To Sash or Not to Sash?

To Sash or Not to Sash?

October 29th, 2008 @ 2:49 pm by Mrs. Martini
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I know I have gained weight since I bought my wedding dress, but I never knew how bad it was until I tried it on again a few days ago. Not long after I bought the dress, I decided to stay FAR away from it until I started going to the gym because I honestly didn’t think it would fit me anymore. Everyone has been telling me, “You have so much time, you have so much time.” So when I stuff my face with burgers I tell myself that I have so much time, and then I freak out every time the calendar reminds me of how close the wedding actually is. So as you can imagine, my dress has been locked up, untouched in my parents’ walk-in closet carefully wrapped in a bed sheet.

But then…

Mr. Martini, please don’t read further!

Two sashes I recently ordered online came in the mail a few days ago, and I couldn’t wait to try them on!

Yep, I’m wearing a sash for a part of the big day. When I tried on my wedding dress at Kleinfeld, my panel of judges (aka awesome buddies that came dress shopping with me) were 50/50 about me buying a dress with pickups, until the consultant suddenly wrapped a champagne sash around my waist. That’s when everyone agreed that this dress suited me the best. But after I came home with the dress, I got a few mixed reviews on whether or not I should wear a sash at all—it seemed most people loved the dress by itself. I decided to keep it as simple as possible for the ceremony without a sash, and then put one on for the reception.

A part of me wanted to go purple, but then I thought that maybe with a purple bouquet and purple shoes, it just might be a little too much purple. In the end I decided to order one thinner champagne sash, and one thicker purple sash, JUST in case.

I carefully unzipped my wedding dress, slipped my feet in and brought the dress up to my chest so that my mom could help zip me up. And then the zipper stopped halfway. No joke! We were both grunting; my mom totally made fun of me the whole time while I did my best to suck in as much air as possible. I wondered what would I do if my dress ripped? She was finally able to get it up all the way but I couldn’t breathe! Here’s proof, taken by one of my BMs later that night when she stopped by to check out the sashes:

Because I could barely breathe and I was terrified of bending over, risking ripping the dress, I quickly wrapped the sash around me and tied it in a halfhearted bow. Sorry for the strange yellowish color in the pictures below. Using flash made the pictures come out weird, so I opted not to use the flash and tried my best to color correct the picture using Photoshop (obviously, it didn’t work out so well).

On the left is the thinner champagne sash, and on the right is the thicker, plum sash.

Someone suggested I wear both—the champagne sash during the ceremony, and the purple sash during the reception. Unfortunately, this particular purple sash actually does not match the bridesmaids’ dresses. I think we’re nearing a decision on the BM dresses and if we end up choosing the one I think we’ll be choosing, I will be buying the same fabric to create my own Aubergine sash. But you get the idea!

Which do you prefer? Should I go no-sash during the ceremony and yes-sash during the reception? Or should I go for both sashes?

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67 Responses to “To Sash or Not to Sash?”

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cheri

I like the purple sash.

10/29/08 @ 2:53 pm (reply)

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Priscilla C

I love the purple one!

10/29/08 @ 2:55 pm (reply)

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sara

I like the sash Idea! I think it finishes off your dress nicely. I like the thickness of the purple sash a LOT! i would say, wear a champagne sash for the ceremony, its very light and not that noticeable, but make it as thick as the purple one. Wear the purple sash for the reception, at that point it wont matter if the sash matches the BMs dresses or not, you wont be taking pictures with them and standing together the whole time.

10/29/08 @ 2:58 pm (reply)

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AmyM83 (message) 250 posts, Helper bee

I say champagne sash for ceremony and purple for the reception. You won’t be holding your bouquet as much during the reception, so it won’t be so much purple and the champagne is so close to ivory, that it still looks bride-y enough for the ceremony. Good luck!

10/29/08 @ 3:00 pm (reply)

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Our_Special_Day

Honestly (I’ll probably get beat for writing this), I think the darker color sash cuts you in half visually. I say either go with the champagne or no sash at all.

10/29/08 @ 3:01 pm (reply)

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Nstar

I love the champagne sash, but am really not feeling the purple one. I feel it’s too thick, and too much colour (sort of cutting you in half, as what the previous poster said).

10/29/08 @ 3:08 pm (reply)

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MrsDavis

I like the champagne one as well. For me though it may have to do with the thickness. I think the thinner one lookes better for the bow.

10/29/08 @ 3:10 pm (reply)

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jess03 (message) 44 posts, Newbee

By the way — about the fit of the dress — be very careful to get the fit right before your wedding. You can probably have the seams let out a little bit if you don’t end up losing weight so that it fits you right. I wouldn’t try it on any more while the zipper is strained — my cousin’s zipper broke because she tried to do this — 2 days before her wedding — and she had to have an emergency seamstress appointment! Just wouldn’t want you to face the same stress.

BTW you look BEAUTIFUL! And I vote for champagne.

10/29/08 @ 3:13 pm (reply)

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amysue (message) 1,492 posts, Bumble bee

Champagne, for sure. And I can’t believe you’ve gained that much weight - you look super-healthy and gorgeous in those photos.

10/29/08 @ 3:13 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Penguin (message) 3,499 posts, Sugar bee

I think you look awesome with the sashes! I prefer the thicker sash, but I like the champagne color. Maybe that’s cause I’m a color wimp, though

The bouquet will def. stick out more if you have the lighter sash, I think! I love your idea of no sash for ceremony, and then sash for the reception!

10/29/08 @ 3:15 pm (reply)

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Jersey Girl in DC

You look amazing! But I know how you feel. I gained some during the winter leading up to our spring wedding.

I think you should go no sash during the ceremony, and then the colorful (the purple looks amazing!) sash during the reception. You could also try adding a pretty brooch for an added touch.

Don’t worry ‘too’ much about your weight! I didn’t believe my girl friend on this, but it turned out so true. You’re going to lose weight in the final month or two from stress alone. You’ll be running around like crazy and the pounds will just melt away. It’s a small miracle! : )

10/29/08 @ 3:15 pm (reply)

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LC (message) 33 posts, Newbee

I think the thick one (purple) makes your waist looks smaller, but the thin one (champagne)makes your chest look bigger (at least in comparison to eachother).

The purple colour makes the dress look like two pieces (cuttng you apart like a few other people said already). It looks like an addition rather than part of the dress. The champagne looks like part of the dress and more “wedding-ie”.

If you’re in love with the purple one, wear it for the reception.

But you look FANTASTIC in both!!

10/29/08 @ 3:19 pm (reply)

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Keladry

I love the boldness of the purple sash. Go for it!

10/29/08 @ 3:26 pm (reply)

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buttercup

I think the idea of wearing the champagne for the ceremony, and the purple for the reception is the best idea. But I do think the purple one would look better if it were thinner, as another reader mentioned the bow looks better with the thinner sash.

10/29/08 @ 3:27 pm (reply)

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elizabeth

I love everything about the purple.

10/29/08 @ 3:32 pm (reply)

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katie

definitely the champagne sash!

10/29/08 @ 3:32 pm (reply)

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