Weddingbee Blog

With our wedding quickly approaching and RSVPs coming back, it’s tough to look at some of the “no” responses. Some of our closest family friends and relatives cannot come, and although I expected it, it’s still tough to swallow.

But there’s one emotion I didn’t expect that came along with the guest list and invitation process that’s taken me completely by surprise. There’s just one invitation I wish I could have sent—an invitation to my birth mother. I’ve known I was adopted for as long as I can remember, and I truthfully LOVE my family. They’ve been so supportive, and I’ve never felt like an outsider. As a matter of fact, my Dad is also adopted, and I think that is a special bond we’ve always had that brought us closer. People will always say, “you and your Dad look so much alike!” We just laugh and agree. I guess I see the resemblance.

I know very little about my birth mother, but I do know she was very, very young and completely committed to my adoption.

She drove from her hometown to a hospital in another county to give birth to me because the adoption laws were much more strict in her county. This was all to prevent her parents from adopting me, so I know that she really wanted me to go to a good home.

But even though I know that my family loves me and my birth mother has made it nearly impossible to find her, I still have this hope that maybe she’ll show up at our wedding. Call me crazy, but it would be so special to look into the crowd and see someone who resembled me and know that she was the one… that she was my mom.

I’ve struggled with even mentioning this to my family, and now that we’re inside the one month mark there’s no way I could actually invite her, but I know there will be a moment where I’ll wish she could see me and how happy I am with the love of my life. I’ll just smile and know that she loved me enough to give me to a loving and supportive family. That’s her gift to me.

Is there a special person you’ll stop to think about or thought about on your wedding day?