Weddingbee Blog

“The creative is the place where no one else has ever been. You have to leave the city of your comfort and go into the wilderness of your intuition. What you’ll discover will be wonderful. What you’ll discover is yourself.” -Alan Alda

Quite often, I run across message board posts and blog posts from brides lamenting the amazing weddings they have attended or seen on the internet. I hear “I could never pull that off”, or “I am just not that creative”. Not true, my friends! Creativity is all about confidence.

Here is the single most important truth in creative confidence: If you like it, chances are - others will like it, too. Everyone - EVERYONE - is creative. The more you act on your creative ideas, the more you will sharpen your instincts as to what works and what doesn’t.

We are all human beings with different talents. Everybody is good at something, and most anything you are good at - requires creativity. So yeah, you may not be a craft Jedi-master that can create her own prom dress out of fabric you wove on a loom yourself (and grew the cotton in your backyard, but of course) - BUT you may be someone who can envision a theme or a look for your wedding and hire somebody else to actualize that look for you. You may be someone who can make her guests feel special in an amazingly creative and personal way. Maybe you can put together an incredibly unconventional menu or write a ceremony that is romantic and fits your personality perfectly. Everyone is creative - you just need the confidence to be yourself and let your creativity flag fly (or your freak flag, as luck may have it!). Let it out!

Another element to free-flowing creativity is trial and error. If you have an idea, try it. There are a number of people who feel comfortable saying things like, “In my life, the thing I am most afraid of is failure.” I could not disagree more with this statement! We fail every day - and we WIN every day! Personally, I love to fail - it’s not something you can get away from, AND, it’s not so bad to fail now and then. Half of the time when I try something new, I get it right; the other half the time, I find out how NOT to do something! The world will not end if you fail at something. Here’s the deal: If you are too scared to voice your creative opinions or try out one of your possibly fantabulous ideas… you are just saying no to yourself - and why would you want to do that?

Once you stop playing that tape in your head that says, “you can’t,” chances are - you WILL!

Have any of you bees recently opened the creative floodgates? Did you find yourself in a crisis of confidence? Or, what thoughts or practices have helped you heighten your creative flow??

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