Wedding Blog

So I got the most interesting call last week from Mommy Lovebird. She calls and says, “I have Daddy Lovebird on the line.” (Daddy Lovebird is in China, by the way.) So Daddy Lovebird goes, “Hi honey, how are you? We planned your wedding banquet for the 3rd.” I’m like, “What?” :::: Daddy Lovebird repeats himself, “We planned your wedding banquet for the 3rd… your Mom is going to fly back for it.” Then it slowly begins to hit me… “Oh… okay?”

When I first started planning our wedding, I thought I was going to have three “weddings”. My destination wedding in Cancun with my friends and family, my New York reception which would include those people who couldn’t make it to Cancun, and the sea of people that were the “friends” of my parents and family. People I probably met at one point or another in my life, but surely don’t remember the name of, and people I was sure to be meeting for the first time. You see, in Chinese culture, the wedding banquet isn’t just about the bride and groom, it’s also about the family, parents, traditions and joining of families.

When my parents were speaking to my grandparents of picking an “auspicious” date for the NY wedding banquet, Grandma Lovebird was like, “you can’t have three wedding receptions!”

She said something along the lines of, “three is unlucky because there should only be two people in a marriage and one union…” I wasn’t in the position to argue, since my parents were going to foot the whole bill for it. :::Shucks:::

I was a little disappointed since I kinda wanted to be a bride for another day in NY, but the wedding in China had to go on, even if it meant the bride and groom wouldn’t be there. In fact, it was such short notice, that my mom couldn’t even book a ticket to fly back in time.

So there’s a wedding reception going on for Mr. Lovebird and me as we speak thrown by Daddy Lovebird and Grandma Lovebird. Some aunts and uncles who happen to be in China right now are at it too, and the rest of the guests are probably comprised of everyone my family has ever known. I’ve been told there’s going to be a huge projection screen that’ll play our professional wedding video and show some wedding pictures.

What I’m bummed about is that my “guests” won’t be able to see my professional wedding pictures we paid all that money for. I was going to send Mommy Lovebird back with a DVD of the pictures, but then found out the day before she was supposed to leave that she couldn’t get a ticket and by that time, there wasn’t enough time for me to courier the DVD back to China. Unfortunately, it was also too complicated for Daddy Lovebird to download each of the pictures off Flickr too, and he didn’t want to bother someone to download the hundreds of pro pics. Come on dad! I know it’s silly for me to feel peeved over a wedding we had no say in planning, but it’s still technically our wedding isn’t it?

My parents practically made no requests of me during our Cancun wedding, so I guess it’s only fitting that I have no say in what’s going happening “on my behalf” right now, half a world away. All I could say to Daddy Lovebird on the phone last night was, “Well send me some pictures so I can see how my wedding went.” He replies “Oh, don’t worry, there will be plenty of pictures!” I was going to ask, “Ooooo, didja hire a photographer???” But then he said, “Okay, bye!” I thought to myself, whatever, it doesn’t matter, and said, “bye.” (Thinking to myself, have fun at my wedding!)

Sorry hive for the whinny post. But you can’t blame a girl for wanting to be at her own wedding can you? Even if it is a second reception…

I wish they could’ve teleconferenced us in or something. Or if we had more time, we could’ve recorded a video message or something. I wish we had some vacation time left over to have attended this, but with the destination wedding and honeymoon, it was impossible. Plus, Mr. Lovebird has a huge cardiology exam on Monday, so there was no way. Coulda, woulda, shoulda….

A treat for bearing with me through this post, and because I have yet to put up a post without an image of some kind… one of my favorite shots from the wedding.

del Sol Photography

This is a picture of me and my cousin Steven, who also happened to be a usher at the wedding. We laugh each time we see this picture because we have no idea what we were doing there or what we were talking about that could have made this picture make sense. Excuse the stupid expression on my face. But one word comes to my mind, “honk!”

Anyone else having a wedding reception they aren’t attending?