Register for Your Vendors

Register for Your Vendors

November 20th, 2008 @ 3:34 pm by Mrs. Bee
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Wedding Registry Direct recently contacted me about their new registry service, which allows couples to register for personalized gifts from their vendors.

Here’s how it works: You discuss gift ideas with your vendors like a photo album, ceremony flowers, or contributing to a videography package. Then the vendor signs up with Wedding Registry Direct, and you receive a url where your guests can go to purchase various services or extras towards your wedding.

What do you think about this service? Would you use it as a bride? Would you use it as a guest?

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22 Responses to “Register for Your Vendors”

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almostananderson

That’s a really cool idea, but I think as a bride, I’d only share it with my family/family-in-law. For example, we want to do a flushmount photo guest book that is out of our budget, so we’re asking my dad to purchase it as his wedding gift to us (no, he’s not paying for my wedding also!).

I guess I’d prefer for my guests to feel like honored guests, not like they’re at a party they paid for. Maybe that’s old-fashioned… I like the idea!

11/20/08 @ 3:41 pm (reply)

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WeddingKitty (message) 100 posts, Blushing bee

Sounds a bit tacky….

11/20/08 @ 3:41 pm (reply)

Member

haselwand (message) 190 posts, Blushing bee

So you’re saying you could register for your photographer? Hmm…sounds like it would be a bit too far from tradition/etiquette for me. I’m all for new ideas, but I think some people would be incredibly offended by this. Plus, we’ve all seen how fabulous low-key weddings could be. I agree with almostanderson, could be great for parents and grandparents.

11/20/08 @ 3:48 pm (reply)

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BaghdadBride

100% Tacky. If you can’t afford the wedding you’re having then scale it down. Guests shouldn’t pay for the party they are attending.

I wouldn’t use it as a bride and I especially wouldn’t use it as a guest.

11/20/08 @ 3:48 pm (reply)

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chelseamorning (message) 2,252 posts, Buzzing bee

I agree it seems tacky to ask guests to pay for the wedding itself. It would send the message that without their money they will not be treated well. Many couples use money they receive to pay for the wedding after the fact, but guests leave that to the couple’s discretion. Asking for money to pay for the wedding outright sounds like you’re having a wedding you can’t afford, which seems irresponsible.

This site would be better for “after-wedding” sorts of presents, like a honeymoon or a photo album. I bet you could use this to register for things on sites like Etsy! That would be cool.

11/20/08 @ 4:00 pm (reply)

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mentionbien1 (message) 28 posts, Newbee

eeeeh…not so sure about this one! But to each bride, her own!

I certainly wouldn’t be offended if I were a guest of said wedding, but just not sure I would do it myself.

11/20/08 @ 4:01 pm (reply)

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Sparkles (message) 706 posts, Busy bee

Hmm. I would be uncomfortable with this. 1) because I have a few friends who would be like, ‘you want to spend $$$ on THAT?!’ and would instead send me links to someone who they would think is more affordable. and I don’t want to be judged by my friends for which vendors I choose to go with. Especially if they think they can find a better vendor for a better price range. It isn’t for me to say who should spend their money on what though… and 2) because I think my friends would prefer to spend money on something meaningful– and that wouldn’t include helping us out with a vendor.

11/20/08 @ 4:06 pm (reply)

Guest

IMHO, it’s very tacky.

11/20/08 @ 4:09 pm (reply)

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phruphru

Who comes up with these things??

11/20/08 @ 4:11 pm (reply)

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BeachbrideT

I think its a little tacky. I think its nice to speak to your parents if you need help “upgrading” a vendor’s package (a more thorough video, or a seamless album). But using this service is like asking your guests to help pay for the wedding.

11/20/08 @ 4:14 pm (reply)

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mrshudson (message) 143 posts, Blushing bee

I agree with BaghdadBride. Not something I would participate in as a bride or a guest.

11/20/08 @ 4:53 pm (reply)

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Lucas C

The idea is not exclusive for helping pay for the wedding, you can also register only for certain extras. A leather-bound photograph album, extra dance lessons, a romantic dinner on your honeymoon. Do you guys think it is as tacky to ask for these personalized gifts?

11/20/08 @ 5:02 pm (reply)

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Sparkles (message) 706 posts, Busy bee

well because- like I said- my particular friends and some family members are like practical/cheap. So they would want to dedicate themselves to researching high and low for something more cost-effective (plus they want to feel good about their purchase by putting thought into it). I don’t argue with the personalized gift thing. It’s just my group of people tend to not want to be dictated to what I want- rather they would be like “oh- I can find something along those lines somewhere else cheaper, I know a great vendor that [they think] can do that better or I can make it for her myself!” kinda attitude. It wouldn’t work for my people. As for someone giving it to me- I might be willing to look at it. I guess it would depend on what the other party put on their Vendor Registry List as to what I might conceive in participating towards… Usually I ask my friends “what on your registry did you not get that you were really hoping to have gotten?” And I get them that (if it’s realistic and not a big$$$ item).

11/20/08 @ 5:35 pm (reply)

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Starry-Eyed Barefoot Bride

Its not a bad concept, but I don’t think I’d use it. As a guest, if it were a photo album, ok - but flowers or anything else thats a one day thing? Nope. It feels like paying for their wedding, and like its something they honestly will never use again. I always hope that the gifts i give remind people of me or the special occasion. And others have brought up a good point: Those who were recently married in a budget near yours might not object, but those with other budgets or who havent gone through the insanity of wedding prices might be appalled (over or under) - either way - not good.

11/20/08 @ 6:34 pm (reply)

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Red (message) 119 posts, Blushing bee

It’s a novel concept but like others, I would feel weird disclosing how much I am paying to my vendors. This registry idea would probably fit better with a honeymoon type registry where you can register for physical items that can be used after the wedding like the album, or dress-cleaning services, or a nice dinner for two, etc.

11/20/08 @ 6:47 pm (reply)

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MissCricket

Nope.

11/20/08 @ 7:34 pm (reply)

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Bee

Mrs. Penguin (message) 3,499 posts, Sugar bee

I’d say that my side of the family would think this was genius and Mr. Peng’s side would not like it as much. I think his side of the family likes to give physical gifts, whereas my side of the family is the cash kind. I think it’s cultural.

11/20/08 @ 8:23 pm (reply)

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Kimberly B.

I think its very tacky. You should not expect other people to help pay for your wedding day and its vendors. I want the element of surprise on my wedding day to my guests…ie vendors, costs etc….

11/20/08 @ 10:02 pm (reply)

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LUCAS

I CAN JUST SAY IT LIKE ITS A GREAT IDEA AND WELL DESERVED!!!!

11/26/08 @ 5:24 pm (reply)

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Jerzy

The idea is pretty good, but guests shouldn’t pay for somebody’s weeding..

12/21/08 @ 5:22 pm (reply)

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