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We’ve been planning our wedding for almost a year now. It’s funny to me because (as I’ve mentioned a million times before) I NEVER thought I was the marrying type. I’ve always been a bit Bohemian and anti-establishment, and a freakin’ Disney-princess-white-wedding was never something I was into. NEVER in a million years. Then I got engaged and BAM! I became this bride-to-be person. I started fantasizing about flowers, trying on every big ball gown-y white dress I could find, and making decisions that were VERY uncharacteristic of me. I don’t think I was/am a Bridezilla, I think I was overwhelmed by the task of taking on something so huge with no prior experience. Digging deeper, I think I also really wanted to impress everyone. Not Platinum Weddings impress them, but “Oh wow, look what crazy black sheep M just did. She really straightened herself out and cleaned up her act” impress them, or something along those lines. It’s also funny to me that while I was making these decisions I was also spending an obscene amount of time reading wedding blogs—the vast majority of which had indie souls and preached the virtues of an ‘alternative wedding’. Those sites appealed to me because at their core, their ‘value’ systems are very similar to mine. Yet, I was wearing a bride mask while I worked hard to hide my own quirks and eccentricities.
I don’t really regret the decisions I’ve made.
In fact, I’m positive our wedding is going to be an awesome party and very memorable event for an almost infinite amount of reasons. With about 4 months to go I can honestly say that I’m having WAY more fun than I was 4 months in. I haven’t gone wild and made any completely bizarre choices but I have been more laid back as of late, and Mr. Lemonade and I are making more and more decisions for us (Beatles for the ceremony!) as opposed to Ms. Post (don’t get me wrong, I love me some old fashioned tradition and I’ve always been an etiquette snob, but sometimes, you just gotta say, “Eff it. I’m wearing the/buying the/not including the fill in the blank here.”)
It feels good to be back.
At what point in the planning process were you able to shed the stress and enjoy the ride?
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Right after we booked our venue. Big sigh of relief then!
I totally know what you mean about impressing people based on your younger self. I constantly struggle between wanting to show them how far I’ve come from my “bad kid days” and feeling like I shouldn’t give a shit what they think. You’re doing a great job!
Oh lordy, this is exactly how I feel. It is so easy to let the wedding “get away from you” and become somebody else’s (even if it’s Ms. Post’s!) mucho-stressful wedding. I hope to join you in Stress-free-ville soon. Very encouraging post. 
Wow, totally relate to this post. I just have to keep remembering that all that matters is him at the end of the aisle.
I’m hoping to be there soon!!! I also sigh wistfully looking at non traditional weddings, but I really like traditional too!
Good post
For me, it was the dress shopping. Hearing “It’s your day to be a princess!” and “See how you look like a bride!” over and over reinforced that I viewed the wedding as the beginning of our marriage, not as some extraordinary event in which I would be transfigured into some otherworldly being. I wasn’t “a bride,” I was Erin marrying Richard. Period.
It took a couple of occasional reminders, more because I was getting wrapped up in showing off “what a good little party planner” I was. But I stayed focused by bringing myself back to the question “what do WE want?”
Great post! We’ve been planning for about a year, and have about five months to go. About three weeks ago I had MY chill-out epiphany too. I wonder if it’s something to do with turning that corner in the planning timeline.
I started to get fed up with planning, and was letting it occupy so much of my mental energy, and my time, just because I knew I had all this time to wait. I’ved backed away from “wedding porn” as I like to call it, and weddingbee is the only wedding related online source I use now. It keeps me going, without getting me all wound up and obsessive about it.
I’m actually the opposite - I was the crazy plan my wedding before I’m engaged girl and now that we’re engaged I’m really relaxed about it - told my sister/MOH that she could pick the her and the BMs dresses etc
Except for this dang picking the venue business - I think I’ll be able to relax more once we’ve got that all straightened out and I think we found it today
It took me a while to accept that Ms. Post was not going to like my wedding. But that’s ok with me now and we’re having what we want. I think…but we’re quite happy with where it’s going, even if we are still stressed.
I’m constantly struggling with rebellious black sheep doctor and fairy princess doctor. I’m glad I have that tension. I think it will make for a really unique wedding with some traditional elements and some completely unique elements.
Sorry mom, sis, I’m wearing the Fluvogs! Still, I’m getting married at all, so they’ll be happy
how are you working in the beatles to your ceremony? Me and my fiancé want to do the same, but we’re not sure exactly how.
OMG Miss Lemonade! This post is like you opened my head and started peaking around! Before I got engaged, I would avoid going to weddings like the plague and roll my eyes at the thought of getting married myself. Mind you, I had no problem with commitment (been with my guy for many, many yrs!). Nevertheless, put a ring on my finger and I’m neurotically thinking about planning this one day ALL THE TIME. But bc I still have issue with accepting tradition for tradition’s sake, I continually look to all sources ‘anti-bride’– causing my finance to look at me like I am from another planet with some of the wedding suggestions I come up with.
Since I am still at the ‘10 months to go’ mark, I am glad to hear that the obsessiveness gets better. There is hope for me yet! PS- this now makes you my favorite bee!
I think personality is all in the details. Our wedding was pretty traditional as far as ceremony outside with a reverend, seated reception at a restaurant, first dance, big white dress, all of that.
But we tried to include pieces of ourselves in every traditional aspect. We had friends of ours who are in an Irish music group play our ceremony music. My husband and I both wore Chucks the whole day. We put all the indie “I’ve never heard of that band” kind of music we wanted into the playlist for dinner music but left dancing music mostly up to our DJ. We had Nintendo Mii cake toppers. We had a photobooth with TONS of silly props.
None of the things we did were all that original, but it was very us. We had so many comments from people that they could really see our personality in all of our details and that really meant a lot to me.
Also remember that the wedding world is a bit of a bubble. Even though it seemed like everyone and their mom on the Knot or Weddingbee was renting photobooths for their weddings, I don’t think any of our guests had been to a wedding with one. If it’s something you like, go for it.
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Mrs. Lemonade, Austin/San Antonio
Age and Occupation: 28, Bureaucrat
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 28, Music Management
Engagement Date: December 21, 2007
Wedding Date: April, 2009
Blogging Since: August 22, 2008
Venue: Country Club ceremony, ballroom reception
About Me: I’m a total wonkette who is lucky enough to be surrounded by her favorite things on a daily basis – awesome music, the great State of Texas and of course, Mr. Lemonade! I find any excuse I can to craft something and am completely infatuated with the 1950’s, all things Kennedy, and my furbaby Vida.
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