Wedding Blog

I wasn’t going to say anything. Hundreds of people have already chimed in to share their opinions, many of which were thought provoking and eloquently written while others, not so much… but I have said nothing. I have not stayed quiet because I am a coward, as some have alluded to, nor to further extend my theoretical 15 minutes of iFame.

I haven’t weighed in publicly with a post or a comment because that’s simply not how I function.

I started this little blog as a creative outlet for the flood of emotions that washed over me when I began planning our wedding. I would spend countless hours trolling the interwebs in search of fresh wedding porn and a different perspective than that of el Knot. When I stumbled upon Weddingbee I found my personal Valhalla—a community of brides who were endlessly creative, fabulously talented, and all a bit quirky (which I LOVE!!). When I was actually accepted to be a bee I rode that high for a week! It was an amazing feeling to be welcomed into such a remarkable and diverse group of people. The outpouring of support that I’ve seen and experienced amongst the bees is something that I hold very dear and am deeply grateful for.

We have a saying in our house that goes something like, “the world is far more sophisticated and nuanced than a sound bite”. I feel this situation is much more than black or white, that it is a varied shade of gray, the depth of which has yet to determined.

I understand how personal the decision to stay or go has been for some of the bees. I have nothing but respect and fond memories of those who have chosen to leave and wish them nothing but love and success for the future. I truly hope that in leaving they find peace and satisfaction that they are fighting for. It is for those reasons that I chose to stay.

I care not if I am judged. In fact, this entire experience has been fantastically eye opening as it has provided me (and I’m sure countless others) a space for thoughtful reflection. In the past 24 hours I have gained volumes of respect for people I barely know and pushed some of my former wedding idols off their metaphorical pedestals.

As in everything, it is my belief that this too shall pass. What is left is what we make of it.

xoxo