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Mrs. Bee, New York Age and Occupation: 29, Weddingbee Publisher Fiance's Age and Occupation: 33, Internet Engagement Date: May 7, 2004 Wedding Date: March 5, 2005 Venue: Westside Loft, New York About Me: Yes, my name really is Bee! I love my blogging, wikis, and tabasco sauce!
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Rumors

October 5th, 2008 @ 10:46 pm by Mrs. Bee

I’ve seen a few rumors out there that are pretty disturbing.

Inter-racial matching

A few comments here and elsewhere said that eHarmony doesn’t offer inter-racial matching.

I was incredibly disturbed by this, so I called Stan to ask about it.  He confirmed that ethnicity and race has never played any role whatsoever in eHarmony’s matching system.  Never as in, never in the history of the company.

Each user on eHarmony can set their own racial preferences to whatever they want.  You can set it to match only people from your own race or ethnic background, or you can set it to match people from others as well.

Focus on the Family

Another rumor I saw is that eHarmony gives money (or has given money) to Focus on the Family.

Focus on the Family had a radio program where years ago, they profiled successful eHarmony matches.  eHarmony never paid any money to Focus on the family for this coverage.  Also, eHarmony has never donated any money to Focus on the Family.  Never, ever.

I see statements like, “[eHarmony] actively contributes to organizations that fight against the recognition of LGBT rights and commitments” and I am not sure how to respond!  eHarmony has never contributed any money to Focus on the Family, or bought any advertising from them.

I’m not trying to defend eHarmony.  I realize that some of you have opinions about the company that aren’t going to change no matter what.  That’s okay.  I just wanted to make sure that the facts are out there.

Weddingbee Editing

One final rumor sprung up just in the past few days.  I read on an outside blog that “the eHarmony PR team appears to be copy-editing comments on the WeddingBee blog.”

This is simply not true *sigh*.  I posted a comment on my earlier post clarifying this, but that outside blog posted their story just a few hours ago… so I guess a new rumor is on its way.

It sounds like this rumor started out as a misreading of one of our bloggers’ comments: “This post was a long time coming and had to be reviewed by eHarmony higher ups several times and was edited in several places.”

I’ve noticed that a few people have interpreted this comment as suggesting that eHarmony edited the posts. That was definitely not the case.

The posts by the Bees were not edited by eHarmony - only Mrs. Penguin and I edit Bee posts. I did personally work with each blogger to edit the posts, with any changes approved by each blogger.  The edits were to clarify confusing statements, and to make sure it was clear when something was opinion versus fact. They were very minor, and I would be glad to post the originals.  Mrs. Cream Puff preferred not to make any clarifying edits, so her post went up as is.

As for the posts taking a long time to be published, that’s definitely true.  eHarmony asked if they could prepare a response, so I sent them the posts so they could respond. It did take longer than I had hoped to get the response published, which contributed to the delay in getting this announcement up. I feel awful about the delay… :-(

Rumors

I know that rumors are a fact of life, and I don’t expect these rumors to go away.

I’ve had some bad experiences with rumors in the past myself.  When I was younger, I changed high schools when my family moved from LA to the suburbs.  I went on three innocent dates with a boy I met, and somehow the rumor got out that we had slept together.  Before I knew it, people were saying that I had had to move from my old school because I had to escape my “reputation”.  Other boys even told their friends that they had also slept with me.

In the two years I was there, those rumors never went away even though they weren’t true. :-( They didn’t go away until I left for college up north, in the Bay Area.

I wasn’t sure what to do then, and I am not sure what to do now.  All I can do is publish the facts, and hope that one day the truth gets out there.

Sincerely,
Bee

ps I’d like to ask that everyone treat each other with respect - both in the comments, and out there in the blogosphere!  I’ve seen some personal attacks in the comments, and also heard that some people have sent not-so-nice notes to Bees that have left.  Please don’t do that.

I ask that you treat each and every person - whether they be a blogger or a commenter - with dignity and respect.  I have not been deleting personal attacks like I would normally be doing, because I don’t want people to think that we are censoring comments.  But please be nice to each other!  I would greatly appreciate it. :)

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60 Responses to “Rumors”

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Katherine

Mrs. Bee,

I don’t know if it will make any difference, but I just wanted to reiterate, due to all of the negativity on your previous posts, that I have nothing but congratulations & respect for the hard work that you’ve put into this site & that you’ve been bussiness-savvy & passionate enough to turn your blog into what it is today.

I look forward to seeing how WeddingBee evolves & am sure that it will be for nothing but the better.

I also am very hopeful that LGBT brides and/or grooms will continue to apply for WB & become bees. I love the diversity that WB promotes.

Thank you for all of your har work & thanks also to all of the Bees that put so much time, effort, & thoughtfulness into your posts. It’s very much appreciated.

 
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Paulo

Thank you bee…I’m sure the last several days have been tough. But it’s great to reiterate the “respect” part. Some people get so fired up about their own “opinions” that they forget that others have theirs as well.

It’s this pushing of opinions on others that keep the circle round. Pardon the cliche’s, but it’s a two way street, and it certainly takes two to tango…

Good for all you’ve done for the wedding industry. Weddingbee is a true inspiration and haven for great ideas! Congratulations.

 
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alison

Thank you Bee for posting this. I hope that you are feeling better and are having a lovely time moving into your new place! I am sorry that this happy time has had some negative side effects but take comfort in the fact that you still have many, many readers and many more to come and enjoy Weddingbee past, present and future!

 
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Sarah

I’m happy to hear that those rumors are not true. I wish that it were also untrue that eharmony didn’t reject lesbians and gays who also wanted to find love using their matching service.

 
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Sarah

sorry… I wish it was untrue that eharmony does reject lesbians and gays who want to join.

 
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Kenzie

I’m confused, didn’t Mrs. Cream Puff say that she’d written a goodbye post, and yet we haven’t seen it?

That’s a little concerning.

Aside from that, Bee, I thrilled for you, you’ve attained what many, many bloggers can only dream of! Congrats on the sale and here’s to a Weddingbee future that’s just as successful and loved as the past!

 
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Mrs. Ant (message)  113 posts, Blushing bee

I’m glad you cleared up some of the rumors. I did a thorough due diligence on eHarmony several years back and never learned anything about it discriminating against interracial matches. I was surprised to hear about it for the first time in the comments. Good to know what’s fact vs fiction.

I agree that Mrs Lovebug’s comments regarding the editing process was very confusing. I don’t think she meant to (at least I hope not), but her comment misled a lot of readers. Even I got confused. Thanks for clearing all this up.

 
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Mr. Bee (message)  1,572 posts, Bumble bee

Hey Kenzie - Bee took the weekend off so no new posts have gone up since Friday. She’s been sick, and we had to move into a new apartment over the last few days. She posted yesterday about taking the weekend off - sorry for any confusion.

Mrs. Ant - That comment wasn’t from Mrs. Lovebug, and I’m sure it wasn’t meant to be confusing. It’s all good - we just wanted to clear up any misunderstandings.

 
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Mrs X

Thanks for the clarifying post, Mrs. Bee. I hope you are feeling better, and the move went well. Congratulations, again, on your success, and I can’t wait to see what’s in store for WB!

 
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PrettyInPink

Thanks for the clarification. I hope your move went well and I can’t wait for things to be back to business as usual.

Feel Better Mrs. Bee!

 
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KLevi18

Sounds like someone is trying to protect their investment. Times are hard. I know.

 
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linda

Mrs. Bee - thank you for the clarification. You have cleared up rumors that I took to be true, simply because I read them by random people’s ‘facts’ in the comments section. I know you to be honest, and I trust you had researched these comments. Also, Mrs. Ant’s comment above is also reassuring.

Thank yoU! I hope you feel better, and above all, congratulations! I will certainly be staying with wedding bee!

 
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KLevi18

So, are you saying that prior to 2008, there was interracial matching with eHarmony? Hmm…I don’t think so.

 
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V (message)  488 posts, Helper bee

Smart BUSINESS woman!
Congrats’s bee

 
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Jason

Rumors hurt but I think Karma has a way of finding those that deserve it!

 
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L

I met my husband in 2004 on eHarmony and we got married last year. And we are an interracial couple.

 
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Miss Duckling (message)  1,349 posts, Bumble bee

Mrs. Bee~ Thanks for providing us with more information and clarifying. I didn’t think that some of those things were true, and I am glad to hear confirmation of that. I hope that you are feeling better and that the move went well. I can only imagine that this last week as probably been very crazy and emotional for you. Weddingbee is still one of my favorite websites to check each day and I appreciate all you are doing to keep it the special and wonderful hive that it is!

 
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December

KLevi18 — Please provide substantial information on why you believe your position to be true before you add more unnecessary grist to the rumor mill.

 
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Mr. Bee (message)  1,572 posts, Bumble bee

@KLevi18: In addition to L above, Panoramathon on the post about “Weddingbee and Marriage Equality” mentioned that while he or she disagreed with eHarmony’s matching policy, they “just want to clarify that [eHarmony] have and do match cross-racially. I actually met my fiance there and we are an inter-racial couple. We met there in 2004.”

I’m not sure where the rumor started that eHarmony just started interracial matching this year. There are a bunch of confirmed cases of interracial matches over the years in Google, and Bee has gotten confirmation from eHarmony management that they’ve offered interracial matching from the beginning.

That said, rumors are tough to stop once they’ve gotten started. If there’s anything we can do to convince you, please let us know.

 
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M&M

Thanks for the clarification, Bee! I hope you are feeling better!

 
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Nigelsbride

Thank you so much, Mrs. Bee, for clearing things up. I knew a lot of those things about eHarmony to be untrue, but didn’t want to fuel the fire and get all the negative comments directed toward me when I didn’t know where to get proof. You’re definitely more informed even than me and have access to the answers, and I appreciate your quest for the truth.

The sad part is, this is a very heated issue on both sides, with lots of people and lots of differing opinions. I live near San Francisco, and it’s as heated here now as I’ve ever seen this topic about gay marriage be with the vote on Prop. 8 coming up. And the truth is, there are two main sides with two very different opinions, and both sides (and any other in between, for that matter) have the right to free speech and have the right to their beliefs/opinions, and should be respected enough as people to be treated well when they are brave enough to voice them.

I appreciate your efforts to help everyone understand that and to dissect rumors from truth. That shows a lot of integrity. All weekend I have thought about you and how hard all of this has to be for you. I support your decision, and look forward to where this community is headed. Thank you for your loving and supportive leadership!

 
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Amy

I was confused about all the eHarmony rumors, so I googled it and found a really useful article that was published in USA Today. It made clear that despite the fact that eHarmony does not donate money to Focus on the Family, it certainly has had ties with it in the past. The article makes it seem like eHarmony’s decision to distance itself from Focus on the Family was purely a business decision. Here is the link to the article:

http://www.usatoday.com/life/people/2005-05-18-eharmony_x.htm

Three relevant quotes are:

‘Warren started out marketing primarily to Christian sites, touting eHarmony as “based on the Christian principles of Focus on the Family author Dr. Neil Clark Warren.”‘

“A psychologist with a divinity degree, Warren has emerged from the Christian community — three of his 10 books on love and dating were published by conservative Focus on the Family”

“Warren says he will no longer appear on Dobson’s radio show, and he recently bought back the rights to the three books Focus on the Family published”

I hope this helps to clarify some things

 
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Mrs. Daffodil (message)  561 posts, Busy bee

Thanks so much for posting all of this, Bee. I read some of those comments and was so shocked, and it was because of all of those rumors that made me reconsider whether or not I should continue posting (particularly the one about interracial dating). Thanks so much for clearing up a lot of those misconceptions!

 
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Mr. Bee (message)  1,572 posts, Bumble bee

@Amy: Hey Amy. Bee is sleeping, but I’ll do my best to answer your question.

Bee was clearing up rumors about eHarmony giving money to Focus on the Family (now or in the past). That’s definitely not true.

I don’t think anyone’s said that there have never been any ties at all? As stated above, Focus on the Family’s radio show definitely promoted eHarmony success couples (although no money exchanged hands).

Separate from eHarmony, Dr. Neil Warren had his own publishing relationship with FotF in the early 90’s (eHarmony was founded in 2000, so this was well before then). As the article says, he bought back the rights to his books in 2005 and made a public break with the organization then. As for what drove his decision to make a break with them (if it was just a business decision or not), I have no idea…

Regardless of what drove his decision though, it’s pretty clear from the article that he has no relationship with them now. And Bee made clear in the post that the only tie that eHarmony ever had with them (that radio show) was just a PR thing that didn’t involve payment of any kind.

That was the rumor that Bee was addressing. Let me know if you have any other questions…

 
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Anna

Bee, I am 100% behind you and support your decision. I appreciate the clarification about the inter-racial dating rumor. However, I took the time to go investigate the eharmony website and I’m now a bit confused. If eHarmony does support inter-racial dating, why do all of their ads only feature same-racial couples? Take a look at some of their “success stories” they featured on their website. There are NO same-racial couples featured at all.

http://www.eharmony.com/singles/servlet/success

I studied advertising in college and this proves that they’re only advertising for the matching of straight same sex couples.

Sure, eHarmony management can claim that they’ve always offered inter-racial dating and if that’s the case, here’s a message to your marketing department - start featuring the success of same-race couples and perhaps people will start believing you.

 
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Anna

Sorry, I meant:

To eHarmony’s Marketing Department - perhaps you should start advertising the success of INTER-RACIAL couples and maybe people will start believing that you actually do offer that service.

http://www.eharmony.com/singles/servlet/success

If you take a look at the videos and photos on eHarmony’s website, there are no inter-racial couples featured. The fact that you’re solely advertising the success of same-race couples proves the idea that you’re narrow-minded and not open to the LGBT community AND you’re also not open to the idea of inter-racial dating as well.

 
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Mr. Bee (message)  1,572 posts, Bumble bee

@Anna: Hey Anna - I went to that link you posted, and two of the couples are inter-racial?

Aaron and Caroline are an Asian female/White male combo (like my parents actually - I am half-Japanese):
http://www.eharmony.com/singles/servlet/success/tv-caroline-aaron

Claire and Haroot are also interracial - I think Haroot is Armenian:
http://www.eharmony.com/singles/servlet/success/tv-claire-haroot

I actually didn’t find these myself - they were part of a list of interracial eHarmony TV couples listed here, on a site that seems generally pretty skeptical on eHarmony:
http://www.pinoy.ca/eharmony/707

I definitely agree that eHarmony should promote more interracial couples, especially on TV - including some of those less common combinations of races. But it’s definitely not true that eHarmony has never featured an interracial couple in its advertising.

 
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Miss Avocado (message)  1,412 posts, Bumble bee

@Anna: Anna, this couple look like they come from different cultural/racial backgrounds or whatever you would like to call it.

http://www.eharmony.com/why/dimensions

All the couples on the site look happy, no matter what their race is. I think that is what really matters anyways.

I am not speaking for the Bees or eHarmony, but I would assume that couples of the same race match because of the 29 factors that come into play. eHarmony matches based on Spirituality, Family Goals, Traditionalism, Ambition, Altruism, Family Background, Family Status, and Education and those are all factors that are hugely influenced by what culture/race a person belongs to. Good thing I didn’t try to meet Mr. Avocado on eHarmony, I don’t think they would have EVER matched up his 4.0 masters degree Polish background with my much lower GPA unfinished degree farming background :)

 
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Mr. Bee (message)  1,572 posts, Bumble bee

@Miss Avocado: Hey Avo - yah that looks like Aaron and Caroline.

You raise a good point - I wonder if Bee and I would match if we answered all the questions? We will never know, because I could never fill in a questionnaire with that many questions!

 
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alison

Mr. Bee I hope you went to sleep after your last post!

 
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Mrs. Pineapple (message)  676 posts, Busy bee

Thank you so much for this post Mrs. Bee. I hope it gets as much traffic as the other post that helped to spread many of these rumors.

eHarmony still has work to do to support marriages of every kind, but knowing the facts gives me more faith that this will happen.

That editing comment did confuse a lot of readers and bees alike so it is great to know that it was done for all the right reasons and with the authors’ final blessing.

 
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Mrs. Snow Pea (message)  473 posts, Helper bee

Yes, please respect one another. You do not all have to agree on everything, if anything. Just respect one another and try to think about what your words are doing to one another. Mrs. Bee has nothing but the best intentions for weddingbee, the Bees, and our readers which have contributed so much into building this community. As she has said before, she will continue to run weddingbee with the same integrity. So if you have any questions regarding anything you’ve been reading elsewhere, please ask her.

I think questions regarding eHarmony’s dating/advertising/software should be directed to eHarmony. I think Mr. Bee has been incredibly patient and informative. Thank you for that! But weddingbee is and has always been a blog for the bride or groom documenting their journey through the wedding planning process in a community that is supportive. That is unchanged and WE HAVE inter-racial couples (myself included). So let’s please remember the changes in our history, culture and family that we have made.

 
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amysue

Thanks for clarifying, Mrs. Bee, and also for posting the farewell posts of the other bloggers. Those actions go a long way toward reassuring readers that ‘bee isn’t going to change.

 
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anon

That eHarmony has ever at any point had any kind of ties with notoriously anti-choice, anti-woman organization FotF is enough. You can spin and spin and spin all day long and believe what your new corporate overlords tell you, but you’re still losing Bees with good reason. Peace out.

 
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cassoftroy

To clarify then, so it is acceptable to discriminate against the LGBT community and not inter-racial couples?

As a Black woman marrying a White man, I am quite sure that if the internet and internet dating sites existed in the 60’s or the 70’s there would have been a ban on inter-racial matches. Please see the case of Loving v. Virginia where an inter-racial couple had to go to the Supreme court to have their marriage validated.

eHarmony has said that they don’t match homosexuals because their research has only been based on hetero couples. That is BS. If eHarmony existed 30 years ago, please believe they would use the same “our research was based only on same race couples” in an effort to effectively ban inter-racial matching.

Discrimination is discrimination.

 
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Mr. Bee (message)  1,572 posts, Bumble bee

@anon: Anon - We definitely respect your perspective, and will miss you as a reader.

In one of your earlier comments, you mentioned that eHarmony “highly discourages interracial and interfaith relationships”. I hope that the post above clears that up.

@cassoftroy: I also believe that all dating sites should support same-sex matching, and believe that day will soon come. The post above was not meant in any way to defend eHarmony; it was just clearing up some factual rumors that had been been coming up in recent comments.

 
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Mrs. Tiramisu (message)  877 posts, Busy bee

Thank you for this post, which certainly clears up a lot of concerns that I had after reading through the comments from last week. I have full confidence in you, Mrs. Bee. Now please get yourself feeling better soon!

 
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Dreika

Anon you keep telling us each and everyday that you are “not coming back” but u have been coming back and posting a comment everyday since we’ve heard the news. Give it up already.

 
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Mr. Bee (message)  1,572 posts, Bumble bee

@Dreika: There have been many users who have commented as “anon” over the past few days… this particular anon never said they were not coming back.

 
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marilyn

Mr. and Mrs. Bee, thanks for the clarifications. I applaud you both for the courage you have displayed during this rough period . I believe WB will continue to be a place where all are encouraged to express themselves and I will proudly continue to be a part of this community.

 
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soontobeewed

Congratulations to both of you for the sale of weddingbee after all of the hardwork you have put into the site for so many years! Conflict always results with change, most people don’t like change and most people have strong views about pretty much everything. Rumors will always be spread by careless words…I hate them as much as you do. Regardless of negative comments and feedback you get, you should both know that what you have accomplished is a great thing and weddingbee will continue to grow and expand and attract new readers every day. I will definitely continue to support and recommend weddingbee to all my friends and clients!

 
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Mrs. Lovebug (message)  714 posts, Busy bee

@Mrs. Ant - actually, the comment to which Mrs. Bee referred above was Mrs. Gingerbread’s? For the record, my own statement was that the post underwent a great deal of scrutiny from both sides (which, as Mrs. Bee has acknowledged, was part of what accounted for the time lapse between public and private announcements).

 
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Mrs. Cherry Pie

Thank you for this post, Bee! I’m glad its helped to clear some things up. I was feeling pretty uncomfortable with the direction the comments on the other post were heading.

I’m still unhappy with eHarmony’s LGBTQ practice/policy/whatever, but I am very glad that you clarified the truth of other accusations.

 
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Mrs. Bee (message)  3,261 posts, Sugar bee

@Mrs. Lovebug: just to clarify - the delay was not due to scrutiny. what i stated was that the cause for the delay in between the private announcement to the bees and the public announcement to the readers was due to eHarmony preparing their response to the bees’ posts.

 
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Starry-Eyed Barefoot Bride

Yeah for clarification! I was already optimistic enough and placing enough trust in the Bee Fam to stick around as a reader (and bee-wannabee ;) but I am THRILLED to hear the clarification about Focus on the Family. I actually knew nothing about them before this whole hulabaloo, but am not a fan after recent explanations of some of their teachings. I think being so anti-eHarm for their past association is a little narrow minded. Plenty of normal, level headed, animal friendly people are/used to be members of PETA… doesn’t mean they think tossing paint on people (or any of the other extreme PETA acts) is ok! I too believe that eHarmony should offer same sex matching, but its not my company!
Mr. Bee - bravo for stepping in to eloquently handle comments and posts while Mrs Bee gets some rest!

 
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suzanno (message)  2,694 posts, Sugar bee

@cassoftroy - you are quite right - back in the 60s and 70s, not only would a dating service not have matched an inter-racial couple, but many places would not have rented them an apartment, or sold them a house. I have a good friend whose parents had that problem. His mother used to go apartment shopping with their pastor, as if they went together they would be summarily dismissed.

I think it must be pretty clear that eHarmony is not against inter-racial relationships - otherwise why would they ever have bought a site like Weddingbee? There are numerous inter-racial relationships on this site.

I think it’s fair to give Weddingbee a chance to see whether things change with the “new management.” I fully intend to do that. And I hope that the site will continue to address issues like cross-cultural relationships, blending of families, and same-sex relationships - in a loving and supportive manner, rather than in a controversial or political manner. I believe that in general, that is how you change perceptions and prejudices - by convincing people that you are more like them than not - rather than by seeming so different that it is somehow threatening to them.

I think that Mr. Bee and a few others have a good point though. While it’s wonderful that eHarmony is so successful, being a whole lot like your partner does not a successful marriage make. And learning the skills to make a loving relationship work - when your backgrounds are not identical or even similar - is a huge accomplishment, and I believe it is one that makes you a better person, and leads ultimately to a better world. Surrounding yourself with people just like you is comfortable, but not necessarily a path for growth. Cheers to everyone out there who has the courage and the maturity to try to be (and be with) someone a little different from them!

 
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Mrs. Lovebug (message)  714 posts, Busy bee

Oh, cool - thanks for clearing that up, Mrs. Bee. Things were definitely confusing there for a little while!

 
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cassoftroy

@suzanno:

I am not saying that eHarmony prohibits inter-racial matches. I don’t have any proof that they do or don’t. My point is that discrimination is discrimination. And if a company is willing to practice it against any group, it is wrong.

 
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Mrs X

@Mrs. Bee: You deserves some mad props for your late night “rumor watch”. Thank you!

 
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Mrs X

Ooops! That was directed to @Mr. Bee, but really, you both deserve some props! :)

 
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sbush777

I also just wanted to encourage you Bee! Rumors wil die down, and Weddingbee has staying power, regardless of the changes. Thank you for staying so honest with us a readers and allowing everyone to have a say in the matter. I am glad that this issue is coming to an end! Your integrity with this whole transition has been phenomenal…don’t get down, there will always be those who have to bring down others to lift themselves up. You are doing an amazing job, keep it up!

 
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Zoe

I will continue to watch Weddingbee as I’d like to see how it changes (for good or bad) under new management. Rumors are going to be hard to quell b/c it’s so hard to prove one way or the other for certain things. Like editing and eHarmony’s stance on inter-whatever relationships…unless there are stats on the couples or someone outside of Weddingbee is watching the editing process, all you can do now is say “This is untrue b/c we say so.” We shall see… :T

 
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saramari (message)  315 posts, Helper bee

Thanks for all of the clarification, Mrs. Bee. I followed all of the comments last week, and I completely had the impression that the posts had been edited and that you had to bow to eHarmony’s wishes when posting them. Your clarification has really reassured me that Weddingbee really won’t change in spirit.

That said, I can’t imagine what it must have been like for you to read all of those crazy posts and all of that hoopla. I was incensed when you announced the sale, but feel much differently after your clarifications and after some thought. The idea of censorship bothered me more than anything else, so I’m glad to hear that this isn’t the case. Thanks again! :)

 
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MaryG

I guess this just goes to show that some of you were right. Some people who claimed they were done with this site, are in fact still here, reading the posts and commenting.

Thanks for taking the time to clear up these rumors, Mrs and Mr. Bee. I’m sure all of the readers still participating in this site appreciate getting to the bottom of these rumors. Keep up the hard work and to all of the Bee’s, bring on the wedding goodness! I can’t wait to hear the details of all of the Bee’s getting married in the next few weeks.

 
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Holy crap-on-a-stick what one can miss in a couple of days! I feel sad. All of this back and forth shee ite is why I left the knut. Hopefully WB will return to normal soon :(

 
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Excited for Change

First I will like to say congrats on the sale of weddingbee. I am sure it must be exciting even through all this maddness.

Also, I have to say thanks for clearing things up. I didn’t comment on all the stuff over the weekend because I was confident that Mrs. Bee will try to clarify things once she is settled in and feeling better.

As a black womanfrom Africa marrying a latino man I was a little concerned based on what I read over the weekend (oh I read all over 500 comments and a few blogs). I was concerned mainly because I have looked forward to the day I can apply as a bee since I was hoping I can share our different cultures and how we are trying to meld both. I was worried that Weddingbee will become a reminder of some of the discrimination that my Fiance and I still face today.

So thanks for keeping that hope alive for me because I will love to help those in same situation as me. Also, thanks for clearing the rumors. :)

I hope the rumors and negativity die down soon. Best of luck.

Thanks

 
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frenchbulldog (message)  6,063 posts, Bee Keeper

Bee -
Thank you for clarifying :)

 
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WMforever

I’ve missed sooo much! I just wanted to congratulate Weddingbee! This is awesome news and something many blog owners dream of. Its sad that its caused so much controversy but I am very grateful that you are clearing up any rumors. Responsible people should research before they jump on the negativity bandwagon. It will all die down soon and weddingbee will hopefully conitnue to be the amazing resource that brides rely on!

 
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Anna

Okay, sorry. So eHarmony does advertise inter-racial couples. Thanks for pointing that out and catching my mistake. I think we can all agree that they should advertise MORE inter-racial couples than they are already doing though.

I never said that Weddingbee doesn’t support inter-racial couples. I am very aware of the inter-racial couples here including Mr. & Mrs. Bee, Snowpeas, etc. I agree that the point I was trying to make should have been directed at eHarmony itself, and I have sent them my thoughts and opinions about their advertising. I just hoped they would read it here since this is obviously their site now as well.

Anyway, I am glad that we are moving forward and I truly hope that eHarmony will see the wonderful, diverse community that is present on this site and change their marketing strategies to include everyone as well.

 
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Yes, thank you for this clarifying post about the inter-racial dating thing. I regret any comments I made to previous posts that perpetuated that rumor. Good luck in the future, Bees! :)

 


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