Wedding Blog

Before Mr. Sushi and I got engaged and were just having the “wedding talk”, we discussed who we would like to have stand up with us at the altar to support us. In other words, who would we ask to be in our wedding par-tay? Deciding to have the wedding in Hawaii actually made things a lil’ easier for us. Mr. Sushi only has a handful of close friends to begin with (like four), so he had maybe one or two people that immediately stood out to him. But even then, his decision wasn’t easy to make. For me, it was a lil’ more difficult. See, I don’t have one clique of friends that I hang out with. More like a friend here, a friend there, a few friends who sometimes interact with each other, but all in all, they’re each a close friend in their own way. I don’t have a best friend… in PA. I have a few great friends here, though.

Now, to backtrack a little… I grew up as a military brat, so I moved every three to four years growing up. It’s really hard to keep in touch with friends, and also really easy to lose touch with friends. That being said, two of the oldest friends I have are my bestests I met in Hawaii, both of whom I met at the ripe age of 12-ish. Having a wedding in Hawaii meant not having to choose bridesmaids among my PA friends, and letting my PA peeps enjoy their Hawaiian vacation (without having to worry about my wedding poop).  Instead, I’ll be “burdening” my bestests who live, or have lived in Hawaii already. Or at least, that’s how it was going to be.

Mr. Sushi’s bestest got engaged a couple months after us… exciting! Now they are in their own wedding process as well. Last time I talked to Mr. Sushi’s bestest’s fiancee (did you get all that?!) they were thinking of planning a summer 2009 wedding in Florida, meaning that they probably will be on a budget themselves, and might not make it to our Hawaii shindig. No worries… although I do hope to make it to Florida for their wedding!!

So now we don’t know if any of Mr. Sushi’s close friends will be able to make the trip (or will be able to afford to go) to Hawaii. And although I know my bestests will be able to make it to Hawaii (one lives in Hawaii and the other has family in Hawaii, so it’s usually no big deal for her to go visit), I couldn’t imagine having my 2 girls stand up and support me while Mr. Sushi has no one standing with him. So, we nixed the wedding party.

This is actually saving us in many ways.

1. Two less bouquets to buy (if I decide to go the flower bouquet route)
2. In Hawaii, the bride traditionally buys the bridesmaid dresses, shoes, accessories, etc. So that’s a few hundred there that we would be saving.
3. Less people usually equals less drama.

Now… a question to all of you. I love my girls. And although they won’t be wearing the dress and standing next to me at the altar, they will still be my honorary bridesmaids helping me get ready and all. So what can I do for them to let them know I appreciate them?

Is there a way I can still honor them on my wedding day?