Wedding Blog
(Photo of our church earlier that week. Photo by my father)
I wish that I could say that our wedding was perfect. Not many weddings are. I just wish our wedding had been a little bit closer to what I had been expecting. I’ll post in depth recaps later, but right now, I just have to get this off of my chest.
MAJOR THINGS THAT WENT WRONG AT OUR WEDDING
1. It rained - and not just in a “ooh, dear, there’s a drizzle’ kind of way - but in a black sky, horizontal, driving, freezing sleet kind of way. All day. As in, the umbrellas we got were useless, and all of our planned shots became impossible. We ended up getting our group photos taken in a gymnasium.
2. We don’t have any adorable outside shots because of the rain. We barely have ANY shots because photographic creativity apparently became extinct during our photo session time. How about you…stand in front of this window and hold hands. Now repeat that shot in front of another store window - hold - hey, why are you crying? I should have just had my dad take the photos and saved ourselves the money.
3. The florist put our gorgeous bouquets into the fridge in our garage. The fridge that is set to freezing because of its usual contents. Our bouquets froze to death. Luckily, the florist was able to drive back, and pick up some stand-in filler flowers from the grocery store, but our bouquets were definitely looking deceased. My gorgeous white and pink bouquet? Brown, white, and wilted. After the ceremony, we didn’t use them - and I had been SO. IN. LOVE. with my bouquet.
4. I lost so much weight in the weeks leading up to the wedding that my dress looks deflated in my chest area. I look like Nicole Richie in the wedding photos that I have seen so far.
6. Someone put black polyester table cloths on the accent tables instead of the upgraded soft gold pintuck linens that we had ordered and paid for. As a result, all those DIY projects I had spent so many hours on look awful. I am not even joking - try to imagine all that pale pink, yellow, and gold on ugly faded black table cloths. “Wow,” said one guest, “those table cloths look evil.”
*sob*
When we finally reached the reception, soaking, photo-less, and half-frozen, I couldn’t concentrate on anything. I sat numbly at the head table, glumly staring at my empty plate. Mr. Shortcake asked my if I wanted to eat anything. I asked for fruit. He brought me pickles. A couple of my bridesmaids started crying. Then my contact fell out and that was the last straw. I ran as fast as my broken hoopskirt/bustle/shoes (they somehow expanded because of the humidity, and I couldn’t keep them on my feet!) would let me, and once in the bathroom, bawled my eyes out.
For all of my preparation, all those details I had slaved over for over a year, nothing was going right. I was so beyond disappointed in some of our vendors. We didn’t have any good photos, all my DIY looked like crap because of the table cloths, I looked like a starving prisoner of war, and all I wanted to do was throw up. Everywhere.
{stayed tuned for part II.}
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Wow.
Oh, Shortcake! I’m sending some internet hugs your way…I hope you were able to enjoy part of your day.
Oh no Shortcake! I am so sorry things didn’t go well. Do you have a honeymoon to go and enjoy? Take heart in knowing that you are married to your love!!
omigosh!! I just want to reach out and give you a hug!! I hope things got better…?
MRS. Shortcake — of all the bees, your posts have been high up there on my list of the best and most entertaining to read. I’m so sorry your day wasn’t as perfect as you imagined, but the important thing (and someday, maybe you can believe this too!) is that you are MRS. Shortcake now… and that’s pretty awesome.
sorry to hear about all the mishaps! i’m also hoping that part 2 gets better. 
I’m sorry that happened to you. Big hugs coming your way. 
Another big hug to you Shortie! Let me tell you that my wedding day wasn’t what I expected either… but now you are MARRIED! Go relax and enjoy being with your husband
Shortcake, I’m so sorry your day wasn’t as expected. I agree with Michelle, the day didn’t go as planned, but at least you two are finally husband and wife.
Oh, you poor thing! I am so sorry that all didn’t turn out as you hoped. Even though I am sure you looked lovely.
I also cried at my wedding (for different reasons but I similarly just felt that nothing was going right) and I just want to say it’s OK to feel awful and dissapointed.
Oh. My. Gosh.
Seriously, ohmygosh.
please post an update soon. It *had* to get better…right?
Oh Mrs. Shortcake! I am so sorry that all those things happened….I hope writing about it and getting it off your chest helps. Things will always go differently than you planned, especially at a wedding, but you do sound like you had a tough time.
The most important thing is that you are now MRS. (ding! ding! ding!) Shortcake!
Congratulations and BIG HUGS to you!
Oh Shortie! I’m so sorry that your day was not as you’d planned. I had some similar things go wrong at mine and I have to admit, it still stings a bit when I look at pictures.
But, I also have to say that my marriage (the whole point of the wedding, remember) is wonderful and I am absolutely sure that yours will be too!
I completely understand the disappointment that you are feeling right now and the sadness that may stay with you for a while but don’t let it overshadow the fact that you are married to the love of your life and you have so many other beautiful love-filled days ahead of you!
Awwww, shorty — this post makes me sad!!! I hope part 2 gets better
I’m so, so sorry that your day ended up like that. Many hugs being sent your way, right. about NOW! I can’t wait to hear the rest and hopefully there is a light at the end of the tunnel.
Most importantly - congrats on being married, MRS. Shortcake! Enjoy!
I’m sorry to hear that things didn’t go so well. You put so much work and love into it that I’m sure it’s tough to handle.
Best wishes to you both in the rest of your marriage together.
I am SO sorry! Hopefully your night got better and you were able to enjoy your wedding. I want to hear more…
Gosh I’m sooo sorry to hear that MONSTER HUG for you and everyone is right, the most important thing is that you are married to Mr. Shortie!!!
Oh no. I’m so sorry. Take a really deep breath… and later this week, call your photographer. We also didn’t get any outside photos, which was a disappointment to us. Bright and early the next week DH and I called the photographer - and then the florist - and arranged another photography shoot. I am so glad that we did, as it was so much fun. I got a whole new bouquet, and we got all dressed up again, and spent several hours cavorting around the golf course at the country club that was our venue. It was part formal outdoor portrait, part TTD, and all fabulous fun. By the end of the session we had people following in golf carts!! Our photographer did it all for no additional charge, as he knew how much we had wanted outdoor shots.
I think it’s natural to feel disappointed about the things that didn’t go right, and of course in some cases the moment is gone and there is not much you can do (except tell the stories to your children and grandchildren!) But you can have a wonderful time getting additional photographs, and you should!
I’m SO sorry that your day didn’t go as planned. I’m nearly in tears for you right now.
Can you maybe schedule another photographer to do a later-date shoot to get pictures of you & your hubby?
HUGS!!!!
I hope this gets better! I’ve loved reading your stories and your pictures–everything was so lovely and I’m sure the same can be said of your marriage in the years to come!
*hugs*
I hope things look up in Part II!!!
I second nkc’s comment.
Oh no, I hope it gets better. And I seriously hope you get refunds. How in the heck can they confuse pintuck linens with boring black frickin’ polyester?!
oh no… i’m SO sorry! i hope in part two there will be something memorable and good? i feel so terrible…
*HUGE HUGS* I’m so sorry Shortie!
We love you! Hopefully you can get pictures on another day like Mrs. Flamingo But I know that doesn’t make up for the other mishaps.
aw love - if anyone deserved a lovely picture perfect wedding day, it was you!! I hope that part 2 gets better for you.
BEE HUGS! OMG! Lady, please tell me Part 2 is something good! I feel so sad for you! You can always go back and have picture retaken! Let us know how we can help!
I am ready to cry. At least you have a new husband to share your DIY sorrows with!
*HUG*
Maybe you can have a do-over? I can picture the most awesome vow-renewal ceremony ever!
Oh honey, I’m so, so sorry. I had a few disappointments in my own wedding day and I know how hearbreaking it can be. I hope you have some good things to report in Part Two and know that you can vent to us as much as you want!
I’m so sorry! I’m still excited to see your pics and hear how the rest of the day went! I hope you’ll be able to do a post wedding photo shoot to get the pics you wanted!
Mrs. Shortcake, I am so sorry to read this! Sometimes we get so wrapped up in the details of the wedding that we forget the bigger picture- you are now united *forever* to the love of your life. 50 years from now, no one will remember the black table cloth or the frozen petals, but will remember the promise of love the two of you made to each other. Congratulations on your wedding and the best of luck to you in the future. Cheer up!
:: hug ::
i’m so sorry your day wasn’t as expected! i hope there were some bright spots in your day. hopefully part 2 gets better.
ps. i would have been mad about the pickles too! blech.
Oh no! I’m so sorry. I agree with the others, schedule a week after shoot asap!!!!
{hug}
I, too, anxiously await your part two, in hope that it does indeed get better! Congratulations on your marriage to Mr. Shortcake, too!
Mrs. Shortcake:
I was anxiously awaiting your wedding and I was shocked to read your first wedding post! Words cannot describe how we all can empathize with you, since the things that happened on your wedding day are what we all fear. The preparation, research, and not to mention money on vendor contracts that you spent must intensify all the disappoint of a thing like weather which is out of anyone’s control. I know, more than “be positive,”the one thing you would like to hear is agreement. So, I’ll come up there and kick your silly vendors for not stepping up and have a talent or even thoughtfulness that can overcome unforeseen events.
As long as you have one, just one picture to hand down to your children, you can salvage a memory. Many of the vintage brides you love only had one portrait that survived. You always have the opportunity to have a post-wedding shoot in your dress with your hubby and a NEW photographer so you can have some amazing portraits (in the sun). You will have a portrait and you will have the documentation on weddingbee to preserve the event that celebrates the happiest, most perfect thing in your life: your love for Mr. Shortcake.
You are beautiful and talented. Even if your wedding didn’t showcase those facts in all of their glory, you have a lifetime of milestones to celebrate that will give you ample opportunity to use your enviable DIY skills!
I am so sorry too, though I know saying so probably does not offer much consolation.
Somehow I doubt that all of your gorgeous DIY looked awful; it was too beautiful to look awful no matter what! Your wedding details were some of my all-time favorites on the ‘bee, and I have been reading since early 2007!
I also like the idea of doing a post wedding photo shoot with new flowers in a fun place…perhaps you also have an excuse to eat whatever you want to for awhile in order to fill your dress out more:)
Shortie, a GIANT hug. I am keeping my fingers crossed for the next part of the recap . . . . In the meantime, I send you all my good vibes.
i hope part 2 is that you won the lottery and you’re set for life <3
and i hope you’ll still share your wedding! i know i was really excited to see it!
*big hugs*
I’m so sorry, Shortcake! I know it sucks to go through all that planning only to be disappointed with the end result, but the only thing that really mattered did happen: you are now MRS. Shortcake! I’m looking forward to part 2!
oh shortie i feel so so bad for you. hopefully when a bit of time passes, it won’t seem as bad as it does now.
we’ve followed your wedding planning every step of the way, relishing in all your fabulous diy projects. i hope you can feel all of us sending you tons of bee love!!!!!!
Oh my gosh! You poor thing! I can’t imagine how horrible if must have felt to see all your hard work that you spent months planning and preparing for look “off” because someone messed up on the tablecloths! I feel just awful for you. Remember though that the only person who knows how it was SUPPOSED to look is you and everyone else will think that it was beautiful. Sending you hugs!!
Attitude is everything. Rain sucks, yes. Things did not go “as planned”. But one can choose to see only the “wrong” or you could have chosen to enjoy having all the most important people in your life gathered in one place, rain or shine, to wish you and your new husband well. Too bad you chose the former.
oh Shortie.. I’m so sorry everything didn’t go as planned!!! At least the most important thing went right and you are now married to Mr. Shortie and you are a Mrs.!! I know it had to have been heartbreaking to see everything you have been pouring your love into for the past year to fall apart *hug*
Yup, I’m with Mrs Bee… Much bee love to you!!!
I hope while in the bathroom, someone came in (after letting you bawl for a bit, cause - well - you earned it) and made you laugh and realize that as much effort and heart went into the things that went wrong.. mission still accomplished. This whole shindig was for marrying, and you did. I hope someone was there to remind you of that so you didnt spend the whole time being sad.
Oh - and I hope some people gave you some REALLY good hugs!
I’m so sorry that things went so badly on the day you put so much effort into planning!
I say you eat a lot on your honeymoon and go retake some creative, outside, sunshiney photos with your new husband!
Also, sometimes demanding a refund from crappy vendors can be cathartic! (Florist and photographer, plus a refund for the gold tablecloths, sounds like a good jumping off point.)
I’m sooooo SORRY! I had hope you had a BEAUTIFUL day…all your stuff was GREAT!!!
I really hope you guys had fun in the end…I really really hope so.
(((hugs)))
Nooo. Oh, Mrs Shortcake, I’m so sorry. But like a PP said, your DIY projects were beautiful enough to carry on their own - hopefully they’re not as bad as you think. Also, ask your photographer if there isn’t a do-over option - mine has that if the weather is impossible they will schedule a reshoot. Alternatively get a new photographer and do a TTD or couple shoot in your dress.
HUGE HUGS from the far corner of the globe…
i’m so sorry you weren’t happy with the ways things unfolded. can you have a photo do-over at least? see if your photographer would be willing to offer you a free (or maybe discounted) “after” session and maybe your florist will make you another bouquet so you can have some photos that will make you smile and think of a sunny afternoon together.
the best part though — you’re married to the man you love!! try to focus on that.
oh god, i feel so bad. i was so hoping this entry would end with an early “april fools!” joke you planned the most beautiful wedding, i’m hoping the next part of your wedding recap will be full of happiness and sunshine and pretty flowers, cos that’s what you deserve. not pickles and crappy weather!
Oh shortie, I am so, so sorry you suffered many disappointments during your wedding day! The others are right: you can always have pictures retaken, and the most importantest thing is that you are now married! To the love of your life! I’m hoping that Part II looksup and that you partied your pretty patoot off.
Oh honey, I wanna give you a real big hug!
Shortcake, this is so sad. I feel that, out of all of the bees, you truly put the most heart, soul, and creativity into your projects (and that’s saying a lot - there are some talented bees out there!).
If it makes you feel any better, there was a torrential, TORRRENTIAL downpour on my wedding day, as well- and a lot of things went wrong. I think that, in the end, your day was probably viewed as beautiful, gorgeous, and fun by all of your guests, but you had such high expectations, due to all of the work YOU know YOU did, that it was all you could do not to let the tears flow. But you got to marry Mr. Shortcake, right?!
Weddings are so weird- you only get one (hopefully). One puts so, so much work and hope into it that I think, no matter how flawlessly it went, we all want a do-over. It’s not fair. I hope part II is a happy ending.
I feel for you, Shortie. The sky sobbed big buckets of rain on the day of my wedding just as we were about to leave the church, and my photographer definitely made it worse by doing the entire 1980’s-super-cheese wedding shots that I strictly forbade…all while inside the empty room in our reception hall. I still look back on it and cry a little bit. It’s hard. I can’t even bring myself to look at pictures. I’m heartbroken, especially considering we spent a pretty penny on them, and during the actual reception, they parked themselves in one corner of the room and didn’t get any other shots. Our guests took way better shots. It’s over now though, and I just have to keep telling myself that it doesn’t matter in the long run. It’s just hard not to feel jealous when other brides gush about their day and I have to deal with blazing humidity and pouring rain (who knew such a thing existed?). I hope you feel better, if only slightly, about what went down, and hopefully we both can put it past us. Wayyyy past us.
Ohh shortie…. while I didn’t have any weather problems, I had a similar photographic lapse of creativity for our group shots… taken in FULL sunlight… shadows everywhere… no cute poses… only 3 shots of me and my ladies together… all somewhat stiff looking. =( I hope part two gets better, and I’m sure the guests still thought your DIY things were LOVELY.
Mrs. Shortcake, I’ve admired and envied your style and creativity ever since I became a WB reader, and I can’t blame you for feeling bummed that this celebration you planned so carefully didn’t turn out the way you wanted because people you paid to do things on the day didn’t follow through (faded black tablecloths vs. pintucked pink linen? Not even close).
I’m still looking forward to seeing the shots of the day — I’d be willing to bet a fair amount of money that I’ll still be blown away, and still totally envious of your awesome vintage style!
Oh my god sweetie - I know this doesnt help much after all your hard work and planning, but watch the season 6 episode of sex and the city “the catch”, in which charlotte and harry’s ceremony goes from “jewish law to murphy’s law” where carrie tells a crying charlotte “the worse the wedding, the better the marriage”. What’s important is that you have a man who loves you and you love him and you get to spend the rest of your lives laughing about wedding screw-ups. Any maybe you’ll have an a-maz-ing honeymoon. We had a picture perfect wedding and then the honeymoon was a disaster (the food was barely edible at our all-inclusive, and there was a tropical storm and not in the good “oh we get to stay in our sexy suite and have great honeymoon-you-know-what” way - I mean i have about 50(!) scars from my flea bites that I got from our hotel room/bed…and they still itch a month later). So in conclusion, watch that episode, I know it will help!! : ) All my love and best wishes for your marriage!
PS … maybe you can plan an awesome vintage take 2 reception that the rental company will give you FREE gold rentals for and the florist will give you FREE re-done bouquets for and the guys can wear cute non rental suits and your dad can take adorable pics that you actually want! I’m a planner getting started with my business in seattle if you want any free help as a wedding gift
HUG HUG HUG!!
Pickles? Pickles! Oh honey, not what we all wanted to hear. Look how adorable your little church is though. Begone memories of evil black tablecloths. Hello to married life!
OMG. Noooo! I’m so sorry to hear that, Shortie. Whatever happens, you’re still my favorite bee!
You poor thing. I can COMPLETELY understand how disspirited you must have felt. But now you are married, and I guarantee you that even though now it seems awful, in 10 years, when you are happily married, it will seem funny.
Comedy = Tragedy + Time.
I’m killing the weather gods for you, RIGHT NOW. I hope Part II brings a smiling Shortcake!
oh no.
I cried a little when I read this. Im so scared for my wedding now.Your post are my FAVORITE and even if you didnt get the wedding you deserved…youre a legend around here!!!
Oh, honey! I’m so sorry! {{{ HUG }}}
Let it out!! It’s okay to be sad. You had so carefully planned every detail, and weddings are so emotional anyway. But don’t get too discouraged. I think it’s really, really good that you’re expressing your disappointment (and rightly so), but with some time, you may start to focus on the things that did go well.
I’m sure your FI (now HUSBAND!) was overwhelmed with joy when he saw you. Think of how meaningful it was to say your vows to each other in front of your family and friends. And your parents’ couldn’t have been prouder of your creativity and how beautiful you were, or happier to see you marry someone so right for you. And your photographers photos are going to turn out fine, even in a gymnasium! (My SIL’s photos were taken in a hotel hallway, and you’d never know!)
No one’s wedding is perfect. Our wedding had substantial, um, errors. Our friends and family LOVE relaying to us all the things that went wrong with THEIR weddings. My in-laws’ wedding party and guests had to take turns attending the ceremony (long story). My parents don’t have any photos because the film didn’t advance. My cousin’s BM was so drunk that he lost the rings. A friend’s MOH vomited during the ceremony. And us, well among other things, I was 45-minutes late to the wedding and we forgot the rings, but didn’t realize it until during the ceremony. After a little time passed, my DH and I could at least laugh about the things that went wrong. Hold in there! — And think about how much you deserve that HONEYMOON!!!
oh i’m so sorry that things didn’t quite go how you had planned. while it sucks thinking about it now just know that no one will forget your wedding. it snowed so much on my sister’s wedding day that they closed the highways in CT (living there my whole life i think i knew of ONE other time that happened). not everyone was able to make it to the wedding and some people only made it to the reception (just barely as it was on top of a hill) but everyone remembers my sister’s wedding. it may not be for hte reasons you want but it’s something. because quite honestly no one was going to look back years from now and say “remember how well the tableclothes matched the colors scheme” but they will say “oh my gosh i remember her wedding. it was pouring rain but the whole thing went off anyway and we had a great time!”
sucks that you were so upset but you were still able to get married and that’s all that matters. (i know you’re gonna kick the next person who says that, hope it’s not me)
Oh Shortie!! So much love coming your way…
D: Wow… I empathize with you for sure. There were definitely things that didn’t go as planned for us, including rain… but it all turned out OK in the end, right?
Nooo! I’m so sorry that you didn’t get the wedding you deserved! You worked so hard, and made so many amazing things! I really hope that Part II has a happy ending!
I was thinking about the reshoots that people have mentioned. Did you save a lot of your DIY things? Like the amazing card box? If so, I think you should get the pin-tuck linens (they owe you!), and recreate some of the things you planned on. You can throw them in your album instead of the black linen ones! I’m a huge fan of being in denial!
I’m so sorry to hear your day did not go as planned! I hope everything turned out well in the end! Hugs!!!
im so sorry!!! dont get all the hype that this was ur one day of happiness get u down because it is NOT. it would have been nice to have a great wedding and the costs would have been worth it. but God will make something even more beautiful for u some other way. believe me ive been telling this to myself after my less than beautiful wedding (NO ONE ate the crab cake appetizer b/c it sucked-so embarrasing; no perimeter lighting that cost a fortune, bouquets disgusting and cheap looking at cost me over $500, centerpieces with so much limp green leaves they looked like they were melting) ughhh
BUT a month now after the wedding i actually have started to let goooo (slowly,,,lol) ull do the same!!
Well, I like how you seem to have a sense of humor about it
But I know how disappointment goes with weddings. As bad as you may be feeling now, I am SURE you will look back with your new husband and laugh.
Congrats on being married!
I agree that a wonderful vow renewal anniversary celebration type party is in order!
Aw, honey! Hope there were a few parts of the day (maybe detailed in Part II?) that were full of love and joy.
And I love Mindy’s point above about having “just one good photo” — so true. Even if you had dozens and dozens of great pics, you’d really only print, frame, and focus on one or two….
I’m really sorry to hear that, but we’ve got your back! Vent away!
I’m still waiting for the April Fool’s joke in there. I hope things get better in part 2. I do know that you are gorgeous and I’m sure you looked lovely!
Oh honey… so sorry!
I am all sad-chills for you. I’m sending hugs too…
I hope it gets better.
And if it doesn’t, you deserve a heck of a day (week/month) after photo shoot!
Ok if Part II is a happy one, I think we all need to see it soon! I feel sooo bad for you - I can’t imagine the heartache after slaving away so hard for so long.
I am so sorry!!! I know I don’t fully understand how upset you must have been, since it wasn’t I who spent hundreds of hours planning the most important day.. but I am sure you were a beautiful bride and you are now married to the person you love the most! I hope part 2 of your story has better news…
Oh no, can you please get to part two now so we can see that it turns out ok… it does turn out ok right?!
Oh honey I am so sorry to hear so many things went wrong. And you do indeed have every right to be angry and disappointed in the way things played out. You need to vent and the hive is a great support network so we are here if you need us. But I too am keeping my fingers crossed that things improved :).
I definitly feel your pain our florist totally didnt give us the flowers I had asked for and my bouquet was something I seriously was ready to cry about, since flowers were a HUGE thing for me. And then I walked into our reception hall and had a PINK cake when it was supposed to be various shades of Brown. At that point I just turned to my MH and said “Pink? Hmm I dont remember asking for a Pink cake, yeah definitly didnt ask for a Pink cake, cause I HATE PINK!” And no I didnt cry and I did still have a great time but do I still get pissed that the cake and the flowers were not even close to what they should have been yeah and that’s ok cause now I can kinda laugh at it. As a pp said Comedy is indeed Time + Tragedy.
I am sorry things went poorly but congrats on the Marriage to Mr. Shortie and hopefully it is true that the worse the wedding the better the Marriage! Lots of hugs!
THE BIGGEST AND BADDEST CYBER HUG EVER
Oh Shortie… I’m so sorry. I feel for you. So many problems in my wedding too, I let it get to me and made me so mad that day. I too planned the entire wedding myself and it was kinda of a let down, and I felt horrible for thinking it. I still do. But the ceremony was great and I’m married to a wonderful guy.
My photography wasn’t as good as I would have hoped either.
Keep your eyes on the prize sweetie. You are a MRS. and madly in love with your hubby. That’s all that matters.
Oh, no! My heart goes out to you–that is every bride’s worst nightmare! Here’s to hoping for a happy part II and a super happy marriage!
Love is the reason for the celebration..
And if that day didn’t go perfectly how about having on your honeymoon a vow renewal with dress, gorgeous sunsets, and that wonderful man you love so much. No jitters. You’re already married! But maybe some different photos and a whole different experience!
I’m sure your wedding day did turn out gorgeous. We are always most critical of ourselves only. You ooze style and sophistication and I love reading what you write!
Big hugs to you, Shortcake. Your wedding may not have gone as well as planned, and it’s okay to feel sad about that for a while.
In the end though, the most important thing is that you are MRS. Shortcake! One day, a while away from now, you’re going to look back on your wedding day with fond memories of everything, both good and bad 
I am so, so, sorry I am sure that if you take some after shots on a gorgeous fall day with your new bouquet and a better filled out dress, you can wipe away the memories of those photos. And don’t think no one noticed your gorgeous DIY- I am sure it was fabulous regardless of the tablecloth.
Congratulations on your marriage! I hope the honeymoon took you to a better place
Aw, I’m so sorry mrs shortcake! I’m from Langley and when I saw the weather on Saturday, I thought of your wedding and wished you well. I hope you’re feeling better today.
Oh gosh Mrs. Shortcake. I’m so very sorry about what happened on your wedding day, and I hope your day gets better! That’s so devastating. **Hugs**
I love you. Hang in there. It is easy for us to say “but you can do this and you can do that” to make it all a little better, and I sort of want give the same suggestions as the other ladies…. but I also know that right now, you probably just want and need to be sad about it for a little while and that’s okay. We are here for you — you are beautiful, you are talented, and you are married to a fabulous man. That is more than many, many people in the world can ever wish for. *HUGS*
Wow. I can’t tell you how much I appreciate your honesty in this post. I think so many brides feel the need to look past things that went wrong because in the end they *did* end up married. But, it is heartbreaking even if you are thrilled to be married to the love of your life. I mean, if the details didn’t mean something to us then we wouldn’t have spent hours upon hours making them happen!!
For what it’s worth I poured my soul into my wedding and had a slew of bad luck as well. Unfortunately no amount of planning (or even having a wedding planner) can solve everything (for example, the chair rental company “forgetting” about my order and closing…so we had no chairs). At some point I am going to post something similar to this and share my mishaps, I just have waited some time so I could cool off about them first.
Anyway, even if the details were ruined and the photos are awful, I hope that you someday are able to look back on your day fondly and remember that you did marry your best friend and were (hopefully) surrounded by the most important people in your life and, when it comes down to it, that’s what matters. Anyway, I’m here if you need to vent about any of this — I can obviously relate!
I know that marrying the man you love is the most important thing but I understand the need for things to go right…now you have the perfect excuse to throw an amazing anniversary party for the rest of your years! I hope the rest of the day went better and my biggest hug to you:)
I’m sorry things didn’t turn out the way you had hoped … I have to admit the pickle thing is kind of a funny though. Maybe someday you’ll be able to laugh about it =) *hugs*
*big hugs*
No words of wisdom here, just some virtual e-hugs. I cried over the LITTLE things that went wrong in my wedding, so I can only imagine how you felt. Thank you for being so honest and open with us. It’s really refreshing.
PS: I think you are the most creative bee in the history of bees!
OH Shortie! I am very sorry and wish I could give you a big hug! I don’t think I have the words to make you feel better, but I really do agree that going out on a photo shoot will give you so much time to get as many photos as you would like and in multiple settings. Have fun with that, you definitely deserve it!
I’m speechless and sad =( . I too think you’re the most creative bee in the history of bees and no matter what had happened to me your DIY projects were and will always be amazing. In my head you had the most beautiful vintage wedding ever.
I totally don’t know what to say =( I’m so sorry!
maybe have a 2nd reception? just one with less pressure and just fun fun fun for close friends and family?
*hugs*
I’m so sorry for the disappointment on your special day……..I loved your posts from day one and also think that you are the most creative bee ever! I’m so inlove with all of your vintage projects. Maybe you can ask your photographer to take some additional shots when the weather is perfect and combine the two days together.
1. you totally deserved a perfect day. you have been so generous and full of fun as a bee.
2. I second Mrs. Eggplant.
3. I had the same photography issue. seriously. i do not have one good picture of the two of us.
4. my husband almost ruined my day. He is extremely high strung, and wanted EVERYTHING to be perfect. Every five seconds he was telling me about something that was not living up to expectations. Finally I had to tell him I was going to have to leave because he was driving me crazy. He immediately changed his tune and made up for it over the remainder of the day. But you know what? Now that it has been over a year, I barely remember that part. I remember the small, beautiful things, and I hope you will too.
5. xoxoxox
I am sorry things didn’t go as planned. I had many many things go wrong on my day as well and it has taken me a LONG time (say, you know.. a YEAR) to get over them all, and some I may never get over (like our photographer ruining a bunch of our wedding photos). But I am glad that YOU are expressing it. Yes, the important thing is you got married, and I have no doubt that you know and feel that, but it’s still so painful when things you slaved over, and paid a lot of money for, go so wrong. Big hugs for you!
Umm, I agree. This post makes me dread my wedding day. Hope Part 2 includes some “silver lining” moments!???
OMG. ::hugs:: I’m so sorry your day didn’t go remotely as you planned… you worked so hard on your wedding! I will say one thing and it probably won’t make you feel better but it is very refreshing to read about a wedding here that WASN’T nearly perfect and sweetness and light (though I know you wanted it to be). This is real life post and I appreciate your candor. I am hoping part two reveals some happier moments.
Don’t worry Mrs Shortcake!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I can totally relate. On my June 28th wedding date, it poured on my outdoor wedding. I paid a hefty amount to have this “perfect” location with the background of the parliament buildings but because it poured, we got NO family pics outside. Because we were under a tent, the seating was very tight and I BARELY got down the aisle. The WALK that I waited for all my life was ruined. But you know what? It was an awesome day, best day of my life. The pics weren’t as great as I wanted but they’re still pretty awesome and you could hardly tell that it was raining, except for the fact that everyone is under a tent.
ok, i seriously felt tears in my eyes for you after reading that! (((hugs)))
I’m with everyone else. Support from the Hive beaming out to you. Let it all out honey we’ll be here to listen.
My gosh I feel so …really bad! I’ve been waiting your wedding like for ever and the following your countdown….hugs for you…
Big Hugs go out to you… we are all so sorry to hear all this! Take a deep breath and remember that its not just about the one day… you’re with Mr. Shortie now and forever and life can’t always go as planned - no matter how much we try to make it as perfect as possible. I’m looking forward to your silver lining in part II……
Yah that sucks, but focus on what really matters; You and your amazing husband.
Reality is all about how you percieve a situation, stop focusing on all the things that went wrong and focus on what was amazing and meaningful. Why continue to solidify memories about the negative?
I’m so glad I read the second part of the post and found out that everything turned out okay. You poor thing!
As a photographer, sometimes when we’re given a wrench like that and our planned shots get tossed out because of weather, we struggle to recover from it. Especially if they suddenly find themselves shooting group shots in a gym - pretty hard to rock that for even the very best out there. It is a good thing to find out in interviews if they can handle *all* kinds of photo settings. Doing an engagement session with them will also help see how they work. And asking about their style to begin with - some people are light “posers” and simply don’t do a lot of set up shots on the wedding day. Personally, I am much more about documenting the day and letting the couple enjoy the celebration with their guests. Maybe they were just having an off day themselves? Have you seen the proofs yet? Are you sure you have no photos at all?
I’m betting that they’ve captured gorgeous, candid memories that you will fall in love with completely when you see them. Ones that will capture that joy that you found at the end of the day. Because really - the love between you and Mr. Shortcake truly IS the most important thing of all!
Glad to see it all had a happy ending, even with the mishaps, and I hope you’re having a FABULOUS honeymoon!!!
Oh Shorty, I could cry for you right now! I am so so sorry, we all know how hard you worked. Your posts were one of my favorites and you came of as such as cool girl. I know things must have been real bad for you to get this upset. I really hope things turned out better and definitely do another photo shoot!
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oh no!!! shorty, that is terrible! i am so sorry! i hope that the story turns around…i am so sorry! the important thing is that u and mr. shortcake are married now? i know that is no consolation though after all those hours of slaving away and thinking about every little detail. Sending big bee hugs your way…
Hey Shortie,
I have been following your wedding story and it breaks my heart to hear that your day didn’t go as planned especially considering the amount of planning, creativity and just sheer jaw dropping gorgeousness of all your ideas. Are you sure you’re not my long lost wedding twin? - because reading your posts sounds so much like my wedding planning and day (which is kinda impossible as I am from Australia).
I too had a vintage theme and also experienced problems with my photography and flowers. In fact I had the wrong coloured flowers turn up and couldn’t change them.
I’ve been married a month and it’s true all the bad memories do fade and now I’m just remembering all the beautiful smiles and words of sincere love and heart-felt joy from my husband, family and friends.
Also you will be surprised what your guests will capture on their cameras. Some did an awesome job and with a bit of cropping and photoshopping we ended up with some fantastic photos.
Please don’t despair Mrs Shortie. I think in six months you should plan a follow up photoshoot. A glamorous TTD session of course in true vinatge style and elegance.
Just think what a fabulous story that will make when you tell your kids one day. I’m sure your sheer brilliance will no doubt mean that part two HAS a happy ending. It has too.
Much love your way!
Jackie
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Mrs. Shortcake, Vancouver
Age and Occupation: 24, Marketing Manager/Children's Lit Writer
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 24, Master's Student/Personal Trainer
Engagement Date: August 7, 2007
Wedding Date: October 2008
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Venue: Ceremony in a historic church, tented lawn reception at a golf and country club
About Me: 1950's housewife sent to the future, reborn as crafting-obsessed, jill of all trades. I enjoy decorating, writing, baking sweet things, singing show tunes/dancing in public, wearing pearls, and knitting sweaters for my furbaby, Harvey, to chew upon. I heart pink, and believe that sparkles are the new black.
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