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I have a major procrastination problem. Our wedding is in about a month and a half and I JUST decided on bridesmaid dresses! I still haven’t set the dinner menu for our reception! Our wedding invitations haven’t been sent yet! I just started thinking about cake flavors! Eek! As you can see, I have A LOT to do in the next six weeks!
You may be asking yourself, “what exactly has Miss Kitten done for her wedding?” Well, I’ve done the big stuff (hotels, photographer, videographer, venue, etc.). But there are three main reasons why I have yet to deal with all the little details.
Destination Weddings are Difficult to Plan in Advance
The nature of destination weddings makes it very difficult to plan things far in advance. Most of the vendors that I have dealt with (aside from Celebrations, my decor company) are resistant to nail down specifics more than a couple of months in advance. It is also difficult to plan these things far in advance when you can’t go to the place or see/taste things for yourself. In fact, Mr. K and I will be making many final decisions about our food and decor when we arrive in Grand Cayman, just days before our wedding!
Long Engagements Encourage Procrastination
Having a long engagement has caused me to procrastinate a lot as well. I am just used to the idea that “we can figure that out later” because I am used to having months and months before the wedding day actually arrives. It is almost surreal that it is just around the corner, and I need to get into crazy planning mode ASAP! I have a hunch that brides with more traditional engagements (around 1 year) may procrastinate less because they are in a time crunch from the get-go.
I’m Scared of Changing My Mind!
Yet another reason I procrastinate. I am terrified that I will change my mind about what I want, so I delay making decisions until the last possible moment! One of my best friends was also an indecisive bride, and I remember her lamenting some of the decisions she made early on in the planning process–including her wedding dress! Because I’ve been engaged for so long, I’ve changed my mind about just about EVERYTHING at least three times. I am afraid that I will choose/buy something and change my mind about it later.
In the end, you have to plan your wedding at whatever pace is right for you. I tend to work better and be more decisive when I am under pressure (especially time pressure). Some people like to inch along and make decisions over time. But don’t make my mistake and put off pretty much everything until the last minute. I have a feeling that me, Mr. K, and my very helpful friends will be hard at work until the night before the wedding trying to chip away at my mega to-do list!
Are you a procrastinator or are you doing your wedding planning well in advance?
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Oh, I hear you on the long engagements issue. We nailed down our big things, and then took a wedding-planning hiatus — and Mr. MagPie was the one who decided it was time to get cracking again!
I think I have a Masters in Procrastination too!! MAN, that is a LONG list!!! I hope you’ve enlisted some of your BMs for help! Good luck!
I can relate to the long engagement issue. We’ve been delaying many things and now it’s time to get working!
i’m a procrastinator, while friends and family keep reminding me that i have to do this and that. luckily we still have 7 months 
goodluck w/ your list!
I know what you mean! We are having a 1.5 year engagement, and for a long time we kept saying, “Oh, it’s still early, we will worry about all those items later.” It’s freaking me out a little that “later” is now!
You should send invitations ASAP as people will have to book flights and hotels as well as ask for time off.
It will also help you with the rest of the planning to see how many/how much you’ll have to do.
Good luck!
All I have left is little details too, but we have until September and I planned on taking a hiatus January-May…Tax Season, YIKES!
I can relate to the long engagement creating a habit of procrastination. I’m so used to my “wedding planning” being bookmarking fun ideas I see online, and not actually DOING anything. We have a 19.5 month engagement. We’re 4 months away now, and I need to get this show on the road! We’re finally getting our engagement pics done this weekend.
Ah…. I completely understand what you are saying! and i LOVE the Cartoon! You seem to have taken care of the “biggies” and like you said– everything will fall into place.
Just to check though–i see a comment about invites….you did send them out already– right?? =)
No! The invites haven’t been sent! You are supposed to have them out six weeks in advance, and that is tomorrow! I am getting them today and sending them out this weekend, so those may actually be out on time! I did send save the dates 6 months before our wedding date, so pretty much everyone that is going has their flight and accommodations already set. I still have lots to do though! Eek!
I’m a procrastinator as a result of indecisiveness. I have a fantastic aunt who keeps forcing me to sit down make decisions, and stop looking so I don’t change my mind again!
I’m a short-ish engagment bride (8 months) so I’ve been go-go-go since the engagement. No wedding planning hiatus for me!
I totally hear you on the procrastination as I, too, had a long engagement. But girl, you gotta get crackin! Send those invites ASAP and then finalize the menu, the cake flavors and your hair/makeup trial. You have a long list, so you have to prioritize. If you’re pressed for time, I’d skip the welcome bags, find a ready-to-go guestbook and maybe even skip the programs, or just try to have simple programs. Can you delegate any responsibilities to your BMs or any nearby family/friends?
funny bc i am the opposite. i saw something i liked “enough”, i booked it/bought it. I have only changed my mind on one thing so far (table number frames).
but i can only imagine how hard it is to do it from far away!
I hear ya about the details. I got all the big decisions made, contracts signed, vendors booked months ago, and all the while I was compiling information, inspiration and notes about the details. Then I suddenly woke up one morning and thought “Aaaaaaah. What happened to my plan to do the details at a leisurely pace throughout the engagement???” Now I’m on a major DIY kick and have re-focused myself with the time I have left!
I know what you mean about changing your mind too, although my view is that when I change my mind it’s because I’m used to the decision I made, and, being indecisive, I’m prone to re-visit the decisions just by the fact that time has passed. Rarely does it mean I am actually dissatisfied with my original choices, I have usually just lost touch with them, causing me to doubt them!
I want to do everything RIGHT NOW. I just don’t want to wait til the last minute and find out I’m missing something (like Bridesmaid dresses!). I’m usually a huge procrastinator but I just can’t relax about the wedding!!
I’m a procrastinator too. It’s something that has always stuck with me since high school. I have a feeling I’ll procrastinate a lot with the wedding. I haven’t even picked a date yet. I have picked out a year and season if that counts. Even though it sounds like you have a lot left to do, it’s not too bad considering that some major decisions have to be made when you get to Grand Cayman. If you need any help, weddingbee is always there for you.
I’m a big time procrastinator too. And I have no excuses for it. But after seeing more than a few friends amazingly plan a wedding within 2 months, I’m not too worried considering I have over 6 months left.
I feel like I’m planning in advance… but I too only have the major vendors… ahhh so many little details to take care of!!! Our engagement was short so I feel like no matter what it’s going to feel like I procrastinated hahah
I cannot agree with you more, long engagements do encourage procrastination!!! But it makes the decisions you make better since you won’t have time to second guess them since there is not a lot of time in between now and your wedding day!
I’m a total Procrastinator..that’s right, with a capital P. I am so indecisive that it takes the pressure of time to finally get me to make some decisions. And then I change my mind…and procrastinate on actually making the change. It’s a vicious cycle. Go Kitty, you can do it!!!
I’m in the procrastination club. I love all your reasons for procrastinating for your wedding.
I also have a hard time making up my mind. My fiance refuses to get excited about anything b/c he says it will probably change : ). I am so bad that the wedding location has changed 3 different states and countless different colors, themes, etc.
I think the toughest thing is trying to reconcile these three things:
Getting something that I fell in love with years ago and always wanted;
Getting something I want right now; and,
Getting something that I might be happy with 10 years from now when I look back at the photos and video. See my problem . . .
I finally had to pick certain things and just go with them. The funny thing is that I am happy with my choices so far, but not really in love with anything. Crazy, I know, but I am forcing myself to just get over it and keep moving . . .
Except for “pick out menu” and “make seating cards” (we’re not assigning tables), all of those things are on my to-do list as well. And my wedding is April 25.
Fingers crossed invites will be in the mail tomorrow, and I will get to feel the satisfaction of crossing something off my list.
Hang in there!
I am a procrastinator marrying another procrastinator (we’ve been together 6 years and are now just getting married…..) and I come from a family of procrastinators on both sides! It’s amazing I have anything done! Well, I’ve still got four months left…. 
Oh me too! I’m also getting married early April and I have so much to do. Would you believe we don’t even have an officiant !? I also need shoes, veil, undergarmets, and the groom’s wedding band. We haven’t yet booked our honeymoon either! Wowzers! I better stop typing and get moving. Good luck! I’m sure everything will come together fabulously!
P.S. I found my gorgeous grooms neckties at Macy’s each for under $30. They are in my wedding colors of navy and fuschia… striped. Plus it doubles as a great groomsman gifts as well. Macy’s has a wide variety of colors and always has sales going on. Check it out, that may help you check one thing off your list!
I hate leaving things to the last minute, and I don’t like the fact that I’ll have to do so many things the last week before the wedding - all at once! :S
If I could I would even make the cake now, now I know that’s a little unrealistic 
I can totally relate on the mind-changing issue… as much as I like to plan and be on top of things, I dread making wedding decisions because I’ve just seen too many things that I like, and I can’t decide which ONE thing I want. I hope your planning goes smoothly and you get everything done in time to enjoy your last few single days!
i deff know how your feeling..
i still have over a YEAR left..
and im still lost lol.
good luck with your LONG list though..
once you start on it, it will be easy to to finish! haha
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I totally know what you mean about the difficulty of planning a destination wedding on top of a long engagement. I’m running into similar problems with procrastination. Lucky for me I have a little more time on my hands. Good Luck with the time crunch!
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Mrs. Kitten, Austin/Grand Cayman
Age and Occupation: 25, Law Student
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 27, Dental Student
Engagement Date: October 19, 2006
Wedding Date: April, 2009
Venue: The Grand Old House, Grand Cayman
About Me: In 2009 I will get married (after a two and a half year engagement!), become an Army wife, graduate from law school, take the bar, move from Austin to Washington, D.C., and start my career as a lawyer! With all this going on, Mr. Kitten and I decided to have a tropical, "stress-free" destination wedding. Nevertheless, my micromanaging, detail-oriented, perfectionist side has prevailed---I am currently obsessed with every last detail of my "stress-free" destination wedding! But most of all, I'm beyond excited to become Mrs. Kitten on a fabulous Caribbean vacation surrounded by my friends and family!
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