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Mrs. Hot Cocoa, Boston/Los Angeles Age and Occupation: 31, JD/PhD Student Fiance's Age and Occupation: 32, Medical Student Engagement Date: May 30, 2008 Wedding Date: March, 2009 Blogging Since: April, 2008 Venue: Ritz Carlton, Marina Del Rey About Me: I am a professional student by day and an amateur cupcake taster, bargain shopper, and wedding planner by night. I am obsessed with NPR, the Food Network, paper, dance shows, Anthropologie, post-structuralist theory, Weddingbee!, "The Office," and celebrity gossip. When not procrastinating from my dissertation, I spend time catering to Jellyby, our overly anxious shih tzu, and getting to know Mr. Hot Cocoa. We have only been dating for fifteen years, so it's like I'm in love with a stranger! From the East Coast, we are planning a Jewish-Chinese Extravaganza in L.A., where we both grew up.
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Rules of Engagement*

October 22nd, 2008 @ 9:27 am by Mrs. Hot Cocoa

hc1.jpg

[La Vie Photography]

* Title courtesy of Leigh Miller; I love a lady who puns.

As I mentioned in my previous post, prior to Weddingbee, I had no clue what engagement photos were. And I’m fairly certain that Mr. HC still has no idea what an engagement shoot involves. But now that we are scheduled to have an engagement shoot, I thought I’d better do some research on how to get ready for this event. I asked our photographer, Leigh Miller, for some tips on how to prepare for an engagement shoot. She had such good advice that I thought I’d share it with the hive. (Bonus: This gives me an excuse to show more of my favorite e-pics.)

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[Leigh Miller Photography]

Tip 1: Wear something comfortable and that reflects your style. Leigh says: “My goal, no matter who I’m shooting, is to capture who that person is. So if your attire is far from who you are and you aren’t comfortable, well that just stinks.” Speaking of comfort, how adorable is the couple above on the couch? They’re like Mr. HC and me, only cute. (Because let’s face it, if it were Mr. HC and me on the couch, we’d probably be in our jammies, watching “Harold and Kumar” for the thousandth time, and guffawing at jokes intended for 16-year-old stoners. It’s not an attractive vignette.)

 

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[Tec Petaja Photography]

And in case you failed to learn from Britney and Justin’s denim debacle of 2001, Leigh advises, “please don’t match but do coordinate”— like the darling couple above, who rocked a chic black and white look.

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[Leigh Miller Photography]

Leigh also says that “heels are great with jeans, pants, or skirts, if you’re comfortable in them. They make the legs look longer.” You’d better believe I’m busting out my 3-inch stilettos. At 5’3″ on a good day, I need all the length illusion I can get!

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[Chenin Boutwell Photography]

Tip #2: Think of your photographer as an observer. Leigh suggests taking photos in a place that has meaning to you both or taking your photographer along to do something you would normally do. She says: “I love shooting like an observer. That’s so fun! I’m actually doing a session later this year that is more like a day in the life of and I’m totally excited!!!” We’re asking Leigh to start our shoot at the university where Mr. HC went to college and did his post-bac before med school and where I went to law school and now am finishing up my Ph.D. Combined, we’ve spent nearly fifteen years at this place, so it’s very much a part of our relationship!

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[Amelia Lyon Photography]

Tip #3: “Listen to your photographer’s suggestions regarding location and time of day.” If you don’t believe in the power of good lighting, Leigh recommends revisiting the good light/bad light “Seinfeld” episode:

Okay, hopefully we’re not as two-faced as Jerry’s date, but when you can control the lighting situation, Leigh says, you should! “If you tell your photographer the only time you can meet to do the engagement session is noon on the beach, you should expect much different results than the hour before sunset with softer more flattering light. The photographer is the pro, and you’re paying them. Take advantage of their expertise!”

When I taught a film class last year, I talked to my students about the “magic hour”—those precious moments when the sun is going up or down, and the light is angled just so, such that you get Hobie colors and lens flare.

Hopefully, Leigh will be able to catch us at the magic hour on the cobblestone walks of Beacon Hill or on the Weeks Footbridge over the Charles River.

Speaking of magic, isn’t the photo below stunning? Soft, flattering light indeed.

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[Gene Higa Photography]

Tip #4: Travel light. Leigh says: “Don’t bring a bag full of junk with you that someone has to carry around or attend to while we’re out.” You want to be carefree and mobile, not stuck babysitting your hefty Marc Jacobs tote while the best light is disappearing.

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[Ann Hamilton Photography]

Finally, Leigh says, “Don’t over think it. Don’t stress! Have fun. Some couples even have a glass of wine before we tee off. Be yourselves.”

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[Leigh Miller Photography]

I hope this was helpful for those of you who have yet to take your engagement photos. Anyone have additional tips or a favorite e-pic to share?

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15 Responses to “Rules of Engagement*”

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Nicole R.

Wow, thanks!

 
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frenchbulldog (message)  6,077 posts, Bee Keeper

I love e-pic porn, thanks :) and great suggestions.

 
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Wiglet (message)  135 posts, Blushing bee

After a couple of e-pic letdowns, here are my two tips:

1. Make sure your hair is completely dry when you meet your photographer. Mine was just the teeniest bit damp - I was sure that it wouldn’t matter! - and I ended up looking a little greasy in the first shots.
2. TELL YOUR PHOTOGRAPHER ahead of time what you’re self-conscious about. I have a round, round face when I smile so I don’t love head-on shots or shots that make me look a little double-chinned. Since more often than not, you’re hypercritical about stuff like this and nobody else notices it, your photographer probably won’t know to avoid certain angles. We got ours back and 90% of them were taken from my least favorite angle, and even though everyone says, “GASP! They’re beautiful!!”, all I can think about is how I’d like them so much more with a 3/4 view of my face.

 
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alison

We did the black/white attire at the local amusement park and had a blast.

http://www.flickr.com/photos/jerison_curley/2819291844/

 
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Miss Hot Cocoa (message)  1,721 posts, Bumble bee

@Wiglet: That’s great advice, particularly #2. I hate to go all Mariah Carey, but I think I’ve got a good side and a goofy side.

@alison: Adorable!! Thanks for sharing.

 
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JanieLeigh (message)  308 posts, Helper bee

i love leigh miller. im talking loooove. i think i drool a little every time i see one of her pictures. i wish i could afford to fly her to the east coast. sighhh.

 
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Miss Duckling (message)  1,349 posts, Bumble bee

I love Leigh Miller’s Photography!! She really captures all of her couples. Good luck on the engagement pictures. I can’t wait to see them!

 
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leigh miller

thank you miss hot cocoa!!! your tips are great! and thank you for not making me sound like the dork i am sometimes :)

i cant wait to meet you two and do a fab shoot in boston. i will be coming from a wedding in jamaica and ready for some serious fall weather. did i say i cant wait?!?

also thanks so much for all the kind comments everyone. i know it probably sounds corny and every photographer feels this way but i am so lucky to get to do what i do.

have a great day! im going to try and get colleen and jimmys wedding blogged now, the ferris wheel couple above from nyc!.

 
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Miss Hot Cocoa (message)  1,721 posts, Bumble bee

@JanieLeigh: Hahaha. I told Lee I’m going to start her fan club and make t-shirts.

 
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Sarah

You are going to be so happy with Leigh. She really was such a fun person to spend 10+ hours with on our wedding day! I feel so lucky to have had her for epics and wedding pics… now I’m just waiting for another excuse to call her up… maybe maternity pics and then family pics. The list goes on and on!

 
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Remy

What a great photographer! Plus, her name is a homonym for the great Lee Miller. Coincidence?

 
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Miss Hot Cocoa (message)  1,721 posts, Bumble bee

@Remy: Coincidence? I think not.

 
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Miss Sea Breeze (message)  913 posts, Busy bee

Great tips! I agree with ‘don’t over-think it’ for sure. I think the best thing that happened to Mr Breezy and I is that we booked ours the night before they happened. If we had had more time, I would have stressed out over outfits and locations and poses and everything! (Type A? Who, me??)

 
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leigh miller

lee miller. wow. what a woman. can you imagine being a war photographer and a female during ww2? and that photograph of her in hitlers bathtub by scherman. i only dream of a photographic legacy such as hers. ive been reading her biography.

 
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Mrs. Pumpkin (message)  50 posts, Worker bee

Wow! Love the one with the couch! I have always loved those “bringing the inside outside” kinds of pics. And those two look so in love. All of those pictures are amazing!

 


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