Weddingbee Blog

I’m a bit of a strategist by profession. Our theme is part of the execution of our wedding, but the strategy is much simpler.

Two words: Meaningful and Lasting.

In our life, I’m all about the meaningful, while My Favorite Guy is all about the lasting. I want to be surrounded by objects and items that remind me of special people, occasions, and ideas. He wants to be sure that things will survive and stand up to the rigors of time and life. Our wedding — and more importantly, our marriage — should be both.

Our priorities become more clear when we come back to these words. A wedding dress is for one day, and while wearing it on my wedding day will make it meaningful, it’s not something that can join me in my married life (unless I secretly wear it when Mr. Cheese goes out of town… don’t think I haven’t considered it!). On the other hand, I’ve been pushing Mr. Cheese to buy exactly the suit that he wants because he can wear it for years and I love the idea that he’ll enter our marriage prepared for a formal occasion.

Another situation: we’re hosting our reception at our home, so we can either rent dishes or buy them (more on inexpensive ways to do this later). I’d prefer to buy them, because then we can use them in our married life when we host parties. Assuming we buy something that’s not terribly delicate, they can last us for years. Meaningful and lasting.

One more: remember that I posted about growing my own bouquet? Meaningful — every time I cut flowers for a bouquet, I’ll be reminded of the day Mr. Cheese and I became a family. Lasting — roses and peonies plants, when properly cared for, will live for decades.

It’s obviously not always clear cut, but when I’m stressed and overwhelmed (um, yea, that happens way more often than it should), I find that coming back to these two words helps.

Am I a hopeless nerd? (Don’t answer that.) Did anyone else do this? And if you haven’t, take a moment to think about it. What would your words be/ have been?