responses to “The 3 Guest List Bride”

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cannotwait
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cannotwait (message)  1,036 posts, Bumble bee

I’m having a hard time doing the final cuts, now…my mom’s A list is about 60, and we wanted about 100 total to attend!

 
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frenchbulldog
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frenchbulldog (message)  6,063 posts, Bee Keeper

WOW that is a LOT of guest lists - Kudos to you for trying to keep it all together and include everyone you could :)

 
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Kara

I’m a 3 Guest List Bride too, Avocado! One for our destination wedding in Grand Cayman. One for our Ohio at-home reception, which is where I’m from. And one for our Philly at-home reception, which is where my fiance is from and where we live now. Excel is my lifesaver!

 
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jennred782
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jennred782 (message)  355 posts, Helper bee

Potato bar, you have stolen my heart. I am dying to have one, I am Irish so it only seems appropriate. FI thinks I am kinding, little does he know that I am sooooo not.

 
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Ryn

My heart goes out to you. I shed enough tears over our one guest list. Which is finalized at 242 invited…gl!

 
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Mrs. Tiramisu
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Mrs. Tiramisu (message)  877 posts, Busy bee

Ugh. Guest lists are definitely a headache- I can’t believe you have to do THREE! Our biggest headache came in our in-laws inviting a lot of extra people (not invited to the wedding) to the rehearsal dinner! We felt guilty about it, but in the end just let it go- their party after all! Good luck!

 
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MsPopcorn (message)  218 posts, Helper bee

I also had multiple guest lists between people who were personally dear to me, and family obligations on both my side and the grooms. everyone from the separate receptions was invited to the church ceremony, so I did at one point have a private tantrum/whine over how opposite-of-intimate that was what with people I’d never met and would likely never see again who were just there because my father in law is a raging extrovert.

 
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Miss Avocado (message)  1,407 posts, Bumble bee

@MsPopcorn:You aren’t alone in your tantrums over a loss of intimacy in regards to the ceremony. Sigh.

 
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Miss Pomegranate (message)  956 posts, Busy bee

Yikes lady - that’s a lotta list maintenance!

 
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GetMarried4Less (message)  915 posts, Busy bee

@Miss Avocado: sigh……i wept over the lack of intimacy i envisioned for our ceremony as well…

i had dreamed of turning around after our kiss and truly knowing and loving each face that was facing us and applauding. now, i’ve had to come to terms with the fact that there will be quite a few faces out there that neither my FI or I know, much less love. lol……and several others who are mere aquaintances in my mind…..

oh well……

 


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