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Last night I was on the phone with a very good friend (friends since first grade!). We were talking about a couple we knew from high school that was recently married and quickly divorced. She said she never liked that guy anyways, so I asked her jokingly if she liked my FI. There was a long pause and then she asked if I wanted her to be honest. This really caught me off guard. She pretty much told me she didn’t like my FI and said, “But I don’t have to marry him.” Ouch. After another awkward pause, I changed the subject and we hung up.

I’ve been engaged for seven months and have been feeling really guilty nearly that entire time because I had decided to try to keep my wedding party as small as possible, and I did not ask this friend to be a bridesmaid. Now, I guess I don’t feel so bad. I was planning on asking her to be a reader or give her another “job” to acknowledge our close friendship and to make sure she still felt like a part of the day. Now I don’t know if I feel comfortable doing that.

I guess this is more of a vent. I’m just feeling a little hurt. My FI is a great guy. He treats me so well and is always kind and respectful to my friends. I can’t imagine he’s done anything to give her a reason to feel this way. She probably has only seen him a handful of times in the last four years that we’ve been together anyway.

Would you ask a friend to be a part of your wedding if you knew she didn’t like your FI? Would you bring it up again with her the next time you hung out (she lives about three hours away so I don’t see her too often)? Or would you just act like that conversation never happened?

poandko

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