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I having slight anxiety regarding the dress I purchased and I thought that the boards may calm my nerves with some input.

How does one handle the “how much did you spend” question?

I spent way more than I ever considered spending on a dress and I guess that I am having a slightly guilty conscience based on the fact that it will be worn for one day. I’ve had several “How much did you spend?” comments from another bride-to-be and randomly, my boss, and I feel really uncomfortable telling anyone those details. How do you answer them?? And why are people so rude to ask?? Maybe I feel more guilty than I should if I am ashamed to tell people what I spent.

Also, does anyone else stress over the fact that you have purchased something that you aren’t going to be able see again for 6-8 months until it arrives? What if I don’t even like it anymore?! Eek. I am freaking myself out… I am also guessing that some of this anxiety has to do with the fact that no one has seen it, other than my mom. Generally I get the opinion of my friends for things like this. But I sort of splurged and didn’t want them persuading me one way or another.

Anyone else?

enhagen

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Dear enhagen,

Financial matters are no one else’s business. When people ask you how much it cost, you can say, “Oh, I’d rather not discuss that/money/finances.” People are always going to make their own interpretations about what that means and you can just leave them to their fun.

In fact, whenever anyone asks you something that you’re not comfortable answering, all you do is say, “I’m not comfortable discussing that” or, “I’d rather not talk about that.” And then follow up with a related topic—like, how much you enjoyed going shopping with your mom—to keep the conversation going.

chelseamorning

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