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My fiance and I have a very small budget and we have agreed to have a small wedding consisting of only 50-70 people.

We were going to focus mostly on the food, because we know that the food is what most guests remember.

We told my future MIL about our plans and she got angry. She said that everyone in the family has to be invited. The problem is that she has ten brothers and sisters in total, and each of them has three or four kids who are in their twenties and thirties. My fiance has 38 cousins in total and 20 aunts and uncles alone, and this is just immediate extended family. This does not include his mom’s cousins, whom they also want to invite. This also does not include my fiance’s father’s side.

My FMIL said that she will cover the cost of the extra people by taking out a loan. Obviously my fiance objected to this. She then suggested that we downgrade our reception and just serve hors d’oeuvres so that everyone can be included.

My problem is that I have been with my fiance for eight years and I have attended numerous family parties with his relatives from his maternal side. However, I haven’t really had a chance to get close to any of them since they usually ignore me. His uncle even said some derogatory things about me and does not even say hi to me at parties. I am therefore disinclined to include some of these people in our special day, but at the same time I don’t want to upset my FMIL. We told her we intended to invite some, the ones we have good relationships with, but she continues to insist on having all of them.

Also, a destination wedding is out of the question. Help!!!

anniebear

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