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I have noticed discussions about wearing your engagement ring… this may seem strange to some, but has anyone ever thought about just selling theirs?  Here’s the situation.  I lost my job 8 MONTHS AGO!!  We’ve been doing fine, thank God, but since Christmas we’ve had trouble getting back on track.  I have applied to millions of jobs, but to no avail.  We have recently started trying to get pregnant, we want to buy a house, all that stuff. Anyway, I wear my ring only when I go to an “event”, i.e., family gatherings, weddings, showers etc.  Both of my rings, for that matter.  Everyone always asks me where they are.  I am not really a fancy jewelry kind of person. I wanted the rings before because I thought that was important.  I don’t like wearing them now because I feel like they represent a “taken” status, like I am owned. I feel like the e-ring is some sort of status symbol, etc.  I mean, I love them, they are exactly what I said I liked, but I feel like I would like a simple, unique band instead.  Also, the money will obviously be useful.  It seems like a waste to let it sit there all the time.  The only thing is, obviously they should mean something—they do of course, the proposal, wedding ceremony, etc. is obviously a part of it.  My question is—has anyone ever decided they didn’t want their rings anymore?  Will I totally regret it if I do sell them?  I know DH would probably be happier to sell them than to leave them in a jewelry box all the time… he gets so mad… opinions anyone?  Also, I know a lot of people upgrade their rings after so long… we could just do that someday too… does THAT take away the meaning of it?

dreambml

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Dear dreambml,

Lots of people upgrade their rings. Usually ”upgrade” means “bigger and fancier,” but really it’s just about getting something you like better.

If you want to “upgrade” to a funky band off Etsy that you like better, by all means go for it. I don’t think that takes away the meaning…you give the rings their meaning. It’s like parents who rename their children a few months after they are born. They didn’t trade in for a new kid, just a new name. You won’t be getting a new marriage, just a ring that suits you better.

It might hurt your husband’s feelings if you say you want to sell the rings though, since they are something he probably put a lot of care and money into purchasing. Maybe the first thing to do would be to find a band of Etsy that you like better that you’d wear more often. If you have a replacement wedding ring the meaning of a wedding ring transfers onto the new rings and so he may be more amenable to selling the old ones then.

chelseamorning

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