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Forgive me if this has been touched on before, but as the title states, I’m in a pickle!

I have a good relationship with both my dad and my step-dad, so I am worried about who will walk me down the aisle. When I started wedding planning, I talked with my step-dad about it, and he was nice about it and said that I should walk down the aisle with my real dad and that he didn’t have to have a father-daughter dance either as long as I saved a dance for him at the reception.

I don’t like the idea of splitting the aisle, and I have always been independent, so I don’t really have to have anyone “give” me away, but then that takes me to the father daughter dance. I don’t want to split that either, but do I make the crowd wait through two? Who goes first?

Of course I will dance with him at the reception regardless… is there any other way I can do something special for him that I don’t know about?

All input is appreciated! What would/did you guys do in this situation?

LLauRRa

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Dear LLauRRa,

What did your step-dad mean when he said you should save him a dance at the reception? He might not have meant that he wanted a formal dance with you, just a dance. In which case, you might be off the hook.

But if you’re wanting to recognize them both formally anyway, then go ahead and have two formal dances. Just pick short songs, or maybe have the DJ fade between two. I would dance with your biological dad first.

If you want it to be not so obvious you are changing out your partners, your fiance could switch partners too.

Maybe you could dance the first dance with your dad and your fiance with his mom. Then for the second formal dance, you could dance with your step-dad and your fiance could dance with your mom. (If his dad was feeling left out, then his parents could join you together for the second song as well.)

chelseamorning

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