I did it. I made a name decision, AND got an email account in my new name. Scary and super exciting! Then I told Mr. Cheese about it all… in reverse order. *cue the confused man look*
A friend recently changed her email address due to a divorce-induced name change and was unable to get one with her more common maiden name. Uh oh. I’m going from less common to more common. Way more common. Off to Gmail I went to see what name combos were still available, and firstname+maidennameinitial+newlastname was still available. I hit the Submit button on that puppy and pumped my fist in triumph!
Oh. I think I just committed to changing my name. Hmmm. *the thoughtful cheese look comes out* Neat!
Here’s how I decided:
One of Dave Ramsey’s (do you read/ listen to him?) tricks for helping people make financial decisions is to ask them what they would do if they were starting from scratch today. Not sure if you should sell a rental property to pay off your home mortgage? Well, would you mortgage your home to buy a rental property?
So I asked myself, if this were my first marriage, would I keep my maiden name, hyphenate, or change my name? After some quiet reflection, my excitement at being a family of Cheeses was greater than my concern and annoyance at having to change my name. It also helped that Mr. Cheese has stopped saying things like, “What’s the big deal?” and, “Of course you need to change your name!” and started saying things like, “I really can’t relate to the idea of changing my name, it seems so absurd and strange to me, so this needs to be your decision.” Smart Mr. Cheese.
I practiced writing my new name last night, and while I conjured up crazy images of what FirstName + LastName woman would look like (long dark curly hair with glasses, and too-dark lipstick), I felt better after a few tries. What? Don’t tell me you haven’t written your new name at least once. It’s okay! This isn’t like secretly writing “Kate + Michael = Forever” in your Lisa Frank Trapper Keeper binder. It’s a rite of passage, an important step in your engagement journey, a necessity… this book says so.
Have you “saved” an email address in your new name yet? ‘Fess up – have you practiced saying, writing, doodling your new name?