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My best friend is the maid of honor in a wedding this coming January. I’m naturally curious about this other bride’s plans (I don’t really know her all that well), so I occasionally ask my friend how the wedding planning is coming. Her answers are usually the typical things, but the other night she threw me a curveball.
Here’s a general recap of our conversation:
Me: "So how’s everything going with A’s wedding?"
Her: "Well, I’m learning this dance for the reception…"
Me: "What kind of dance?"
Her: "A choreographed dance for the whole bridal party."
Me: "What?!?!! Wait… WHAT!?!?
My friend has to learn a "Rock the Reception" style dance and will be performing it in front of everyone at the reception!
To me, weddings are stressful enough without the added pressure of performing a choreographed dance.
What do you think of choreographed dances at weddings?
If its reflective of the bride and groom, then i say go for it. I know if i tried anything like that, most of my bm’s would freeze up or look more awkward pretending to go along with it… i joke with them that we’re performing bits and pieces of the sound of music during the ceremony - to which many of them look like they are about to freak just at the thought.
I’d say do it if you want it … mo’ power to you, but make sure those people you are asking to join along are comfy with it as well 
I’m with you, there is no way I’d do something like this. We are not either outgoing or particulary coordinated (FI almost knocked over a display of Presidential china on our second date at DC museum) so this would stress us out. I think something like this is only for outgoing people who really want to “wow” their guests.
This is so funny because I just found this YouTube clip yesterday and sent it along to my best friend - she replied saying she would be too embarrassed. If I had the guts, and if my girls (and guys) had the guts (and talent of course), I think this is such a fun idea. At least as a guest, I’d take this over the traditional dances any day! So great!
I love to watch them on you tube and I always wonder who does that?! But I would never do it, not in a million years.
I don’t like the idea of forcing people to do one, but if everyone is game, then I say go for it. We’re learning the Thriller dance for our wedding, along with many of our friends. We told our wedding party about it, but stressed that it wasn’t mandatory, and are also extending the invitation for our guests to learn it as well, just so we can have a big a group as possible without forcing people to learn it.
I am totally for it- although I could never convince my fiance to participate! It can be a fun way to include more people, lighten the mood, provide entertainment… Yeah weddings are stressful, and the planning process is full of unplanned elements- but anything to de-stress I am all for. I think the whole dance idea is cute too because it shows a little bit more of a personal side of the couple to put themselves out on the spot. Love. It. Miss Powder Puff- if you would do it, what song would you dance to? Be honest. Think about it. (ooh the possibilities!) ;o)
IF we were the coordinated, and our bridal parties were the dancing type.. and had the time.. I’d be all about it. I think it would set a good tone for the rest of the guests to feel at ease dancing/making fools of themselves on the dance floor
I think it totally depends on the people! My sisters and I used to come up with choreographed dances, so a few of those make their way onto the dance floor every now and then. (We also LOVE Thriller!) We’re not going to schedule anything official, but I’m sure there will be plenty of choreographed dancing going on…especially when our DJ plays Beyonce’s Single Ladies!
My DH and I did this at our wedding with our “first dance.” It wasn’t anything particularly showy, like the “evolution of dance” one that I’m sure many of you have seen.
We had a choreographed swing dance to “Crazy Little Thing Called Love” by Queen. It was so FUN, and everyone got a huge kick out of it. It was totally not in our personalities- neither one of us have a bit of rhythm in us, which is why I wanted to take lessons. I was so nervous doing that swaying back and forth first dance that we’d have otherwise done. BORING!
We had fun, and it gave us a “date night” each week for a couple of months before the wedding, when we were SOO stressed out and busy… it gave us a chance to just spend time together.
mr. cc & i learned the thriller dance for our friend’s halloween wedding. it was difficult to learn, but worth it to see the surprised faces of the bride & groom when we got out on the dance floor and started shaking our zombie moneymakers 
we had originally planned on having the whole bridal party do it, but everyone pussied out last minute, so it was just four of us. it was fun, but i am crossing my fingers that it won’t end up on youtube haha.
Cute to watch, but I’d never do one as either a bride or a BM. Just not us. I dance like Ellen DeGeneres, so the less dancing for me, the better.
my friend got married overseas, so about 10 of his friends from around the world all came to the wedding in bangladesh.
his cousins choreographed a very elaborate musical play with several numbers, and all the friends participated in the 2 of them. it was a FANTASTIC experience, even though none of us were dancers.
it was a great way to get involved in the festivities and meet new friends. we were truly an international dance troupe: america, serbia, romania, germany, canada, china, malaysia, brazil and mexico were all represented!
@Sparkles: Oh lordy! The possiblities are endless! I really enjoy shaking my booty.
I think I would pick Michael Jackson The Way You Make Me Feel. Fun, upbeat, everyone knows it. But I could NEVER convince Mr. Puffy to hop on board, and I would feel stupid doing it in front of my family. It’s like saying, “I’m such a big girl, I can get married AND dance for attention. Yay!” LOL, not my style.
I love the idea! Although I would never have been able to get my bridesmaid to do it….
I’ve seen this on TLC’s Rock the Reception and I think it’s one of the coolest things I’ve seen lately. Neither me or my FI are coordinated enough to do this and we’re having a tiny wedding (no bridal party) so it’s just not for us - but I’m jealous of couples who can pull it off!
one of my friends from HS just got married last month and they did quite a few choreographed dances– one for the grand entrance, one for the bouquet/garter toss, etc. most of her wedding party was in ASB in high school and we had to do those kinds of dances then, so i guess they already had some practice with that.
totally not my style, though… even if our entire wedding party COULD dance and wanted to, i wouldn’t want to do it– it’s a little too cheesy for me.
hey if they’re up for it and the bride and groom sets it up, i don’t see why it shouldn’t be done. to each his own. i’m a clumsy as heck as a dancer but if it means having fun with the bride and the rest of the bm’s…count me in!
It’s a fun idea, certainly. We had a live band for our reception, and what we really wanted was for everybody to dance (which did happen). So doing some kind of choreographed number, which is mostly going to encourage people to stand back and watch, was something we didn’t even consider. We did take dance lessons, and have had so much fun that we are still taking them, but for us that’s more about just having fun dancing together to all kinds of music, as opposed to an “Oh, look at me!” kind of thing. A choreographed number felt kind of show-offy to us. Our dance instructor actually tried to put one together for us, but we both thought we would probably be getting enough attention as the bride and groom without being the entertainment too.
First dance will be an Argentine tango “Por Una Cabeza” or more commonly known as the tango from the movie “Scent of a Woman”. There will be many Cuban guests that are great dancers and that ought to get things going on the dance floor….no choreographed numbers needed beyond the first dance. A good DJ will know what to do to set and maintain the festive mood.
I think its a fabulous photo op
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Mrs. Powder Puff, Chicago Age and Occupation: 25, Preschool Teacher Fiance's Age and Occupation: 25, Career Services Engagement Date: May, 2008 Wedding Date: July, 2009 Blogging Since: November 12, 2008 Venue: Outdoor ceremony, banquet hall reception About Me: I am your typical Midwestern girl attempting to plan a sane, budget-friendly, fun wedding to the man of my dreams. I love shoes, laughing at “Platinum Weddings”, crafts, inspiration boards, candy, and basically anything I can DIY. While weddings can certainly be all-consuming, I honestly can’t wait until the ceremony is over and I can finally call Mr. Powder Puff my husband!
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