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Mrs. Meatball, Hollywood Age and Occupation: 30, Actor/Writer/Office Maven Fiance's Age and Occupation: 28, Actor/Writer Engagement Date: October 7, 2007 Wedding Date: May, 2009 Blogging Since: September 16, 2008 Venue: Private Garden/The Bungalow Club About Me: I love melty cheese and diet coke almost as much as I love my man. I'm from Chicago, he's from NYC, and we both miss public transit and great pizza. We have an adorable muppet dog called Paco. I'm part hippie with a healthy dash of hip hop superstar, have excessive empathy for animals, and have not one, but two bionic eyes (long story). We're broke and it ain't no joke. It can't stop us from planning the bold and whimsical wedding of our dreams, but we've had to get pretty creative to make it work, yo!
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Wedding Blues Breakthrough

January 23rd, 2009 @ 9:31 am by Mrs. Meatball

I got a job yesterday! Meet the new official errand runner for a local accounting firm. Yep, I’ll be driving all around, getting groceries and lunch, picking up dry cleaning and computer monitors… anything they need. I think it’s a terrific use of my masters degree. :)

In all seriousness, I’m just so happy to have something. These days, more and more of us are forced to take positions that are below our normal skill set and standards, just to pay the bills. There ain’t no shame in that game! Gots ta stay afloat somehow, right? This sounds like a pretty painless way to do it.

Tiger, my personal trainer (and apparent fairy godmother) helped me get this job. So, thanks to her, not only am I getting a body makeover, but also out of the unemployment nightmare. And not a minute too soon, either!

This Saturday marks our 4-month wedding pre-versary (if it wasn’t already a phrase, it should be). We’re starting to really feel the pressure to spend, make payments, and generally start draining our meager savings toward making it happen. As an unemployed couple, it sure can be guilt-inducing to spend money you might later need for rent, etc. So, recently we’ve been walking on eggshells about it, putting it off, fearing for the future.

Even though I’m taking a pay cut of about 50% for this, it still changes everything to have stable, reliable income each week. Now we can at least rest easy that our mouths will be fed, and we’ll be ok. It’s like permission to start feeling excited about wedding planning again, and such a huge weight off our shoulders. I hated feeling guilty about the wedding… what a drag, right?

So, things are looking up, indeed. First order of business, buying the decor items I’ve been hungrily eyeing for months on end. Yeaaaaah booooooy.

Have you ever felt wedding guilt? What causes yours, and how do you overcome it?

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chicagoseattle (message)  111 posts, Blushing bee

Congratulations Meatball! That is great news.

 
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Miss Perfume (message)  2,253 posts, Buzzing bee

Meatballz, I be SERIOUSLY HAPPY FOR YOU! Congrats on the new job!! Know that you’re not the only one. EVERYONE is feeling the pinch and austerity is the rule of the day. So glad you can rest easier now!!! Your wedding will be creative, super fun, and full of good conscience, I’m certain.

 
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Miss Snapdragon (message)  717 posts, Busy bee

Yayayay! I am so glad!

 
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Miss Bruschetta (message)  5,565 posts, Bee Keeper

My big wedding guilt right now is over BM dresses. Asking my friends to pay HOW much for their wedding day attire? I’m trying to be reasonable, and many people have told me it’s not too much money, but I’m still majorly feeling badly. :-(

 
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Miss Deviled Egg (message)  1,250 posts, Bumble bee

Congrats, Miss Meatball! I’m really happy to hear you have a job. Yay for you!

I hear you on the 4-month-to-go wedding money stress. It really seems like EVERYONE wants my money now. Not just the wedding vendors, but my 6-month car insurance payment is due, there are birthday gifts to buy, and a lot of other little things that are adding up fast!

 
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Miss Quiche (message)  3,157 posts, Sugar bee

Yeah Meaty!! Congrats :)

I too am stressing about making all of these little purchases - they add up quickly!

 
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Natakie16

Congrats! I am so happy for you!! I just had to take a pay cut with my job and it really has made me feel guilty about shopping and not saving! I still have almost 2 years, but when you have to buy a house and save for a wedding, that is not a long time! I am really trying to save save save! Good luck to you!

 
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wedkat

I totally understand where you’re coming from. My boy just graduated and finding a job is rough! We are concerned about finding stability within the next six months as I will be out of school and in the job market very soon as well. Eep!

 
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demidarling (message)  4 posts, Wannabee

Yay! I feel the same way about money stress too, it’s crunch time, and I’m saving every penny!

 
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Miss Taffy (message)  3,104 posts, Sugar bee

I am so happy to hear this!!!! :) Congratulations, and thanks for the inspiring post!

 
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Miss Texas (message)  242 posts, Helper bee

congrats miss meatball! i only hope to have as much luck as you soon with the jobhunt! i’m going through quite the financial crisis myself. FI is having to endure the burden of paying our portion of nearly everything (we’re dividing costs between us, my ‘rents and his ‘rents).

while he keeps telling me that he’s “supposed” to be taking care of me like this, i can’t help but feel completely guilt-ridden that he’s spending all his hard earned money on this wedding and i can only contribute nickels and dimes. :(

 
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Mrs. Pinot Noir (message)  799 posts, Busy bee

Congrats!! You deserve a HUGE glass of wine!

 
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Miss Sushi (message)  1,479 posts, Bumble bee

Congrats! A lil’ weight has been lifted off your shoulders and put in you pants (change in your pant pockets, that is). :)

 
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Miss Pinot Grigio (message)  1,410 posts, Bumble bee

I feel your pain, Miss Meatball! I, too, had a layoff scare this week….cutbacks are scary! I have a hard time signing those checks, lemmetellya.

Chin up, though! Your special day is almost here, and no one can put a damper on that. =)

 
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Miss Snapdragon (message)  717 posts, Busy bee

@Mrs. Pinot Noir: Ha, all the drinks are ENORMOUS!

 
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kara (message)  625 posts, Busy bee

Congratulations!! That is fabulous-any income is good income I say!

 
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Irishker03 (message)  571 posts, Busy bee

Congrats! That must have come with a nice sigh of relief!

 
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emmabelle (message)  2 posts, Wannabee

Congratulations!!

 
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Miss D'orsay (message)  2,272 posts, Buzzing bee

Congrats Meatball! You so deserve some good luck! Now to see how we can get you 300 votes for that costa rican honeymoon…

 
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Meatball, that is great news - congrats!

 
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Mrs. Meatball, Hollywood Age and Occupation: 30, Actor/Writer/Office Maven Fiance's Age and Occupation: 28, Actor/Writer Engagement Date: October 7, 2007 Wedding Date: May, 2009 Blogging Since: September 16, 2008 Venue: Private Garden/The Bungalow Club About Me: I love melty cheese and diet coke almost as much as I love my man. I'm from Chicago, he's from NYC, and we both miss public transit and great pizza. We have an adorable muppet dog called Paco. I'm part hippie with a healthy dash of hip hop superstar, have excessive empathy for animals, and have not one, but two bionic eyes (long story). We're broke and it ain't no joke. It can't stop us from planning the bold and whimsical wedding of our dreams, but we've had to get pretty creative to make it work, yo!

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