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I have to be honest with you all—Mr. Powder Puff is not all that involved with wedding planning. He helped pick out the venue and date, but when his eyes would glaze over while I was discussing shades of white, I figured that he might not be the type of guy to give a lot of input into the nitty-gritty of the planning process. So we had a discussion, he told me he trusted my judgment, and I told him he was released from his taffeta prison.
Lo and behold, after a few months of planning, the mister told me that actually, there was one thing he wanted complete and total control over—our first dance.
Now, if you know anything at all about me, you know that I am, above all, a control freak. A major, uptight, crazy control freak. So when Mr. Powder Puff told me that he wanted to surprise me with our first dance song, I panicked a little. On the inside, of course.
“Um… are you sure about that?” I asked, tentatively.
“Yeah, I really want to pick it. It’ll be romantic!”
“Okaaayyyy…” I agreed. Change is good, I told myself. Surprises are good. This will be good, and I can relax and let the man pick a song. It’s only a song!
Over the months, though, I have not been able to sit back and let this issue go. At all. Every chance I get I “casually” suggest songs. “Ooo, this would be a great first dance song!” Or, the much more subtle, “You know, this would make a wonderful song for our first dance…” Every time, I’m met with a rebuff. “It’s a surprise,” he reminds me, “I can’t let you help me.”
Humph!
Here are my ideal suggestions for a first dance.
Mat Kearney, The Middle
One of my favorites. It’s really romantic, and Mr. Powder Puff and I used to listen to this song together a lot when we first started dating.
Embrace, A Glorious Day
A wonderful song. I have no explanation for the video, but the song is fantastic.
Elvis Presley, Can’t Help Falling In Love With You
Absolutely perfect. Simple, romantic, and easy to dance to. Plus, Mr. Puffy loves Elvis.
Mr. Powder Puff! If there is any chance at all that you are reading this post, then smile, shake your head at my foolishness, and take these suggestions. Pretty please?
Are you letting your fiance have final say over anything wedding-related?
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Awww, that’s sweet of him! Mr. MagPie and I are going with a simple, choreographed number, so we need to settle on it (together) beforehand.
But, he is totally taking the lead on the honeymoon planning — and I couldn’t be happier about that!
So sweet! My Fi is involved in everything =) he has final say on tuxes hahah =D He is also responsible for the honeymoon and the marriage license … eeee (crossing fingers… haha) I completely trust him
i’m not only “allowing him” to have control, i’m giving it away without a second thought (which is scary, and causes me to rethink not-rethinking)
TRANSPORTATION: he REALLY REALLY REALLY wants a limo, and I could care less- so i told him he needs to be in charge of all things limo related.
i think i dont care too much about giving away the control becasue if he doesnt follow through doing it the right way (aka my way) i wont be upset.
wow. i sound like bridezilla. but i promise im not.
Awww. Boy actually picked our first dance song (and I agreed)… brava to you for allowing him final say! I am way to anal to allow such things 
I can’t. He doesn’t move fast enough for me.
Mr. D is in full control of the surprise honeymoon. Your songs are sweet!
I guess I’m a control freak, bc I don’t think my FI has complete control over anything! He has majority control over the honeymoon, and I consult him on things once I’ve narrowed them WAY down.
FH is picking our First Dance song too, but I won’t be a surprise. I think it is really sweet that Mr. PP wants to surprise you will your first dance song, but I don’t think I could be completely surprised like that either.
Humm. My Type A personality has only been able to give Mr. Peep small tasks, not complete control of anything. And I think he is ok with that. I’ll have to double check.
i told the bf he could plan our first ceremony [we want to "elope" first just so it's the two of us, and then have the big wedding with family and friends afterwards]. of course i’ve been looking at options too because i just can’t help myself [i love to plan!]. he also has the final say in my ering design though we did go shopping together for the general style we both wanted. can’t wait to see how both turn out!
Aww, come on! Is it not more romantic to have the love of your life surprise you, than it is to control every little thing? Whenever I get obsessive and posessive over wedding details, I go back and watch the super sweet speach Mrs. Shortcake gave on her reception, (found here http://www.weddingbee.com/2008/10/07/part-ii-a-happy-ending/#more-68627), which in short came down to that none of the silly little details really mattered in the end, as long as there were lots of love around to celebrate.
I must say I really hope Mr. Powder Puff does not choose one of your suggested songs (not because I want your first dance to be anything but perfect!), but chooses a different song completely, I think that will make one of the most romantic follow-up posts ever. Go, go Mr. PP! Dare to be romantically obstinate!
Hmm…now that I think about it, I’m pretty much running the show. But Mr. Q definitely inputs his opinion and will nix certain ideas. So, it all works out
I bet he chooses something COMPLETELY unexpected! (Especially if he’s reading this post!)
I am in the same boat as you. He insisted on surprising me with the honeymoon location…but I begged so much he spilled the beans a few weeks ago (and I couldn’t be happier)
I’m sure whatever song Mr PowderPuff picks will be perfect and special…and even if it isn’ta “favorite” song already…it will become one after the wedding!
@Miss Peep Toe: HAHA Ditto! Mr. Latte may think he’s got final say in some wedding-related tasks but he always checks in to make sure it’s OK. That’s right, he knows whats up.
PowderPuff, I think it’ll be so romantic and special when you finally get to hear the song he picks for you! I’m tearing up already…
Music is important to my FI, so I asked him to be on the lookout for a good first dance song, thinking that we’d talk about it and pick it together. However, one afternoon he told me he’d found the perfect one, and that he “didn’t think he could be budged.” He said it so sweetly, it made me laugh. Such a cute man.
Mr. SR isn’t involved in the planning process much either, although he does have a few areas in which he likes to contribute. Great song choices, I can’t wait to see which the mister picks
My FI has final say on the playlist for our Ipod reception. I’m helping him pick the music, but he’s basically got veto power.
Aww. I think it’s hella-sweet that he wants to pick the song.
great songs! I think the second song’s video are clips from the movie “The Four Feathers”. My FI had picked out our first dance song, but it was this weird techno-light mishmash that I vetoed almost immediately.
I let Mr. D have full control of the favors and the his attire. I still dont know what he’s wearing. My dad likes to call me and complain about the “white tux with red tie and cumberbun with ghost flames on the legs.” Not really helping my sanity, but I know he will pick something classy. He’s a great dresser and he wouldnt want to embarrass himself. Neither would mr. PP. He is probably consulting everyone (but you) double checking to make sure they say “AWWWW what a great song!”
My fiance is picking our first dance song and my dad is picking our father/daughter dance song. My bridesmaids are also wearing their own dresses. My brother picked the food. As the bride, I’ll be drawing enough attention; I hope our guests see everyone who is important to me in the details as well.
I think it is a really sweet and cute of him to want to pick out the song and surprise, but I completely understand why you would be a little worried. Hopefully you can trust him enough to make a good choice! I am sure he will! Good Luck!
Anything a groom wants to take control over, let him. Mine wanted to be in charge of food and honeymoon. Fine by me!
you are way off. its obvi going to be “your body is a wonderland” by the immortal john mayer. you’re welcome. I’LL USE MY HANNNNNNNNNDS!
@Mr. Tip A Few Tavern: Thanks, Jake, you rascal. I’ll keep that in mind.
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All our decisions are consentual, but I do most of the idea generating. I asked him if there was anything he wanted to be in charge of, and he couldn’t think of anything, but if he does, it’s his. I am also giving him three rooms in our (hopefully soon to be) house to decorate as he chooses (I do get veto power though), and he’s way more psyched about that.
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Mrs. Powder Puff, Chicago
Age and Occupation: 25, Preschool Teacher
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 25, Career Services
Engagement Date: May, 2008
Wedding Date: July, 2009
Blogging Since: November 12, 2008
Venue: Outdoor ceremony, banquet hall reception
About Me: I am your typical Midwestern girl attempting to plan a sane, budget-friendly, fun wedding to the man of my dreams. I love shoes, laughing at “Platinum Weddings”, crafts, inspiration boards, candy, and basically anything I can DIY. While weddings can certainly be all-consuming, I honestly can’t wait until the ceremony is over and I can finally call Mr. Powder Puff my husband!
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