Purple Dresses: The Quest Begins

When I called to ask my lovely maiden sidekicks to stand at my side on our wedding day, I didn’t take them out for a ”˜will you be my bridesmaid’ dinner, or make them thoughtful gifts or even send them a card. It was before my days of obsessive wedding magazine/blog reading had begun, and I didn’t even know people did that.

But I did do one thing.

I told them that having them fly down to the Caribbean for our special day meant so much to me that I wanted to make the rest of the whole bridesmaid adventure as easy and stress-free as possible.

So I thought back on my own bridesmaid experiences (and two flower girl experiences), and tried to think of the most painful part of them.

Was it curling ribbon ’till the wee hours of the morning for favors? Stringing lights throughout the hall and angling all the chairs just so the night before? Trying to stuff a crinoline explosion into a bathroom stall and make sure she didn’t pee-pee on her wedding shoes?

Nope.

It was finding and purchasing the bridesmaid dress.

So began my bridesmaid dress nightmare.

Now, obviously, doing this for your bridesmaids is not for everyone. I know that in most situations, the bridesmaids pay for their own dresses. But I thought that since it’s a destination wedding and they’re already going to be spending quite a bit to go to Punta Cana with us, it would be a nice thing for us to do.

Now, before you start thinking I’m going all P. Diddy on you when I said I was going to take care of the dresses, let me make it clear that it was not the $400 David’s Bridal ones I had in mind.

That kind of dress is absolutely stunning but for the kind of easy-breezy destination wedding I am envisioning, I was thinking more along the lines of lightweight, simple and”¦ CHEAP! (And by cheap I mean ”˜affordable’ of course, but somehow I just don’t get the same satisfaction from saying: “look what I bought”¦ and it was so affordable!!!”)

Mr Breezy and I agreed upon a limit of $150 each (oh ok, so I told him it would be $100 but I figured if I went a bit over for the right dress, I could beg for forgiveness afterwards).

With these criteria, along with the color purple, in mind, off I skipped merrily into shop after shop after shop.

I thought it would be sooo easy! I mean, it was spring, I was looking for springy purple dresses, that wasn’t THAT much of a tall order, right???

WRONG.

(Sidenote: This especially kills me lately because, is it just Vancouver or are you seeing a definite purple trend in all the stores these days? Wait, I take that back, it’s not a trend”“it’s a tidal wave. I mean, you couldn’t have instigated this a few months earlier, fashion mavens of the world? Argh!)

So after three months (and much foot mileage) I was so thrilled when I found this dress at Jacob – a lovely, flowy, $110 masterpiece.

It was a darker purple than I had hoped for but hey, purple of any hue was rare and this would definitely do the trick. I tried it on in the store and sent the pictures to the girls:

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I know, the socks are a nice touch, eh?

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I thought it was neat how the back mimicked the front neckline.

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Totally cute, right? Simple, yet unique, and comfy and light.

I had this bridesmaid thing in the bag, no?

Um”¦ no.

(To Be Continued)

Anyone else brave (or delusional?) enough to try to single-handedly find the perfect dresses for their bridesmaids?

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Mrs. Sea Breeze

Location:
Vancouver/Dominican Republic
Wedding Date:
November 2014

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    Katharine, Guest @ 4:00 pm

    I think that dress is gooorgeous! I’m not as skinny as you, but I like my body…the only thing is you can’t wear a bra with that dress, and if it’s not that snug around the boobies, it’d mean I’d be flopping around a lot. But if I were on of your BMs, I’d certainly have been willing to try it on, and if it looked crap, send a photo back going “Um, I think NOT.” :-)

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    Starry-Eyed Barefoot Bride, Guest @ 4:00 pm

    I know the feeling!
    Both of trying to pick dresses for them AND picking a color that was so obscure and is NOW in every store!!
    Worse than finding the company for the dresses in the right color options was getting the girls to choose their dresses!! I said – here are the 10 dress options in each color – pick which one you like. UGH – 4 months later and threats of making them go in a towel if they refused to choose and I finally had the dress list. Getting their measurements was a whole other nightmare.

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    seabreeze 972 posts, Busy bee @ 4:21 pm

    @Miss Hot Cocoa: Hee hee! Nope, wasn’t me. We totally should have collaborated.

    @StrawberryBaby: Ooh, good luck. My bridesmaid Miss P was just in another wedding and they all did that… it turned out to be pretty stressful though so I hope that you have a good experience!

    @jeeyol: Ha ha, ‘the constipated look’. You nailed it.

    @Irene: Ooh, very pretty.

    @Miss Avocado: As if. Didn’t you get the memo? I’m totally setting trends here. Socks with dresses is the new thing. :-P

    @Lindsay: We are sooo in the same boat. That’s how I felt too.

    @Lindsay: I’m going to do a post on this very soon. Stay tuned.

    @Katharine: You’d make such a good bm.

    @Starry-Eyed Barefoot Bride: I’ve found that unless your bridesmaids have already been brides, they just do not ‘get’ how we can be stressing over bm dresses 7 months before the date. Sad, but true.

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    MsPopcorn 217 posts, Helper bee @ 6:49 pm

    that’s a really pretty colour, though I don’t know what you had in mind.

    I love Jacobs. a good chunk of my wardrobe is from them.

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    mspomegranate 961 posts, Busy bee @ 6:56 pm

    I am SO not as brave as you are! I let them choose their own black dress and I’m sooooo glad I did! You’re very brave – and I can’t figure out what debacle has ensued, ’cause that dress is adorable! ::on edge of seat::

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    dumpling 750 posts, Busy bee @ 7:00 pm

    I love that dress! I have a similar one in red that I wore to a holiday party. The only problem I had was that I couldnt lift my arms for fear of my dress riding up and my boobs getting lost in the fabric. TMI? LOL.

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    Jasmine, Guest @ 9:17 pm

    i had a purple wedding a couple months ago too and i was really surprised by how hard it was to find affordable purple bridesmaid dresses too. and i definitely started seeing the purple “tidal wave” right after my wedding…i think i even got emails from ann taylor and david’s featuring purple dresses!

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    goodvoile, Guest @ 10:19 pm

    Isn’t it purple and mustard or something like that for fall? You are just ahead of the curve! :D

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    espresso 1308 posts, Bumble bee @ 11:24 pm

    Oooh I love that dress!
    I thought I had the whole one dress for all the bridesmaids in the bag too… until I realized how different it looked on each of them. I did the same as Pom and had them each pick out their own little black dress

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    kandaceandjason, Guest @ 12:56 am

    We did purple for our wedding last October and I also had a hard time finding BM dresses. I really wanted to stay away from anything labeled “bridesmaid” because I knew it would be more expensive. I searched places like Macy’s and such to no avail, and wound up just going with Alfred Angelo in the style that matched my wedding dress. Really glad I chose the purple, though!

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    The One Where the Bride Takes a Chill Pill » Weddingbee » The Wedding Blog, Guest @ 2:13 pm

    [...] In my last post, I was telling you about how Mr. Breezy and I had decided to take care of our girls’ bridesmaid dresses, and how I had taken it upon myself to find said dresses. [...]

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    At Last » Weddingbee » The Wedding Blog, Guest @ 10:29 am

    [...] After much pavement pounding, stressing out, extensive online shopping and a trip south of the border, I came full circle and [...]

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