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I’m so frustrated with myself that I just want to curl into a ball and cry. Like I mentioned earlier, I had a plan. A good, solid weight loss plan. When I started packing and moving to where I’ll be living when I become a Mrs., I stopped caring as much about what I ate and made excuses, any excuses, to avoid workouts.
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As of Thanksgiving Day, I was **almost** 20 lbs. higher than my lowest weight when I was hardcore dieting last summer. I’m so disappointed that I let myself go this much! I’m almost back to my original college graduation weight.
The worst part is, it’s the holiday season! I am forcing myself to Shred again today, but how will I resist the holiday food?
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I swear, Cindy Lou-Who’s eyes and mine look exactly the same around the holiday feast! YUM!
Does anyone have advice to motivate me? I could really use the help right about now. 
I know this will sound crazy, but TRUST me on this one….Get a Juicer and start juicing and substitute fresh fruit or veggie juice for at least 1 meal a day. Weight will drop off of you and you will feel FANTASTIC! PROMISE! (The Jack Lalane is the best!)
veggies…want a snack…baby carrots and low fat dip
want chocolate cake….grab some oranges or bananas with HONEY!
substitute ALL your between meals cravings with veggies and fruits…drop the juices and sodas and take water instead. Drink LOTS OF WATER.
If you don’t feel like exercising…hopefully you have an x-box or a wii or a playstation…buy the dancing game….it works! Dance to 3 songs and that’s 20 mins of cardio while you’re having fun!
In the middle of your meal…STOP EATING…rest for 5-10 mins. let your food digest and you’ll be so full you won’t be able to finish the whole thing…train like that and eventually you’ll just ask for less on the get go.
GOOD LUCK!
P.S. sorry for my crazy writing! 
I’m in the same situation. I do well during the week, but since FI are living apart, we tend to eat out on the weekends when we get together, and I end up overdoing it. I try to amp up the work-outs, but I’m also feeling kind of blah about it.
If you have time in the morning, I’d get your workout out of the way then. Also, try not to stay in your seat all day at work. I have the luxury of working for a company that has 10 floors of a building, so I walk around a lot at work, but even when I don’t, I get out at lunchtime for at least a 15 minute walk. It helps break up the day and can improve my mood. I try and reward myself for the walk. I work in DC, so I’ll try and walk down to the Mall, or to a shop, so I give myself some time to look around before I go back to work. I’ve really discovered the city doing this!
Don’t think of it as a diet or that your goal is simply to look thinner. Think of it as a lifestyle change. Think that your ultimate goal is to live a long and healthy life with your husband-to-be. You’ll look absolutely beautiful in your dress no matter what.
Words to motivate you. I have a lot.
Tried and true methods!!!
First of all- studies have shown that with any “positive habit building process” with each attempt (because there will be times you falter or ‘relapse’) gets you closer to maintaining that habit.
Second, try to do things on a week to week basis. Studies have shown that if you overview things weekly you won’t get overwhelmed with what you haven’t accomplished daily.
Third, get thee an accountability partner. Start getting friends, family, your fiance to help you out with your personal goals. Accountability partner=coach.
You deserve the holiday food. But you have to balance everything. Proportion energy expenditure with consumption.
What do you like to do? Studies have shown girls like to do things in group settings- so try to go running, gym classes, bicycle riding, pilates, run a 5K fund-raiser through work? Find something fun to do you know you will enjoy. *And do everything in baby steps. Studies have shown babies steps are a lot more successful for long term success. You can’t just expect to jump right into doing something and expect fast long term results. You have to nurture it.
So it’s ok if you feel upset about not meeting your personal goal. You have until May! So far away! So much time to cultivate the right balance that works for you!
*Success isn’t measured by times you fall, but how you pick yourself back up again!
Hold yourself accountable to family and friends… blog about it, set small goals, and be realistic. The holidays are brutal, but I’ve allowed myself free reign (and forgiveness) for Thanksgiving and Christmas and holiday parties. Otherwise, I’m sticking to my well-defined plan!
Sparkles and I were on the same wavelength at the same time! Though, she said it much more eloquently
This may sound counterintuitive, but cooking more helps me eat less. You spend so much more time prepping, that it makes it harder to just eat mindlessly.
Keep hydrating; call your friends a lot for support, or better, go on walks with them; try and eat smaller, more frequent meals; and keep track in a food journal. Especially if I know I’m going out to eat at night, it helps me to budget my calories earlier in the day, then set a strict “splurge limit”. Good luck, but don’t beat yourself up too much! You have a lot of time, do it at your own pace.
Lol- Doctorgirl. Unfortunately (or fortunately???) My graduate studies this quarter have been all about Behavioral implications of change and those darn models we have to know inside out (Knowles Adult learning theory… Bandura’s Self-Efficacy, Theory of Social Learning etc). I think the point of my quarter was to be able to summarize it the way I just did in my post. Unfortunately, it won’t be graded. Hahaha.
A lot of the holidays are surrounded on delicious food and baking…I get myself really involved in beautiful holiday projects so that I don’t feel like I’m missing out by not baking.
Don’t deprive yourself of your holiday faves; one of my biggest problems is portion control. Eat a little bit of everything, but not so much that you overindulge.
I am a major food addict, and earlier this year I realized I needed to change my habits. I gained about 40 lbs in the past 3 years and was desperate to lose it. I always made excuses to not exercise-it’s too cold or hot to run outside, gyms are too much money, etc.
I started to portion control back in March. I don’t really follow Weight Watchers, but I use some of thier ideas (and eat Smart Ones for lunch). I eat what I want, but I was definitely over-eating. I’ve found that this with a little bit of activity-walking the dog, playing dance dance revolution-has really helped me to find what works for me.
Eating out less has also really helped. Being in control of what you put into your meals has made it more enjoyable for me. We have saved a ton of money as well by limiting our dining out to a couple times a month.
I’ve lost about 25 lbs, and 3 pant sizes since March. I know I’ll never be able to stick to a ‘real diet’ and I still have more weight to lose, but it has really opened up my eyes to what and how much I eat.
I hope you find what works for you!
can you and your fiance work out together? that helps with me and mine - we push each other…if one is feeling lazy, the other guilt trips the lazy!
Try sparkpeople.com. The food tracker is GREAT for me because I can see how much I eat. It’s also a good accountability tool if you share it with your fiance or maybe a bff. I also keep a picutre of my wedding dress on my desk at work so when I order fries with my lunch (whoops!!) I have to eat them in front of my pretty dress — it’s a great motivator to stay away from fries and other yummies! This whiole watching what we eat thing tricky at the holidays, I know, but you can DO IT!
Miss BF- I have no words of wisdom, but I totally understand how hard it is- and how impossible it is during the holidays to try to get to ‘bride ready’ weight.
The easiest (by far the most effective) baby step is DRINK MORE WATER. When I amped up my water consumption to include at LEAST the recommended 64 oz a day, I found out really quickly that what I thought was hunger was actually thirst.
Make sure you always carry around a bottle of water, and drink up before going to a holiday function. When you’re full of a lot of water, it makes it easier to taste the yumminess, but not overindulge.
And I 100% agree with the 3 or 4 or 5 others who mentioned having someone–a friend, an online community, whatever. I highly, highly recommend getting involved with Sparkpeople.com (and it’s free!).
Hi Miss Ballet Flat — Lots of great suggestions above! I’m a weight watcher, but the single biggest thing that helped me is the book called “Beck’s Diet Solution.” The best exercise in the entire book is one of the first — write down all of the reasons you want to lose weight. All of them, from the silly to the serious. Then read the cards, every day, twice a day, at the times when you are most likely to go off plan. They helped me SO much to keep in mind why I wanted to lose weight, and why it was more important to me than giving into last minute cravings. Even if you aren’t interested in the book, I really recommend that one exercise to help keep you motivated.
Good luck!
I know everyone is anti-drug, but seriously..ask your doctor about the drug Bontril. I worked wonders for me. I only needed to lose about 30 lbs, and it took 2 months on the drug. No appetite. Your doctor must regulate you, and you must have a healthy heart to take it. I’ve always done cardio at least three times a week, but southern food is a killer. Sweet tea was my vice, and I had to learn to give it up. Good luck!
I know how you feel I’ve flopped back to my weight that I was at before the summer when I first started to get healthy and diet. I was pretty discouraged. Everyone’s healthy tips are great and you have to allow yourself to have your holiday meal. What I do… one plate of food and share the dessert with someone else. That is what I did for thanksgiving. All the other days I have been keeping on track and even if I have just lost 4 pounds I know my body is getting on board with the diet and exercise that I have been doing then that motivates me to keep it up. You can do it Miss BF!
Weight loss is hard work, setbacks are normal. You are human.
Health is a life-long journey and no matter how many times you mess up you can - and should - keep trying. (From a previous post I think I remember that you are religious? Think of it like God’s love: No matter how many times you mess up you can always try again! Hmmm…I think that was too sappy.) Blowing your diet today doesn’t mean that you should give up and stop eating healthy. Skipping your workouts this week does not mean that you have to skip them next week.
Be in the present: you how power over what you do right now, be in control of the moment and find strength in your success.
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Mrs. Ballet Flat, New Orleans Age and Occupation: 24, Geographic Information Systems Analyst Fiance's Age and Occupation: 26, IT Analyst Engagement Date: March 16, 2008 Wedding Date: May, 2009 Blogging Since: September 25, 2008 Venue: St. Charles Borromeo Church/Jefferson-Orleans North About Me: I absolutely love wedding planning, spending time with Mr. Ballet Flat, various crafts, watching football, baking, pop music, bargain hunting and ice cream. My idea of a great date night is dinner and clearance shopping with Mr. Ballet Flat! I currently live below sea level in the suburbs near New Orleans, where I make maps all day, everyday for my job. I'm slowly becoming more and more obsessed with anything New Orleans related for our wedding, and I can't wait for the big day!
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