Wedding Day Recap, Pt 2 – Chinese Wedding Door Games

In addition to the Chinese Tea Ceremony, Mr Peony was also eager for us to participate in Chinese Wedding Door Games.

I am not too familiar with the tradition, so I will let China Bridal do the explanation:

Door game originated from ancient time which implies that the bride is a lovely girl and her family and friends do not want to marry her away. The groom will be blocked at the bride’s door, and her friends will try to stop him from entering by asking questions about the bride, a way to test if he really cares about her. They may also do other tricks to delay the bride’s leaving. The groom will try to buy his way in by presenting “Li Shi”, token money wrapped in red envelopes. The entire “bargain” process is joyous and good-natured.

There is a large variety of games that can be played, and some of them can be rather embarrassing! For some examples of funny door games, see here and here. Many times, the groom is not able to fulfill the task by himself, so his groomsmen will need to step in and help out.

Since our wedding party was at a hotel, we decided to keep the door games relatively short and painless…

The boys arrive at the girls’ suite:


“What do you mean you can’t see my future wife?”


“You want me to do what?!?”


“How about I answer some questions instead?”


My bridesmaids then racked their brains in order to think of potentially embarrassing/difficult questions to ask Mr Peony. For every question he answered incorrectly, he was forced to do push-ups… with the number of push-ups increasing with each incorrect answer.

Mr Peony confers with his groomsmen over a particularly difficult question…


… and he gets it wrong!


He doesn’t know the answer to the next question either:
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Or the next…


And the next!


Eventually, his groomsmen are forced to jump in and help finish the push-ups:


At one point, there was an entire row of them doing push-ups along the hall!


Meanwhile, the girls certainly seem to be having fun:


Eventually, the games died down.


And we were finally able to meet for the first time on our wedding day!


Next up…the Chinese Tea Ceremony!


Mrs. Peony

New York
Wedding Date:
April 2008
T-Minus Eight Days
Full Circle


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    honeymyheart, Guest @ 2:58 am

    door games look like so much fun. awesome photos :)

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    duckling 1415 posts, Bumble bee @ 11:41 am

    That is funny! you all look beautiful!

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    eileen, Guest @ 3:14 pm

    Those door games sound like a hoot. (Makes me wish I had a little Chinese blood coursing through these veins–the traditions are wonderful!)

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    magnolia 253 posts, Helper bee @ 11:24 pm

    I love it! Mrs. Peony, this sounds like a truly fascinating tradition!

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    winter 1333 posts, Bumble bee @ 8:10 pm

    it’s so much fun to read your updates cause I actually know you . hehehe it looks like so much fun

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    AmandaAtChineseWedding 33 posts, Newbee @ 10:56 pm

    It’s my first time to hear about the “Chinese Wedding Door Game”, but seems that I may have a try in my future wedding as well. Haha.
    PS: It’s not so easy to do push-ups, especially when you have to do them continuously.

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