Wedding Blog

Because we didn’t do a whole lot of posed, formal portraits with our friends and family, shots of moments like this one are so special to us. Why do I love this photo by Kelli Nicole?

1. It reminds me that it is wonderful to have shots of people other then the bride and groom at the wedding. Make sure and note to your photographer if there are specific people in your life that you would like to have captured!
2. The couple pictured (L and J) are some of our closest friends here in Dallas, and with any luck their wedding will be the next one we attend.
3. I didn’t just plan this wedding for us, I planned it for our guests. Don’t they look like they are enjoying themselves?

L read our quote by C.S. Lewis from Mere Christianity, and did an absolutely beautiful job. This quote describes everything Mr. Avocado and I believe about what love should be. When our marriage becomes difficult, this is the text we will turn to in order to remind us what we are working for.

Being in love is a good thing, but it is not the best thing. There are many things below it, but there are also things above it. You cannot make it the basis of a whole life. It is a noble feeling, but it is still a feeling. Now no feeling can be relied on to last in its full intensity, or even to last at all. Knowledge can last, principles can last, habits can last; but feelings come and go. And in fact, whatever people say, the state called “being in love” usually does not last. If the old fairy-tale ending “They lived happily ever after” is taken to mean “They felt for the next fifty years exactly as they felt the day before they were married,” then it says what probably never was nor ever could be true, and would be highly undesirable if it were. Who could bear to live in that excitement for even five years? What would become of your work, your appetite, your sleep, your friendships?But, of course, ceasing to be “in love” need not mean ceasing to love.

Love in this second sense–love as distinct from “being in love”–is not merely a feeling. It is a deep unity, maintained by the will and deliberately strengthened by habit; reinforced by the grace which both ask, and receive, from God. They can have this love for each other even at those moments when they do not like each other. They can retain this love even when each would easily, if they allowed themselves, be “in love” with someone else.

“Being in love” first moved them to promise fidelity: this quieter love enables them to keep the promise.

It is on this love that the engine of marriage is run: being in love was the explosion that started it.

Is there a text, photo, or memory that you plan to use from your own wedding to remind you what you are working for in your marriage? If it’s written down or captured in a photo, please feel free to share!