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I hope you all will forgive my absence, but it has been a rather emotional and stressful month. However, you readers have been so great to me that I feel you deserve some sort of explanation.
Soon after the New Year, Mr. Fondue expressed some concerns with our relationship. He had been acting moody, which I thought was due to holiday stress at his job plus quitting smoking, but, as it turns out, was mostly due to wondering if we were doing the right thing by getting married.
I don’t want to bore you with all the details, but we had a long, drawn out, emotional talk until 4:00 AM one night. He felt our relationship was stagnant and predictable; he said he grows more bored with it every day and misses the excitement of dating. He feels that, while he loves me and doesn’t want to hurt me, he would eventually end up cheating on me. You can imagine my shock and heartbreak—being told by your fiance that he’s not sure he wants to marry you because he knows you too well and doesn’t feel he is mature enough—is not something I would want anyone to go through.
I immediately made an appointment for counseling.
I would love to tell you that counseling solved everything and we are back on track, but Mr. Fondue, while willing to go (because he knew it was important to me), was resistant for it to help. So, we have called off the wedding. Writing that was really hard. I don’t know if it would have helped for him to have told me he was feeling like this sooner (he’d apparently been feeling that way for some time but hid it from me), but I suspect that he would have been more open to counseling, as he had quite made up his mind by the time he finally said anything to me.
I just wanted to remind you all how important open communication is and how important it is to prepare for the marriage itself, without getting too caught up in the wedding plans. I have a few projects that I haven’t posted about yet that I may in the future, as my main desire to blog for Weddingbee was to hopefully inspire some of you as the site always had done for me. I wish I could have shown you all the final results of all my planning, but a healthy marriage is far more important than the wedding day, and I’m afraid that’s something we can’t have at this point in our lives. I wish you all the best of luck!
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Ms. Fondue, thank you for your openness with the hive. You seem to be a very strong young woman, and I wish you the best of luck in your personal life. Remember, we are all here for you!
Miss Fondue, I think it’s extremely brave of you to post this. I don’t know that I would be able to share something like this and I am sure I am not alone in saying that I wish you the very best of luck as well.
Miss Fondue, I can only imagine how hard it was to write this post. Thanks for reminding us how easy it can be to get caught up in the wrong things and to remember that the MARRIAGE is what’s important. We love you!
Thank you for sharing this with us. I’m sorry you’re going through this. Best of luck.
I am so sorry to hear about this….and I totally can relate. My finace just told me as we were looking for a venue that he is not going to marry me unless a few things change.
We breifly discussed this and are trying to work through it….but it is hard.
Best of luck to you….You deserve to be happy as well 
I’m so sorry to hear that, Miss Fondue. You are in my thoughts!
As cliche as it sounds, just keep telling yourself that everything works out the way it should. Thanks for being open with all of us, and here’s hoping that there are many, many, many smiles in your future.
We missed you Fondue, I hope you keep blogging. I don’t want to say I am sorry because I truly believe that this may be for the best. You are right Marriage, relationship is first the wedding would not have the importance it should otherwise. I send you love and will keep you in my prayers..best of luck!
Miss Fondue, I am so sorry to hear this. It is definitely something that I know I have lost sight of at times worrying about the details of the wedding and not the marriage. Often it seems that people who are in the same position as you go ahead because they feel there is so much invested already and it would be too much to call of the wedding or that it will get better once they are married and more times than not, its doesn’t. You are doing the right thing and I hope nothing but the best for you.
Miss Fondue, I wish you all the best because you deserve nothing less. I’m sure you will come out of this situation stronger than ever.
Aww…. Miss Fondue, I can’t imagine what you’ve been going through. However, it is probably best that you held off if that is how he was feeling. you seem like a wonderful girl, and you deserve someone who is going to be faithful to you and enjoy your relationship every day. Good Luck!
Miss Fondue, thank you for sharing such a personal story with the hive. We’re here to support you and wish you nothing but the best.
Sending so much postive energy your way! Thank you for sharing with everyone!
Fondue, I can’t imagine how difficult it was for you to write this. But it was done with such amazing clarity, eloquence and strength…and I admire you for it. Thank you for sharing this (and all your great ideas).
Oh Fondue, I’m so sorry. My heart goes out to you, DE is right, you truly deserve the best. <3
I know we’re all strangers, but I just want to say: aww, honey, here’s a hug. You have an *incredible* perspective, and the truth & wisdom in what you say is astounding. Best wishes!
I am so, so, so sorry to hear that. I wish you the best of luck in the weeks and months ahead.
miss fondue. i can’t begin to imagine how hard it was for you to write this post but i’d like to thank you for being so willing to be so open with us. i wish you nothing but the best.
I am so sorry, Miss Fondue. You are a strong, wonderful person and I wish you all of the best. Please remember that we are here for you!
**HUGS** and <3.
Your strength in writing this is can’t be underestimated — thank you for sharing and sending you love through this rough patch of road.
You are so strong! Thank you for sharing this with us. I wish you the best.
Miss Fondue,
My heart goes out to you; I know that was not an easy thing to hear, or to endure. Having been there myself (I’ve actually had 2 cancelled weddings - one that the groom cancelled, and several years later, one that I cancelled), I can say from experience that, if it’s meant to be, it will be — and if it’s not, it’s for the best that you find out now.
At the time I know it seems so difficult, but I can promise you that passes, and you will grow from this. I guarantee it.
You’ve always seemed a very strong-willed person, and I have no doubt you’ll pull through this just fine (even on days when you feel like you won’t).
Kudos to you also for the courage to write about your experience for the benefit of the other Bees. Thank you, and best of luck to you.
Chin up, girl!!
Hugs from Florida!!
God Bless, not only was that beautifully written but you certainly have the right attitude about it. I wish you all the best!
Miss Fondue, thank you for being brave enough to write this! Your title says it all, and I know you’ll be ok because you are wise enough to know what was important. Hang in there, I hope you stay active with us. {{{We love you!!}}}
BIG HUGS being sent your way.
You are obviously a very strong, smart, beautiful lady, and I know you will get the best one day. It’s so much harder to pull out of the wedding than to have stuck with it even though things were not going right. Kudos to you. You will always have the hive.
Miss Fondue, my heart goes out to you in such a tough time. I can’t imagine how painful this must have been, but what an important decision to make BEFORE marriage. I wish you the best in all you do, and eventually a marriage full of hapiness and love.
Hang in there, Miss Fondue…. thank you for being so honest and open with us, and always know that we’re all hoping for a happy, happy future for you.
Lots of love, Cupcake
Miss Fondue,
I would just like you to know that I went through something similar, but it was an ex-boyfriend who was considering proposing. We were at our happiest point in our relationship and they he suddenly began to distance himself. It was slow but noticeable. I figured he was stressed about work, or family. Then he too said , “I love you, but I dont know if I am in love with you anymore. If I stay with you and we get married I can’t promise that I would remain faithful”. By that time he too had come to the conclusion that the relationshiop was at an end, and there was no openness to work it out.
I was lucky, for as much as I loved him I had also stopped being IN LOVE and once I realized that it was easier. It has been almost 4 years and I still love him very much and wish him the best. However in that 4 years I have also met my future FH who is the sweetest man and loves me dearly. I am very happy, and I have learned a few lessons. Communication as you stated above is one of them.
Good luck to you! I know how hard it must be for you right now. I wouldn’t wish that on anyone, but I’m sure things will work out in the end for you. You will be happy again.
Miss Fondue, I am so impressed with your honesty. You certainly deserve to end up with someone who doesn’t think they will cheat on you and isn’t bored. I am sure it was very hard for Mr. Fondue to be so honest, but also very admirable to do so. I wish you the very best!
You seem to be going through this with so much strength and grace. I hope that this ultimately leads you to so much more happiness in your life.
Thank you for your genuine openess and wise words, Miss Fondue. Please know that in reading the words you have written, one can tell that you are an amazing and strong woman. Wishing you all the best because you deserve nothing less
I hope you and your family are able to find grace and peace in this. Thank you for your honesty.
You are a very strong person to take the time to write this. I cannot imagine how hard writing about this must have been. Thank you for your honesty and best of luck to you!
oh miss fondue. wishing you the very best, because that must have been/is a really awful time period of you. i’m so sorry to hear this.
but oh miss fonude, you have some real class. good luck in everything.
I wish you nothing but the best miss fondue! My thoughts are with you, I can only imagine how painful this must be!
I agree with what others have said, we may be strangers, but it is obvious you deserve someone who worships you!
love love love!
Your elegance, strength and grace as a woman shines in your writing. My heart aches for you. Hang in there! The pain will go away, eventually. And you will find someone who loves you for exactly who you are!
I’m so sorry to hear that, Miss Fondue! Your blog posts have always been one of my favs, so it tears my heart to hear what you are going through. As everyone else has been saying, hang in there! I wish you the best whatever may happen with you and your relationship with Mr. Fondue. Thank you for your willingness to share such a tough experience. xoxo.
Thank you so much for sharing that, I can only imagine how difficult things have been for you — but it is also a wonderful reminder to all of us that, as your title states, you can’t have a wedding without a marriage. Thank you, and thinking of you.
Thank you for sharing. I wish you strength and peace in this difficult endeavor. You are already strong, but this time of growth will provide opportunities for you to continue to expand your horizons.
Hang in there chica!
Miss Fondue, thank you so much for your openness and strength. You are a remarkable woman. You will continue to be in my thoughts. Wishing you the best.
Sarah
Awww, Miss Fondue! ((big hugs))
Stay strong, you will make it through Ms. Fondue! I had some very hard times in my relationship right before and after my wedding. Whatever happens, at least this is not coming up right *after* your wedding. Best of luck!
You are incredibly strong and amazing for sharing this. More hugs!!
we love you miss fondue and we’ll always be here for you! * big fat bee hugs! *
Hey Ms. Fondue,
I was there once so I think I understand how you feel . @@@hugs@@@
Perhaps god wanted you to appreciate your future husband even more by giving you this challenge at this time in your life…
Life happens when we have made other plans!
May you path will be easier once you clear your head…
Best regards,
sbn
It takes amazing courage to realize this and admit it to yourself first and then to us! I admire your grace and maturity. Best of luck in the days ahead… I’m sure it’s not easy. My wish for you is that you find a love that will last.
Thank you for sharing what must be a hard time with us. Good luck to you and whatever life brings you.
I am so sorry, and I’m very impressed at your bravery and at how you handled things. Please, take extra good care of yourself while you’re healing your heart.
A little over one year ago, I was in a similar situation. I was two months from my wedding day (and literally 2 days away from mailing invites) when my fiance called off our wedding. I understand the pain you are going through, and the best advice I can give is to just take time for yourself. I can’t count the number of people who said to me “at least you found out now!” and I know that wasn’t the least bit helpful to me, so I hope people in your life are being gentler. Just know that many people, in real life, and in the cyberworld, are thinking about you and our hearts hurt for you.
i’m so sorry
Fondue, you are in my thoughts right now and in the upcoming weeks. Big hugs!
Thank you for being so open and honest with us. I’m very sorry about this and wish you all the best.
My heart nearly stopped when reading this. It may come as no consolation, but I went through nearly this exact scenario not long before I met my soon to be husband. It was an awful experience and he too, like Would-Have-Been Mr. Fondue, had largely made up his mind before speaking with me about it…I can’t express the pain of hearing your future husband is convinced he will end up cheating and having to call of a wedding, but I know it…I’ve been there and I’m just full of grief for you tonight, but so happy for you that you too found out sooner rather than later. All of my best wishes for you…you never know when things might change. I know for me it was when I least expected them to and ultimately I have ended up happier than I ever was before. Sometimes the world works in such mysterious ways.
xoxo
Miss Fondue,
I’m so sorry to hear this! I’m thinking of you and sending big hugs your way.
I’m sorry to hear this, but I do appreciate your honesty and bravery in posting this year. We’ll all be thinking good thoughts for you and wishing you the best!
Miss Fondue, I truly wish you the very very best, and hope that everything will turn out okay for you. You’re so kind to write about this, because WB isn’t just about weddings, right? Very big hugs from me, we all love you here. I really admire your strength.
Thanks for writing this as I am going through something similar. We are trying to work through our problems through counseling but I feel stronger to know that you (and others) have gone through it intact too. Best wishes!!
As the others have said, I know it was difficult for you to say that, but I really appreciate your honesty. I went through something similar with my ex and I know how hard it must be.
If it helps; I am really grateful for your blogging - my fiance and I are big geeks and we have been so inspired by your details. You are a fantastic, creative writer and I hope that you continue to write! If you start another blog, please let us know where we can find you.
You have so much grace, class and courage to post this. I wish you all the best that life has to offer! Best wishes- without even knowing you, I feel that with a head like yours, you are going to be just fine. Thank you for being so honest and open!
OMG - You are one of my favorite bees and was wondering why you have not posted for a while. I was already stealing a lot of your ideas for my wedding and was looking forward to see what you were going to do next.
I am sooo sorry to hear about this. You have a lot of fans and support.
Hope that helps.
love, the best of luck to you. Concentrate on yourself, your life, and if Mr. Fondue is the one for you, it will happen.
We love you forever, Fondue! Please don’t be a stranger!
Miss Fondue, my heart absolutely goes out to you. To be able to post about this shows how strong you are. You have handled yourself with grace and courage. I wish you all the best.
I am so sorry, honey. I can’t imagine what you’re going through, but obviously all of our thoughts are with you. Hang in there. And good luck!
While I am so sorry that you are having to go through this, I also think that you’re very fortunate that Mr. Fondue was honest about his feelings. And eventually you will be fortunate enough to meet and fall in love with someone who is mature enough to know that the adventure of loving someone for the rest of your life is far from boring - it is one of the most rewarding things you can do.
It was so sweet of you to check in with us. I’m so sorry to hear of all this and you always know where you can find me. It was really brave of you to post this… your maturity amazes me.
Thanks for sharing! It reminds all of us to focus on what is most important. I will keep you in my thoughts. This will be a moment in your life that you will look back on in wonderment as you realize this was an opportunity to open the floodgates to the multitude of blessings, and the countless joys that have yet come to a well deserved gal.
Be at peace you had the strength to know what is best for you.
Hugs and well wishes!
Thank you for your refreshing honesty. We’re all wishing you the best! *hugs*
Miss Fondue you are amazing Hang in there. And this hive LOVES YOU
*hugs*
thanks for being so inspiring and honest <3
Miss. Fondue, my heart goes out to you because I am in a very similar situation at the moment - only difference being that my fiance won’t see a relationship therapist and wants us to work things out on our own.
Best of luck to you, in whatever decision you make and in where ever your future takes you.
*HUGS*
I’m so sorry to hear everything that has happened, but thank-you for sharing. You are truly an amazing woman and have so much strength. We love you!
I can’t even imagine how you are feeling or how you had the courage to write this post. I admire your maturity and honesty. We’re all thinking of you!!
Writing this post must have been very difficult for you and while you could have used it as an opportunity to bash the Mr., you didn’t. Even though I don’t personally know you, I’m proud of you. Keep your chin up and don’t let this moment in your life define you. You are better than that and you deserve far greater! Much love to you.
I’m so sorry, Fondue! I really am. As cliche as it is, this has to be only for the better. Hang in there.
I am so sorry to hear about what you have been going through. I admire your courage to write this post, and wish you the best!
Soooo sorry! but you know what? a man that deserves you will never be bored, everyday together will be a gift. You have more class than I could ever have.
((((HUGS))))
I’m so sorry! I’m sure this was incredibly painful to write, but I’m so glad you did. Best wishes!!
Ohh Miss Fondue I am sorry that had to happen to you. Just remember that that you are a strong and amazing person and deserve only the best out of life!
Ohh Miss Fondue I am sorry that this had to happen to you. Just remember that that you are a strong and amazing person and deserve only the best out of life!
Miss Fondue, you wrote that so beautifully. Thank you for reminding us that the wedding IS only one day, and the marriage is a lifetime. I’m glad that the Mr was up front before the wedding. Please don’t forget that we here at Weddingbee are giving you hugs and are here to support you in any way we can, from all over the world. I hope we continue to see your posts…
I’m so sorry, Miss Fondue. I know it hurts. Thank you so much for your example of strength and honesty. We are all thinking of you!
I am so sorry…Thank you for sharing Miss Fondue- we’ll miss you…
Miss Fondue - thank you for your openness and best of luck to you and Mr. Fondue!
I am so sad for you. You are in my prayers and I hope that you find joy and peace in whatever life brings you.
You are very courageous to share your story. After reading your blog, I immediately e-mailed FI that I haven’t forgotten about us while planning, and he told me that he appreciated all the work that I’ve put into planning and he’s fully on board. FI & I also went through a similar situation before we got engaged. I was really hurt when he expressed his confusion and doubt about our relationship, but we worked through it. I wish you all the best and take care of yourself.
My heart breaks for you, Miss Fondue. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Thank you for your honesty and strength. You are truly a woman of worth.
Oh, I’m so sorry you’re going through this ordeal. Thank you for writing about it and sharing what you’ve gone through for other who will have the same conversation– now at least they’ll know they’re not the only ones. ::hugs::
Hang in there , Miss Fondue - it might be a rough patch but you’ll emerge stronger than ever from it. Many hugs and positive vibes sent your way!
I certainly don’t have the words to make you feel better, but your post was so genuine and classy & I have so much respect for you. You deserve a wonderful man to love you for forever, and you will find him. And hopefully you will take the happy times and the good memories with you as you move forward.
Hugs, Miss Fondue! The fact that you chose to share this with the Weddingbee community speaks volumes about your character and strength.
Best wishes.
I may be a stranger, but I have SOOOOO much respect for you right now. You could have chosen to fall off the face of the earth, but actually chose to sit down and type that out to let us know….major props to you girl! I really wish you the best and you’ve still been a great inspiration. If you don’t mind, when you do leave for good, if you would leave us with your personal blog I’m sure we would still love to follow all the creative things I’m sure you still have stored that isn’t wedding related.
What a heartwrenching story! I truly admire your strength and grace in such a difficult situation. Time will help you heal and you will get through this!
Wow, so sad to read, but I admire your bravery, thank you for sharing. Best wishes for you.
Miss Fondue, I can’t even imagine how hard it was for you to put this in writing. All the best - you deserve it all.
I’m so sorry Miss Fondue. Sending positive thoughts your way. ((HUGS))
I’m sure it took a lot for you to post this. So sorry to hear it.
Best wishes.
*Hugs* I am totally impressed with your grace. Thanks for being so publicly honest. You are one tough bee! Best wishes.
Miss Fondue, I can’t imagine how hard it must have been to write that post. I am so sorry for everything you’re going through, and thank you for being brave enough to share it with us. I wish you all of the happiness in life that you so clearly deserve.
Miss Fondue –
Thank you for sharing with us readers…
Best of wishes…we are all thinking of you!
This post took great courage to write. Best of luck to you — and congratulations for coming to the important realization that marriage is the core of a wedding.
You are so brave to write this. While I feel terrible about your situation, I can’t help but think that this is the best place for you to share your story. It’s very easy to get caught up in the day and to forget about the relationship behind it. I hope your heart heals quickly and that you find your true love very soon.
Miss Fondue,
I’m so sorry. I wish you the best and thank you for bringing your beauty and creativity to the Weddingbee community. xo
**HUGS** Thinking of only the best thoughts for you!!!
Fondue, as everyone has said, you have an amazing and beautiful strength. I cannot imagine how difficult of a time you are going through, but I admire you both for being able to be so honest and loving one another enough to do so. You are a beautiful woman and I just know that your time will come soon enough. We love you. (((HUG)))
good luck. You deserve someone better! ANd that right someone will be feeling so lucky to have every day with you..whether it’s boring or exciting!
Oh Miss Fondue, I’m so sorry to hear this. Lots and lots of hugs sent to you–and thank you for having the courage to remind us about the really important things.
you are a very brave woman for posting this and sharing with us. =( My deepest apologies - but please remember that whatever doesn’t kill us only makes us stronger.
You have always been a source of crafting inspiration, but today you’ve shown the WB community that we should all strive to be as graceful as you in our relationships. Thanks for posting.
i just wanted to say that there is no doubt in my mind that your honesty & grace in this post will personally help and affect many women who read this site.
as much as inspiration boards and new save-the-date ideas help, we need posts like this just as much, maybe more.
thank you.
Oh, Ms. Fondue, my heart goes out to you. You are a strong woman just writing this post to say goodbye to your readers, we appreciate that and wish you the best of luck on your journey, wherever you end up. I wish you health and happiness.
My thoughts are with you. I hope that you can both find your happiness where ever and whomever that is with. Please take care of yourself.
Miss Fondue, May God bless you! We’ll be keeping you in our prayers!
I am so sorry that you are going through this. I went through the exact same situation with my ex-fiance, and ending that relationship turned out to be the best thing that could have ever happened to me. Right now I know that it hurts like hell, but it would have been so much worse to stay married to someone who doesn’t love you.
Your eloquence, strength, and honesty . . . wow. I’m speechless. You have my support and wishes for happiness.
I know I’m the 125th person to say this, but your candor and grace is truly inspirational. The WB community loves you!
sorry to read that. I wish you all happiness in the future.
Your honesty and strength shines through in this post. Which tells me that you’re an amazing woman who deserves nothing but the best. Thank you for your courage! God bless! And more big fat bee hugs!!!
I’m so sorry. do you have a blog? You’re one of my favorite bees!
*hugs*
I admire your eloquence and honesty so much. I wish you the best of luck and lots of happiness soon!
Oh, man, I’m so sorry! You might have got the comment I left on your other blog a few days ago when I got worried that we hadn’t heard from you in a while. It’s hard, but you’re doing the right thing. It’s supposed to feel comfortable, not stagnant. While I wish we were going to see your awesome plans come to life, the marriage is more important, and I wish you only the best and lots of love and joy in the future.
I’m really sorry to hear about this - sending you lots of strength and hugs!
we all love you and admire you so much. this wound is still so fresh and it’s so brave for you to post this so honestly with us all. you’re a classy, adorable & hilarious gal and deserve someone who wants you all to themselves every second of the day. good luck & don’t be a stranger <3
Oh, honey. You’re so strong for being able to make this decision. Good for you. One day, you’ll look back on this time and think about how much you grew, and how happy you are about where these lessons took you. I know it’s hard to think about that now, but I promise it will happen.
I’m sorry for what you are going through, and I really hope everything works out in the end–whether that means getting married or not.
I can’t say it better than everyone else so I will just say it all again. We love you. You are strong and brave. Bee hugs.
No wise words here — but a huge, huge virtual hug for you Miss Fondue. My thoughts are with you!
My heart goes out to you Miss Fondue and you are handling this so maturely. Keep strong.
Miss Fondue, with your strength and honesty, you have been an inspiration to all of us. You are amazing. ::hugs::
Be strong. Keep the faith. God’s with you. Hugs.
Oh Miss Fondue! Thank you for your honesty and reminder of what’s really important. Stay strong, lady.
Like everyone else, sending you my love. You will get through this no matter what.
As someone who has been through this before (although I was the one who called off the wedding, 3 days before) I know how tough it can be to share something like this with other people. Please hang in there and try to remember that you have to do what is right for YOU. It’s brave and mature to admit when a relationship needs work before it can move forward. Be strong.
I am teary just reading your post. Sometimes the hardest decisions are the best ones we will ever make. As you can see, you are in many people’s thoughts during this tough time.
Thank you all for you wonderful comments. I love how supportive this community is, and you guys have helped me more than I can express!
Big hugs. I echo everyone who has admired your grace, your honesty, and your amazingness.
You have certainly served as inspiration for me. I admire your strength. Thank you for sharing so much of yourself with all of us.
Fondue, thank you SO much for posting this. It took courage, BUT it was wonderful that you did because it DOES remind us that the wedding day does NOT make a marriage - the two people involved do…best of luck to you!
I’m so sorry to hear this. You are an incredibly strong woman. I wish you all the best in the future.
Miss Fondue.. I have so much admiration and respect for you. I don’t have much else to say but than you for your courage and honesty. Wishing you the best and God Bless. God’s always on your side and the only One you can rely on.
I had a similiar experience and was told almost the same thing after we had been together for 5 years. Things ended but eventually he figured out his issues and I was asked to give him a second chance. I was not sure I was making the right choice but I took a leap of faith and did. We are married now and it was so much better the second time around. All I can say is (in this order) grieve the loss, be patient, and follow your heart whether it leads to him or another path.
Fondue, you are a gorgeous strong woman. I admire the grace and strength you have shown in this trying time for you. You deserve the absolute best. You are in my thoughts!
You are such a strong woman. Thank you for sharing this with us.
I am so sorry, Miss Fondue. Hang in there and please know that your online (and I’m sure real life) fans are all there with you. Ultimately, I am sure that you will look at this as a blessing in disguise. Thank you for sharing your journey with us.
I’ve always enjoyed your writing and cool things that you post. Can I have the link to your personal blog?
You are amazing, and you’ve got an incredible attitude! You’re in our thoughts. Wishing you all the best!
Oh geez Miss Fondue, I’m sorry. Good luck. I’ve seen this recommended on theknot a lot for girls who end their engagements, and I don’t know if someone already posted it, but have you looked at theregoesthebride.com?
Fondue, You have been such an inspiration for me with my wedding planning. Best of luck. I know the best is yet to come for you!
You’re stronger than I could hope to be in your situation. Your intent to continue posting is amazing, and I’m sure we will all continue to be inspired by you. I’m sorry you’re going through this. You’re in our thoughts.
My heart goes out to you and I wish you the best in this situation, whatever that might be. I hope that at this time you are surrounded by loving friends and family that support you in this difficult time. Be strong.
Miss Fondue, you are amazing! Writing this must have been so difficult, and yet you still did it with so much strength and grace. You will get through this, you will find someone who appreciates how incredible you are. You deserve it. Never forget that, never second guess yourself or underestimate yourself. You are AMAZING!
Along with everyone else my heart goes out to you. You are a beautiful and couragesous person for sharing your most personal experiences. As much pain as you feel now I beleive everything happens for a reason and there is someone out there more perfect for you then you can imagine. you deserve the best. Thanks for sharing with us. Lots of hugs!!! You are still that truely amazing person you were when you started blogging. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Miss Fondue… I am so sorry to hear about this. As everyone else has said, thank you so much for your honesty and courage about this situation. And thank you for reminding us to refocus on what’s important. All the best wishes my thoughts are definitely with you <3
Miss Fondue - ((BIG HUG)) We love you! Thank you so much for all you’ve taught and shared with us through WB and we would love to see the projects you’ve yet to show, when you are ready. Your strength is truly an inspiration. I know this time cannot be easy, but as you can see we are all here for you. You are an amazing and beautiful person!
Love,
Allison
This was an amazing post. It was so well written and must have taken amazing amounts of courage to write. Taken with all of the comments of love and support, it really shows me what Weddingbee is all about.
I’m so, so very sorry to hear this Miss Fondue. My heart goes out to you - many virtual hugs are coming your way from Pom-central. You deserve someone who knows with every cell of their being that you are amazing and nothing would ever replace you!
you are such a strong and gracious person…wishing you the best during this difficult time.
miss fondue, like so many others, i have been in a similar situation. and i am now engaged to a wonderful man who is more than i could have ever dreamed was possible. i knew it at the time but i know now more than ever that it was the best decision he (my ex fiance) could have ever made for himself/us/me. knowing that it wouldn’t work for him and getting both of us out of that situation caused heartache at the time but ultimately i am sure it saved us both a lifetime of regret and pain.
you will get through this. and you will find a love that is true and deserving of you. you are amazing and strong and beautiful, don’t ever forget it! lots of love!!
Miss Fondue, I am so sorry to read this. I admire your currage, posting this can’t have been easy. I wish you all the best, and hope that everything will work out for you in the end.
I cannot imagine how hard it is to write this. I hope that love finds its way with you, and that everything works out the way that it should.
I am so sorry to hear this. You are one of my favorite bees, and have truly inspired me. I wish you the best! You have amazing strength and courage, and I know that everything will work out for you someday.
….. fondue my heart almost stopped! i am so sorry… you are such an honest and brave person for writing this. sigh. we love you and are here for you. I wish i can hug you now…
I know exactly what are you going through, It also happened to me 6 years ago. It was so hard on me that I made a decision of never think about marriage anymore. I thought I was getting too old for the marriage thing and trusting someone again I thought it was impossible. But I learned that all the experiences we go through in life will make you more human, more strong and overall will prepare you for better things. You are very young and the right person will be there for you when the right time come. I am 42 now and when I least expected and was not even looking, I was bless with a wonderful man and I hope we will get married in Nov 2009. Hope, always hope……
i’m sorry things are rough right now but someone as talented and sweet as you deserves better and shouldn’t settle for less anyway. you’re young, gorgeous, and has a fab life ahead of you. chin up baby, dark clouds will pass. xo.
My heart goes out to you. You are so eloquent in a time that must be so extremely hard. Best wishes!
I so wish I were there with you right now to give you a big hug. Ditto on everyone’s comments: it was a tremendously eloquent and brave post. Love from all of us… *hugs*
You are in my thoughts Miss Fondue, all of the bees are here for you. Hugs.
My heart goes out to you Ms. Fondue. As all have said, thank you for the honesty and trust that you have placed in us. *hugs*
Thank you so much for having the courage to share this story. I think sometimes we assume (and we all know what happens when you do that) that once you reach the engagement stage, that there’s no turning back. I applaud both your courage and the courage of your partner, to talk about it and deal with it.
You are so strong and so brave, Miss Fondue — hang in there and thanks for being willing to share. *hugs*
I applaud your courage for the post for facing this situation. You’ll be in our thoughts and prayers. Take care of yourself and I’ll be crossing my fingers and hoping to hear from you soon. {hugs}
This was such a beautiful post and my heart goes out to you– that could not have been easy to share, let alone in such an eloquent way. Know that we are all here for you whenever you need us and I know amazing things lie ahead for you!
I’m so sorry to hear about this. If it helps, you are not the only one who’s gone through this… I originally found this site in 2006 when I was engaged, and my fiance and I were engaged for a year before he did the exact same thing to me.
I wrote a blog post about coping with a broken engagement that has apparently been really helpful to many people in the same shoes… you might want to check it out if you feel you need to talk to some others who’ve been down the same path.
http://sparklytospouse.blogspot.com/2008/01/coping-with-broken-engagement.html
Wow, I’m soo sorry to hear that, and it is sooo ironic, because a good friend of mine just this past weekend had the same thing happen to her. They were supposed to get married next month, and he called it off, and basically said although he loved her, he just didn’t see himself married to her, etc. It’s very upsetting to hear even from the outside looking in, I can’t imagine how it feels being in the situation! I wish you the best of luck, and you deserve someone that wants to be with you!
I am so sorry. This cannot be easy. I realize this is late in coming, but I only found out through the comments on Miss Snapdragon’s similar post. I wish you the best of luck.
Sorry for the late comment, but when you blogged about this, I was MIA. I am sorry to hear this, and wish you the best. I know its quite hard and its a breakup in its own way, but better now than later. Its great that he was honest with you and you took action before things got too involved.
Big hugs to you xoxoxoxoxo
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Miss Fondue, Nashville
Age and Occupation: 27, Technical Analyst
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 25, Network Admin Student/Senior Game Advisor
Engagement Date: December 25, 2007
Wedding Date: May 2009
Blogging Since: September 14, 2008
Venue: Ravenwood Golf Club
About Me: I’m your average computer geek marrying a gaming geek and trying to find a good balance of elegance and geek chic in our wedding. I adore The Sims, Nintendo, cosplay, (good) music, TiVo, theme parks, and our two crazy felines.
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