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Last August, I blogged about my miscarriage. Because I still receive tons of comments and emails about when I’m going to launch a baby site, I thought I’d share with you guys that we had a second miscarriage earlier this year. 
It was so much more difficult than the first time around.
I blog about whatever I’m obsessed with at any given time in my life. Weddings. Decorating. Cooking. Animals. Babies. And although a baby site was something that was always in the plan before we even launched Weddingbee, I don’t think I could immerse myself in that world right now.
Mr. Bee and I have been married for 3 1/2 years now. Although we were among the first of our friends to get married, we’re among the last to have kids. Many have one kid, with another already on the way.
Life is pretty insane these days so baby making is on hold for now. When the time comes and we make it out of the first trimester, I’ll be sure to let you guys know. 
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Awww I’m so sorry Mrs. Bee about your loss! Best of luck trying to conceive when you and Mr. Bee decide to!!
Wow, what an emotional moment to share. When the times come I am sure it will be that much more of a blessing. I’ll keep my thoughts with you.
Aw. So sorry. Brave and generous of you to share.
Aw Mrs. Bee - thank your for sharing. I’m sorry to hear about your struggles, but I believe your miracle will come. Until that time, though, I am sending you major bee hugs and love vibes. (o)
Thanks for sharing Mrs. Bee-
Although I can’t imagine how hard it was for you & Mr. Bee, please know that there are so many people out there that love you guys and admire you both for your heart & compassion!
*hug*
Bee, your honesty and openness is admirable. Its fortitude like that that allowed your first brainchild — WB — to be so successful, and I look forward to celebrating with you when Babybee (the person and the site) arrives. And hugs to Mr. Bee as well.
Awww, I’m soooo sorry! I had no idea about any of this…well wishes!
Mrs. Bee- since you didn’t have the posting option on your last Babybee post I wanted to thank you for reminding everyone that it’s impolite and insensitive to ask people about their plans to have children.
You never know what obstacles another person is facing when they decide to start a family.
It is amazing and corageous for you to share this with us. I am so sorry for your loss.
Awww, so sorry to hear that Mrs. Bee. *big hugs*
My condolences on your loss and my best wishes for the future.
Awww. Thanks for sharing. If you’re trying at least there’s still a possibility. Some ladies don’t get that opputortunity. I’m sorry for the losses but if it’s meant to be it’ll be. Good luck.
I’m sorry for your loss. I had a miscarriage in July and it’s so hurtful to have people constantly asking me when I was having another kid (i already have 1 son) or why we ddint’ want to give our son a brother or sister.
Thank you for posting and reminding people to think twice before asking something as personal about starting a family.
Hey, I’m an Embryologist, and I work with patients every day who are trying to get pregnant. There are a lot of good options out there for you. Please discuss this with your doc soon. Good luck to you
So sorry to hear about this. I can’t even imagine how difficult it must be. Prayers and good wishes to both you and Mr. Bee!
Dear Mrs. Bee–how heartbreaking for you and Mr. Bee! I unfortunately know many women who have struggled with multiple miscarriages. From praying for them and listening to their hardships, I offer you a bit of empathy and love.
My mother had two back to back miscarriages before me, and one shortly after. She went on to have 4 total kids. It is a difficult experience as she describe it. It doesn’t mean it won’t happen though. Nothing but Best Wishes to you and Mr. Bee
*BEE HUG* Thank you for being so open and sharing what I can only imagine is a very difficult challenge for you and Mr. Bee. Much love to you both!
Bee - I also really want to thank you for sharing this with us. I had a miscarriage last December and know what an absolutely difficult time it is. I really admire your courage and hope all the best for you & Mr. Bee in the future. Having you put this issue out there in the open like is really means a lot for someone like me, and I want to really thank you for creating this community.
I’m so sorry.
I admire your willingness to share such personal details in order to help educate others about asking personal questions. I’m sure others going through such heartbreaking circumstances appreciate you speaking up on their behalf.
I had a coworker who continually faced questions about baby plans for years! Some people were nosy, some were just curious, and some were teasing (about his age, being too selfish, etc).
It must have been so painful for him to endure these questions and to watch others in the office get married and have children. It was only after he and his wife celebrated the birth of their son that he shared with me the long and painful process he and his wife went through in trying to have a baby.
I’m sure people will think twice before asking such personal questions…
Oh Mrs. Bee 
*Hugs, many Hugs”, to you and Mr. Bee
Thank you for your honesty and for reminding all of us that just because the old song in school goes “first comes love, then comes marriage, then comes the baby in the baby carriage” doesn’t always mean it’s as easy as it sounds and that we all need to be a bit more considerate before asking the “So when…” question.
Take strength from your family and Mr. Bee and we will all keep you in our prayers whatever happens down the road.
I think that one of the worst parts of announcing even an engagement is the question of when are you going to have kids. How soon after. Well even though we want kids we aren’t sure when. I can’t even imagine how hard it is when you have had a miscarriage. It will happen when it is meant to happen. Maybe when you take that vacation that you oh so greatly desire.
You are very generous to share your life, hopes and dreams with this community. Everything has a time…and I’m sure it will be when it’s just right!
Rosy Chicklet I totally agree…it’s a shame that people put so much pressure on couples and women and don’t think of circumstances or sensitivities before asking.
My sympathies to you and the Bee family. It is heartbreaking. I wish you all the best going forward, with whatever you choose is right for you.
I’m really sorry for what you and your family have had to face. I can not relate, but wish you the best in future baby making!
i’m so, so sorry about the miscarriages. i can’t imagine what that must have been like. =( it’s good that you put baby making on hold b/c i think you have a lot of things on your plate right now. maybe go on a little vacay later? that would be really nice for you both. you two will be proud parents in due time so it’s a good idea to enjoy the “newlywed” life w/o the kids for just a little bit longer. =)
a huge *HUGS* to both you and mr. bee.
Adding… to anyone having difficulties with pregnancy or (really anything post-wedding related…) altdotlife_dot_com is a great site with lots of advice/sounding boards in the forums.
Mrs. Bee, I’m really sorry to hear about that, and I thank you for sharing. I can only imagine talk of babies is incredibly hard. Despite all the controversy around the sale of Weddingbee, I hope it brings you many good things.
thank you for your honesty in sharing what is no doubt a difficult and personal matter to you. your reminder that even the most well-intended inquiries about how soon family additions will be made can sometimes fall on the ears of those who struggle the most is so correct. your post serves as a reminder that we should be careful to watch our words and actions so as not to add to any difficulties an individual might be facing when it comes to something as personal and profound as family planning.
Mrs. Bee- I just got chills reading this post. I am so sorry to hear about what happened, but thank you very much for sharing. It is an obstacle many couples face that is so difficult to talk about.
Wishing you and your husband the best of luck.
I’m so sorry, Mrs. Bee.
A while ago I try to find your wedding plans in your older posts and I read about that first and painful loss. I never let a comment, but now I want to thank you for your honesty (again) and send you hugs and nothing but best wishes.
Dios te bendiga (God bless you)
I’m so sorry to hear that! It takes a lot to talk about and you are so strong. My sister had 2 miscarriages a couple years ago, and this past Feb. she got pregnant! She just had her baby girl this week… anything is possible, God has the perfect timing and plan for you!
Bee, I had no idea…I’m so sorry honey. I had a violent miscarriage last year and it still hurts. I still get scared about my current pregnancy.
I agree that it’s pretty huge that you’re sharing this…I didn’t even talk about mine to anyone until about three months after. A co-worker of mine had four miscarriages in a year and she just went on her maternity leave for her healthy baby boy. I’m not going to say it’s for a reason or that there’s a plan, but please know that there’s a whole community behind you here, and we care very much about your and your family. Please take care of yourself and get some you time.
Angel
Oh Bee … I think you are amazingly brave and awesome for being so honest and sharing your loss with the world. I’ll be waiting and holding on tight to hear your great news!
I’m so sorry to hear that! And thank you so much for sharing, that takes so much courage! I don’t know if it helps or hurts to hear it, but like many others on here I also know women who had one or miscarriages but now have beautiful children.
Good luck with all your endeavors and know that you’re in our thoughts.
good luck to you and your husband.
my mom had three miscarriages before I was born. i’m really glad she kept trying. i can only imagine how difficult it was for her (or is for you). the few times I’ve asked her about it, she just said, “it all went the way it was meant to be.”
Mrs. Bee,
>Don’t hate me for sharing<
I am a registered nurse, and I have worked with an innumerable amount of women (but mostly children-) who have been through trials and tribulations. I can’t even begin to tell you what I have shared with families or witnessed… except one.
One moment that is precious to me, is caring for a woman with breast cancer. No one knew she would pass away the day I was with her- She was too weak to feed herself so I sat with her to help her eat dinner- she had just celebrated her 40th birthday the day before. No one was with her this evening I sat with her- they were getting the house ready for her. She was overjoyed she was going home the following day with hospice care. She joyously told me she married the man of her dreams a year prior to learning about her terminal diagnosis. She told me, over dinner (although she hadn’t eaten in two weeks!) never to take anything for granted, to enjoy every small blessing, and to always remember to welcome being embraced. She interrupted our conversation and asked me to hold her. And I did. Her spirit left during that brief moment we held each other.
This moment, like so many others, strengthens me. The people I care for become my heroes, they help me write my journey as they web their life’s long road with mine. They have opened their hearts to share vulnerabilities they have experienced. What makes me stronger is the strength they share because of the life they have lived.
I’d like to take the pain away for you, I hate to sense your sadness. While I know it is difficult to talk about, it is a wonderful release to share your heartache to be embraced by a community who can build you back up again.
Hang in there. I’ll be sending you warmest thoughts from a distance.
(a caveat) I’m sorry- I didn’t mean to be depressing. I just wanted to let you know that I know that it sometimes hurts to feel, but it’s important to be embraced. And I am glad that you shared a piece of your pain with us. I am glad you are allowing the Weddingbee community to play a part in your healing and hopefully the community will play a part in building you back up… That was essentially what I was trying to say…
Bee- thank you so much for sharing this with us. I can’t imagine what you’re going through, but am sending my love to you and Mr. Bee!
Bee, thank you so much for sharing this. I think that most people honestly don’t realize how incredibly common this is, and there’s a horribly unfair guilt and stigma attached to miscarriages. It shouldn’t be that way; it’s nobody’s fault, it’s a tragedy of nature. Women should be able to talk honestly to one another about the experience, to cry together and share each other’s pain. Thanks to women like you, who are willing and able to talk about miscarriage openly, I really hope we’re moving in that direction.
Hugs to you, and positive thoughts for the future.
I know what you’re going through because I’ve been in your shoes. I was fortunate enough to have friends who also shared their struggle so I wouldn’t feel so alone, and I think your post will do that for a few women today. Thanks for being so opoen about it. It will happen for you guys, in some way. Until then, hugs and love and have fun trying=) Hugs to Mr. Bee too!
I miscarried too. it’s hard to explain/rationalize..
My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Thank you for being brave and open enough to share this with all of us.
My thoughts are with you and Mr. Bee, and I know that you’ll receive your miracle when the time is right!
Bee you are so brave. Thank you for being willing to become someone people can turn to when things get hard. It is an honor to call you a friend.
Thank you for sharing this news to us. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Many hugs to you and just know that you have so many friends from afar through weddingbee and xanga that will always be here to listen when you need a friend.
Oh Bee! I’m so sorry to hear about your loss. Big hugs to you and Mr. Bee. As many have said, I truly appreciate your sharing this very personal moment with us.
Oh, Bee. I am so sad to hear that. I will be praying and I hope that in the future God will grant you what your heart desires.
Thank you for being so honest and sharing such a painful experience with us.
Bee, I just want to say that you are awesome. That’s it. I think you are awesome in every way possible, and I just wanted to let you know that.
aww, Bee. I’m so sorry. You’re one tough and strong Bee, though.
Mrs. Apple wants to give you a virtual hug.
Bee,
When I had a miscarriage of my own, your story gave me strength to know that I was not alone.
You continue to be an inspiration to me and other fans.
aww… sorry to hear about your loss Mrs. Bee… just stay strong and never lose hope. Take care. (hugs… hugs… hugs..)
Mrs. Bee,
Here’s love and prayers for a baby bee when the time is right for the both of you. My sister miscarried very late with two children and I miscarried during the early days of my separation four and a half years ago when I found out my then h was cheating. I had a son, he’s 10 now, and he was a preemie (2 lbs) when born so birthin’ babies isn’t the easiest thing for us as sisters. Was so devastating for us. But love, prayer, friends, family and faith got us through it and we’ll get you thru this too!
But God since blessed my sister with a beautiful boy and I know you will be blessed with more love in your life. ((((Mrs. Bee)))) Keeping you and Mr. Bee in our prayers for a baby bee blessing when the time is right.
Wishing you both all the happiness and love always.
Bellenga
Oh Bee! Thank you for reminding us that it’s not cool to ask newly married couples when the baby is coming. I know I’m guilty of that myself sometimes. Much, much love to you and Mr Bee.
Thank you for sharing, Mrs Bee, and letting our collective thoughts be with you to wish you the best, happiness and love.
Thanks for reminding not to ask people about their plans about pregnancies.
Bee,
I’m a little misty eyed reading this. I think it is made all the harder for me, because as a first time bride at 38, I know I’m gambling on my reproductive capability. I feel a lot of (unnecessary) pressure because Mr. Doctor is only 26, and probably wouldn’t have any problems conceiving with someone else… but he wouldn’t change who he is with for the world either.
I know there is nothing that truly makes it better… but just know there are lots of us girls who are in similar circumstances and wishing you the best of luck in whatever you and your husband decide is the next best step.
Lots of good thoughts heading your way!
Fate has a strange way of working and when the time is right, all will fall into place. I admire your honesty about your personal life and wish you all the best as every journey is different and while I can’t will it to happen, my thoughts are with you that you and the Mister will be have a Mini Bee very soon! Hang in there!
All my best wishes to you and your husband. I’m very sorry for your loss.
I’m so sad to hear about your miscarriages. My heart goes out to you and the Mr.
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Mrs. Bee, New York
Age and Occupation: 29, Weddingbee Publisher
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 33, Internet
Engagement Date: May 7, 2004
Wedding Date: March 5, 2005
Venue: Westside Loft, New York
About Me: Yes, my name really is Bee! I love my blogging, wikis, and tabasco sauce!
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