Shoe Dilemma

Shoe Dilemma

October 10th, 2008 @ 5:56 pm by Mrs. Martini
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If you know me, you will know that I’ve always had this strange hate relationship with shoes.

First of all, my shoe size is an annoying 5.5. Do you know what it’s like to browse through zappos.com, to see pages and pages of gorgeous shoes, then as soon as you filter to the size 5.5, watch all the shoes disappear as a single tear rolls down your cheek? That is my life story. Finding shoes in size 5.5 is an extremely frustrating task. I am also convinced that my small shoe size is the reason for my being so clumsy. Cracks in sidewalks somehow find me. Pebbles always end up in front of me. Sometimes I trip, then look back to see what the heck caused me to trip, only to find nothing there.

Second, I have NO taste in shoes. I wear the same black shoes to work everyday, whether I wear black, brown or blue pants. In the summer I wear the same beige sandals. Everyday. On casual Fridays, I wear the same black flip flops; the same ones I am wearing now as I type this.

I starting casually searching for shoes a couple of months ago. I figured I had a lot of time so it wasn’t a huge issue for me at first. But as time went on, I realized that this was harder that I thought! I couldn’t find a single pair of bridal shoes I liked.

Meanwhile, I have been entertaining the idea of wearing purple shoes to match my bridesmaids’ dresses.

This is the color that my bridesmaids will be wearing (not the dress):

From www.dessy.com, in color aubergine.

Since my dress is so simple, I thought it would look great if I zazzed it up with purple shoes and a purple bouquet. Unfortunately, some people didn’t like the idea. Even Mr. Martini thought that the idea of colored shoes was a fad, and that the purple I had in mind was too dark next to a white dress. It’s ivory!!

I can’t seem to shake off the idea though! I feel that if I don’t go purple I will always regret it, but I also don’t want to look back and wonder what the heck I was thinking. I considered getting nice ivory shoes to wear during the ceremony, and buying cheaper dyeable shoes to wear during the reception. But what shoes?

I sent an email to a few friends with a couple of shoe options and asked them for their opinions, and within 10 minutes my friend Susan IMed me, yelling at me for choosing absolutely hideous shoes. Then she sent me pictures of two perfect shoes which I fell in love with immediately. They looked so clean and classy. I didn’t even have a clue that Kate Spade made bridal shoes!

Kate Spade Muse

Kate Spade Lover

Of course, here we go again with torturing myself trying to decide between two choices. At first I fell in love with the Muse because it has more of that peep toe feel to it, which is what I was trying to go for. But then the Lover is starting to really grow on me. The Lover actually comes in my size, while the Muse is on sale but unfortunately comes in size 6 or higher (though depending on the shoe I can sometimes pull off the size 6).

Please help me with my decision!

Should I go for the Muse or the Lover?

What do you think of dark purple shoes against an ivory dress? Should I dye my shoes aubergine?

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52 Responses to “Shoe Dilemma”

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azali

I vote for muse - but they are both beautiful. (And I personally LOVE the idea of a purple shoe - I don’t see how you will regret it.)

10/10/08 @ 6:11 pm (reply)

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Vic004

I was just looking at these shoes yesterday! I second the vote for muse. I like the color shoe idea a lot, I would be going crazy to try to find the perfect match with the bm dresses but that is just me. Plus if you get purple you will probably wear them after the wedding more often!

10/10/08 @ 6:21 pm (reply)

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Tea

if you want a purple shoe by all means get a purple shoe! sometimes people can’t picture what you see so they’re hesitant but then love it when you show them…maybe you can get a swatch that matches your dress and compare it to the color of shoes you’d like to show people.

either way, i say go for what your heart wants.

10/10/08 @ 6:23 pm (reply)

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ileana

I votw for purple Lovers!!!!

10/10/08 @ 6:27 pm (reply)

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RenaissanceTrophyWife

I feel your pain– I’m a size 5!

Both shoes are gorgeous, but I’d probably go with the Lover since it comes in your size. It seems that with peeptoes, the foot goes forward in the shoe more, and therefore often makes you a smaller size than you might normally wear.

About the purple, I think it’d look great. If you’re not sure, maybe do a removable shoe jewel/decoration (on your 2nd pair) in aubergine? there are some pretty ivory rosettes on etsy, you could probably get them in purple.

http://www.etsy.com/view_listing.php?ref=sr_gallery_11&listing_id=15024787

10/10/08 @ 6:28 pm (reply)

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rzblna (message) 289 posts, Helper bee

I vote for Muse– the wide straps tend to be more comfortable than the thin straps on Lover.

I don’t think you will regret purple shoes either!

10/10/08 @ 6:32 pm (reply)

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cece21

I love the idea of purple shoes. I would have done the same if I had purple BM dresses. I also love the Muse….delish! They are both very cute though….good luck!

10/10/08 @ 6:36 pm (reply)

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missbean (message) 528 posts, Busy bee

I would go with the Lovers… They’re probably less likely to fall off your feet, are in your size and are super cute!

10/10/08 @ 6:43 pm (reply)

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StrawberryBaby (message) 307 posts, Helper bee

I’m a size 4!

Luckily, I was able to fit in to Kate Spade size 5’s… with a little room to spare. I vote for the “Lover” shoes!

10/10/08 @ 6:46 pm (reply)

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jennred782 (message) 355 posts, Helper bee

You should order both and see which fits and feels better. I think getting purple shoes is great. It isn’t going to show in all your pictures only a few.

10/10/08 @ 6:48 pm (reply)

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sphbride

I had red shoes for my wedding!! I wanted red shoes since the beginning despite hubby’s objection. After buying a dozen shoes elsewhere, I went ahead with them and I love them!

Between these 2 options, I’d vote for Muse as well. It’s so modern and cute!

10/10/08 @ 7:07 pm (reply)

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seagirlrun

I laughed when you said little feet were what you blame your clumsiness on….. my family tells me I am clumsy because I have large feet for my size! I love the idea of purple shoes, my favorite is the Muse shoe above.

10/10/08 @ 7:22 pm (reply)

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Wiglet

I’m a HUGE fan of purple shoes! I’m wearing bright, bright blue shoes (they’re my something blue) by Steve Madden. Get ready for the ridonkulously long link:

http://www.endless.com/Steve-Madden-Womens-Shakeup-Pump/dp/B001200A52/ref=sr_1_2/?cAsin=B0012009U8&asinTitle=Steve%20Madden%20Shakeup%20Pump&&colors=519115011&size=40&dept=242321011&node=242321011&nodes=242321011&brands=Steve%2520Madden&keywords=&sort=shoesbrowserel2&&showDesigner=&secondaryBrands=&sizes=&widths=&heelheights=519509011|519510011&page=1&fromPage=search&contextTitle=&qid=1223680920188&sr=1-2&prepickColor=&asins=B001200084,B0012009U8

10/10/08 @ 7:23 pm (reply)

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amyp (message) 12 posts, Newbee

Muse in purple would be amazing!

10/10/08 @ 7:26 pm (reply)

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Miss Champagne (message) 1,334 posts, Bumble bee

5.5?! Holy cow! I love the muse:)

10/10/08 @ 7:28 pm (reply)

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I was going to get the Lover but the shorter heel version. I LOVE IT! but it was a bit out of my price range.
LOVERS it is!
BTW, if you want comfy reception dyables, colorrifics are extremely comfy! =)

10/10/08 @ 7:28 pm (reply)

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Englishmuffin

Lovers. As much as I love the purple idea, i think you should stick with white/ivory. You’re least likely to regret it in years to come. Stick to the classic idea, everytime. You could add a little purple diamante brooch to the middle of the bow. I have actually added earrings to mine! they were big hideous stud ear-ings but made beautiful brooches for my shoes. Maybe a little purple diamante heart or something?

10/10/08 @ 7:33 pm (reply)

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MrsPeas (message) 7 posts, Newbee

I really really really really like the Lover, especially since it’s comes in your size it’s likely to be comfier. I personally love colored shoes. But if you’re still hesitant I think Englishmuffin has a grand idea to put a purple accent on ivory shoes, although I think the bows on these ones would make that a little impossible. A plainer shoe w/ some fab clip ons would be my pick if you can’t go all purple.

10/10/08 @ 8:04 pm (reply)

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Check out endless.com… I love their search function. You can limit the search by shoe size AND multiple colors AND heel height (ie 5.5, purple, ivory, 2″+ heel). I just did this for you and found this pair, that might be a fun mix of purple and not-so-purple.

http://www.endless.com/Jessica-Simpson-Womens-Josette3-Pump/dp/B001535AGU/ref=sr_1_22_vp/?cAsin=B001539BSS&asinTitle=Jessica%20Simpson%20Josette3%20Pump&&colors=519125011|519121011&size=40&dept=242169011&node=242169011&nodes=242169011&brands=&keywords=&sort=shoesbrowserel2&&showDesigner=&secondaryBrands=&sizes=519626011&widths=&heelheights=519510011|519511011|519512011&page=1&fromPage=search&contextTitle=&qid=1223684145583&sr=1-22&prepickColor=1&asins=B0011MY4WQ,B0018CAF0E,B0015D65BO,B0015TSFSO,B0019EZPDS,B001A6K0RG,B0016OHP2U,B0018CAF4K,B0016NT9BG,B001A5Y1FO,B0019FLI74,B001AH8DE2,B0016OIUPG,B0018CHO8K,B00134PKS4,B000UWS0RS,B0018CCONA,B0018L3TAI,B0015TGYUU,B000UWQE6W,B0016OM9TY,B001539BSS,B0012M6G2G,B001AGQL9C,B001A35SLM,B000UWVPI4,B000VYG2I4,B000UWOMOI,B00119OGNG,B000WFZGZW,B0011YU6DU,B000W937J0,B000W8YIGW,B000X2B4Q4,B000W9RKIE,B000XRMY3Q,B0012LUMYU,B000SOYJO6,B0012M6B2Q,B0015357MC

Oh and they have an easy return policy. I found my gold wedding shoes here. Easy.

Good luck and don’t forget to let us know what you end up selecting!

10/10/08 @ 8:17 pm (reply)

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Domino

muse!

10/10/08 @ 8:29 pm (reply)

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