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Hi everyone,

So, I already bought my wedding dress.  It’s a Melissa Sweet Valentina.  I bought it at only the 2nd store I visited and I went with my parents and my grandmother because my bridesmaids couldn’t come.  It was a Melissa Sweet trunk show so I felt pressured to buy because everyone was saying how beautiful I looked in it and because of the discount.  So I bought it for well with in my price range.

Afterwards, I was feeling complete remorse because I didn’t have my MOH or my friends with me.  So, I decided to keep my wedding dress a secret and continued to shop “just for fun”.  What a bad idea that was.

I fell in love with the Ines Di Santo Susanna dress with the detachable rosette train and jeweled belt, which is totally out of my price range, but I love it.

The Melissa Sweet dress is not returnable and all sales are final.  But now I’m stuck with the feeling that I’m not going to wear my dream dress down the aisle.

My MOH says that it’s my day and if it means having 2 dresses, then so be it.  But it almost seems ridiculous to spend that kind of money on a dress you wear for 6 hours.

Any advice?  What should I do? Thanks in advance.

amberlaguna

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Dear amberlaguna,

Every bride has second thoughts, whether it be about her dress or another wedding detail (hopefully not about the groom). Every bride has dreams too, whether it’s a dream dress or a dream venue and so forth. Most are in no financial situation to get their dreams, whereas you are…maybe. But does that mean you should go for it?

You can sacrifice a whole lot of money and effort to get your dreams, or you can choose to embrace the pretty amazing reality that you already have—a gorgeous $4,000 wedding dress—and let the dreams be dreams. I too found dresses I liked better after I had already bought mine. I wore my original one, and I can say without a doubt it was the right choice. I looked great, felt great, and my money I might have spent on another dress was spent or saved in much better places.

You can control your attitude toward the dress you already have. Choose to love your dress and to make it what you want instead of trying to replace it with the next new best thing. This probably won’t be the last decision you’ll second guess, and it’s best just to stick to your decisions and not look back, or else your budget and your sanity will fly out of control.

It sounds like you feel like you don’t have enough of a “wow” factor in the Melissa Sweet dress—although I looked at pictures of the Melissa Sweet gown online and they are pretty amazing…I got married in a church too and it looks decadent, perfect for a church wedding. Have you considered wearing a cathedral-length veil with the Melissa Sweet gown (possibly with a longer train), or a dramatic headpiece? I think you will be a showstopper in that dress.

chelseamorning

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