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Need some advice from you ladies.

We are having about 300 people at our wedding. (Yikes, I know, that’s a lot!)

Because of that, my fiance and I really want our rehearsal dinner to be a much more intimate affair—immediate family, wedding party, grandparents, and Godparents… that would get us to about 50 guests (yes, I know, yikes again that’s a lot for some of you).

But, our problem is that his parents want to invite all out of town guests to the rehearsal dinner, saying that it is “proper etiquette”… I would say at least 50% of our guests are from out of town… that’s about 150 people at a rehearsal. That is a SECOND wedding!!  We are very against this.  His parents do understand but they also are pretty stuck on the “every out of town guest receives an invitation” thing. (I know we are so lucky that they are willing to host this event, but since my fiancee only has another sibling, his brother, and they will never get to host their “own” wedding, I fear that they are trying to make our rehearsal their wedding!)

I was thinking a good remedy would be to have our intimate rehearsal and dinner from 6-8PM and then a planned gathering at a bar nearby from 8-10?

What are your thoughts on this?  What is the proper etiquette?  Do we have to invite all people visiting from out of town? Is it something worth pushing or should we just back off and let them do what they want?  I don’t want to be ungrateful for what they are giving us, but I also don’t want two weddings two nights in a row.

Thanks for listening and for any advice!

HumarockBride

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