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So… I have a secret. A big one. Like the kind I feel like I should be super embarrassed about.
I met my soon-to-be-husband online.
Oh, the shame!!! Senor Snapdragon is equally embarrassed about this fact, so much so, that I am verboten from telling anyone… except… thousands of bees. 
Here’s the deal…
Like many bachelorettes, I spent the majority of my twenties dating real tools. They might have been hot, or successful, or enormously talented, or why-the-heck-did-I-ever-pick-YOU… but they weren’t love. Never love. Once I hit the age of 26, I was ready to find real love, the kind of love where we hung around all day on the couch watching football and supporting each other through anything and everything—most of all, someone with whom I felt safe to truly be myself. To me, there is nothing more exhausting than editing everything you want to say because you are afraid your flavor of the moment is going to react negatively or is going to judge you. So… I signed up for an online matching thing-a-ma-bopper, and two weeks later, my fiance and I found each other. He disabled his account immediately after that… I kept mine going for a few more months. 
But that was really it for me. I knew that this guy was The One.
So, even though my twenties were largely all about dating the wrong guys, I am thankful because now that I’ve found the right one… I appreciate how hard love can be to find, and if I had to go to the internet to find it, that is A-OK. After all, if I can find Marc Jacobs for half-off online, why not a fiance?
Did you meet your fiance in an unconventional way?
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yup, online via our blogs. =) i did get some minor flack from college friends because they didn’t quite understand the whole concept but other than that everyone has been supportive. though we haven’t told our parents how we met [and i haven't said anything because it makes my head hurt just thinking about how to explain the concept of a "blog" to mine!]. we just stick to “we went to school together” because technically, we did. lol.
We met speed dating! He is so embarrassed by it, but I think it’s hilarious. None of his friends know, just that “we met in a bar” which I guess we technically did. It was pretty out of character for either one of us to try speed dating, but I guess it was fate Wedding is in 71 days!!!
“after all if I can find Marc Jacobs for half-off online, why not a fiancé?”
AMEN!!!!
I think that meeting online is becoming much more common. I am going to 2 weddings this summer where the couples met online:) Congrats on finding the love of your life, even in a non-traditional way!
I too met my fiance online But we tell everyone… we found it best to just say it and be proud of it, then ppl feel uncomfortable making fun of us. We’ve also found that most everyone knows someone else who has met their bf/fiance/spouse online.
I know - meeting online is becoming SO much more common! I am glad he’s starting to let me tell people. Before we used the “mutual friends” line. Lies, ALL LIES!
We met via MySpace ::blush:: I think I get embarrassed because when people think of MySpace they think “creepy old guy” or “13-year-old.” It was the summer before his 6th and final year at Ohio University, he said he was looking for some new people to hang out with, he told me where he lived (a place known for big parties), I was 19 and looking for a place to drink underage, and the rest is history. A lot of people know, but I need to start being more proud.
Oh, and your fiance is cuuuuuute!
I met my husband through my ex boyfriend, whom I met online in an avatar chat room when I was twelve years old! The ex and I dated exclusively online for 14 months before meeting in person when I moved out west. He introduced me to Mr. CP.
We TOTALLY met on Craigslist! It is hard not to feel weird about it for a minute, but it’s so common now. And honestly, love is love, who cares where or how you found it. I hope you and Mr. SD can get to a place where you are comfortable with not editing that fact from your love story. Someday our kids will think online dating is TOTALLY normal and there will be no stigma. As normal as having an African American president (I can’t get over how amazing it is that our children will never find this anything but ordinary.) HEART
Miss Snapdragon - you and the Mr. are SO CUTE…such a good looking couple! I love your hair too!
My husband and I didn’t meet online, but I felt like you were writing about my life when I was 26 years old too (looking for real love and EXHAUSTED from not feeling like I could just be myself).
I met my boyfriend online 7 years ago and we were so afraid of what our family and friend would think at the time that we lied to everyone about meeting “thru a friend” as well. Now…I don’t know how to tell everyone we lied…hehe. So I guess we will just continue on with the story. :-p
I just went to a wedding where the couple met online … and it made for some great stories at the wedding.
I met my fiance on match.com, and we’ve only told a few friends the truth. We have a cover story for people we don’t know so well! I don’t have a problem with telling, but he’s super embarrassed. If we all band together and tell the truth, the stigma will disappear, and more people will be open to it. Oh well!
I think your story is pretty common! We met online too, and hardly anyone knows. We tell people that we met at a bar. Which isn’t entirely a lie, because the first time we met up in person WAS at a bar.
My fiance and I met online as well (after someone setup an online account for me and emailed to me through a bogus email account)….and if that wasn’t bad enough a few nights before our “first meeting/date” we were chatting and realized we were both headed to same store to pick up cleaning supplies in preparating for weekend guests….so we just met and shopped together. So I’m not sure which is worse: saying we met online, or that we met in Wal-Mart!
Same love story here… we met on yahoo personals back in 2005.
@GG+SB: That is HILARIOUS. I love me some Wal-mart.
@Sharmeen: Yeah, I think I talked Mr. Snaps into confessing at our wedding! I have middling-to-no problem with it, but he gets embarassed. Seriously though, after college it is really tough to meet someone!
@Erin: YES - I bet if we did band together, we’d find that meeting online is actually pretty common.
My husband and I met online (through The Onion personals). I was 21 and he was 26. I was going to a women’s college at the time and had just returned to the Bay Area from a different co-ed college where all the straight guys were taken, so I was ready to meet some dudes. We immediately connected through email - we were both English majors in college, and both had teaching, traveling to Africa, and the love of the outdoors in our backgrounds. It wasn’t love at first site, but we kept up a correspondence for a few months after our first date, and eventually started a relationship. 5+ years later we’re still going strong!
I forgot to mention I know a third couple who met online-ish! My cousin and his now-wife met playing Playstation online. I don’t really get how it works, but I do know that they are perfect for one another!
We met in real life, but I found him 6 years later on Friendster! He likes to tell people I stalked him online. Whatever.
My hubby and I met on Match.com. I told my sister to try and that’s how she met her husband!
We were honest about it to people and all of a sudden friends and family members revealed that they too had met online but lied about it for YEARS!
I do wish we had met in a more conventional or romantic way, but what can you do?
oh my gosh you guys are so darn cute i can’t take it!! seriously you look so perfect together, i love it.
He was my first match.com date, and I was his second. Meanwhile all my match.com-addicted coworkers were heading toward year 3 of their subscriptions.
I am getting married in 3 weeks and we met online!!! On My Space of all places. Most people know how we met. It’s just easier to tell the truth than make up a silly story. We are soooo in love. I’m 38 and had all but given up but then there he was… in my Inbox!
@EmilyQ: met my husband on myspace too. and yes, i did feel kind of icky, but he’s so wonderful it was worth the temporary queasiness. @Tracy:
You both are really the cutest looking couple!! Hey… you found LOVE with someone that is a good match and your best friend! Thats all that matters in the end..congrats! xo
You two are adorable! We also met online, there’s really no shame about it, as a lot of people I know have done it!
I have a bunch of friends who met their husbands on jdate! It’s a really common way to meet someone with similar interests and values.
You’re so cute! Mr. PP and I met online, and we used the mutual friend line as well for our friends and family- oh the stigma of online dating!
my fiance and I met through mutual friends at Disneyland! and that’s also where he proposed!
my friend’s official story is that they met at the hospital where she works…they met online and just happened to work in the same area. They’re both embarrassed to admit it!
My fiance is my friend’s boyfriend’s sister-in-law’s cousin. At least if we met on-line it would be easier to say! And by the way you guys are too cute!!!
Everyone has said it, but you two really ARE a great-looking couple! And I met my pre-Mr-T boyfriend online and am a huge advocate of the idea for all my single friends. Sure, there are a few profile fakers, but overall I think you often get a much clearer view of a person than if you met him briefly at, say, a party.
@Mrs. Tulip: Hi, Tulip! That is what made me feel ok about trying it. I realized that going out on dates with guys I had just met at a party, etc. really wasn’t too much different!
I met my husband in a chat room almost seven years ago (we were both 19). And yes, it’s still embarassing =/
Craigslist!
You can find everything online, and if you try hard enough, for free
I have the same shirt as you, Miss Snapdragon! :o)
Awe, we met on Yahoo Personals back in early 07…and found out it’s just SO much easier to tell the truth up front.
Think of it this way - the more you tell your friends the truth, the more the stigma/shame of online dating will be removed. As more and more people meet people online, and more people realize that it is a good, not-lame way to meet people, more people will do it. Sure, a couple people might mock you, but they will be less likely to mock the next couple because they’ll think, “well, it worked for the Snapdragons.”
judging from these responses it seems like everyone in the hive.
I met my bf online as well, though we were 14 at the time and he added me on ICQ (oh the days of icq) and used the “oh I thought you were my friend but it’s ok, let’s be friends” line on me.
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Miss Snapdragon, Chicago
Age and Occupation: 30, Production Assistant for a Media Firm
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 30, Education Administrator
Wedding Date: June, 2009
Blogging Since: November 14, 2008
Venue: The Hyatt Lodge
About Me: Vintage and crafting obsessed. Voracious reader of short stories, Russian literature, National Geographic and Cosmo. I am a GENIUS at spicing up Weight Watchers recipes and a pathological cheater at board games. A Texan transplanted to the snowy Midwest, I can't wait to marry my one and only. Is it June yet? ... What about now?
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