The Tea Party: Our Sneaky Little Private Dinner

1. Prelude, 2. Tea Ceremony, 3. Getting Ready, 4. The Kids, 5. Wedding Party, 6. Down the Aisle 7. Ceremony, 8. Group Shots, 9. Couple Shots, 10. Jump Shots 11. House Shots

Cocktail hour began for the guests while we were away taking pictures:

Drinks were flowing (from their original containers, even though we had specified multiple times for all drinks to be poured):

Guests checked out details like the tree of love

looked for their escort teabags

and were suppose to be ‘awww’-ing at our baby pics on the slideshow going on, but turned out that it was still too bright for the projection to be visible! (Exhibit A: blank projector screen and people ignoring it)

Eventually the guests moved from the shaded cocktail area to get ready for dining at sunset.

Our last portrait spot left us inside the bridal loft, where we stayed for dinner.

That’s right, we dined by ourselves. We planned this for several reasons:

  • We really wanted time alone to take it all in
  • We knew we’d need a break from the madness by then
  • We vowed to pay for that boofay AND get our grub on! (None of our friends got to eat their own wedding meals.)
  • Logistically this worked out best for our placement and event timing (and timing was key because we had a full evening schedule!)

I have never heard of anyone else having dinner out of guests’ sights at their wedding, but it worked out marvelously for us. Our guests’ comfort and enjoyment had been priority in almost all our wedding decisions, and we felt we deserved this little break. The breather and the food regenerated us so we could fully enjoy the rest of the night.

Before our guests were finished with dinner, we joined the reception with our grand entrance to the chorus of We are the Champions by Queen. It couldn’t have felt more appropriate at that moment. Of the world, baby, of the world! We lip-synched the whole thing.

What can I say? We are dorks.

The story will continue with the most unforgettablesuperawesomest first dance, like how real dorks do. I’ll give you a hint: Ba! Ba! BAAA!! (That’s right, get your iPhone Zippos ready…)

All photos by BroGT & guests except for the last one, which is by Travis Hoehne.


Mrs. Green Tea

Wedding Date:
August 2008
Musical Loveliness
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  1. bruschetta Member
    bruschetta 5565 posts, Bee Keeper @ 12:44 pm

    Must have been so nice to enjoy your first dinner as husband and wife alone together!

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    LzzNYC 882 posts, Busy bee @ 12:54 pm

    I don’t know why but I got tingles reading this post – I think it was so special to have that time alone :)

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    bellenga 7536 posts, Bumble Beekeeper @ 1:28 pm

    Those are awesome pics! I think the idea of dining alone is romantically wonderful. I love the pic of you two arms up in victory to the Queen song!

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    MightySapphire 7632 posts, Bumble Beekeeper @ 1:36 pm

    Having dinner alone, great idea!! Your first meal…awwww!! {{tearing up!}} I love your grand entrance song, I think we’ll do the theme from Rocky (the one that goes “Getting stronger…” even thought that’s like the only words, and only at the end…but I think it’ll be ok…)
    BA ba BA
    BA ba BUMMMM…

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    purpleHaze79 874 posts, Busy bee @ 1:58 pm

    How awesome!! I love the idea of alone time for your first meal as husband and wife!! Heck yeah! You paid for the meal, you had better enjoy it too!! 😉

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    Jesso 277 posts, Helper bee @ 2:21 pm

    i went to a wedding once where the couple ate by themselves, and it really didnt disrupt anything as they were back before the guests finished eating. glad it worked out for you too! :-)

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    Vicki, Guest @ 2:48 pm

    How much time did you alot for the pictures and the dining along.. didn’t the guests wonder why they were eating alone?

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    driftslikesmoke 1224 posts, Bumble bee @ 3:16 pm

    Your wedding looks like it was so much fun, and I love the idea of taking time for a private meal together! I might have to work that into our wedding timeline so that we can visit with our guests while they’re dining without missing out!

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    greentea 765 posts, Busy bee @ 3:33 pm

    @Vicki: we had alone time for 15 minutes or so. most guests thought we were still taking pics or didn’t even notice we were gone (we asked around after the wedding).

    i gotta be honest that it definitely crossed our minds that this was not the most hospitable thing to do, but we looked at the big picture and decided this is the best decision. too many couples tell stories about how exhausted they were by the time reception came and how they really wish they could have eaten / enjoyed dinner without so much interuption, and we knew our guests wouldn’t want that for us.

    our wedding was small, and we spent a lot of time partying it up with guests afterwards. it worked out that way and i don’t think they felt ignored.

  10. greentea Member
    greentea 765 posts, Busy bee @ 3:35 pm

    @MightySapphire: ‘eye of the tiger’ was one of the songs we were considering using to introduce the wedding party (which we ended up skipping)! i think it would’ve been hilarious!

  11. taffy Member
    taffy 3081 posts, Sugar bee @ 3:53 pm

    That’s a pretty awesome idea! Hmm…. 😉

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    salex19 163 posts, Blushing bee @ 3:56 pm

    I love LOVE your idea to eat alone. I wish I had done this. We had a sweetheart table, in hopes of having time alone and actually being able to eat- like you wanted. Instead we felt ackward being “on display” and being close to our families who kept trying to talk to us, but not actually being at the same table with them. Also, this was the part of the wedding I was feeling very sick to my stomach, and there are all sorts of pictures that catch my pained expressions. I had to leave my POOR POOR husband alone twice during dinner to use the restroom. I would have done what you did if anyone had ever suggested it. It was not fun to have to leave him sitting alone- so I suggest anyone doing a sweetheart table think of this first.

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    NixLapi 558 posts, Busy bee @ 4:28 pm

    My BFF is jewish and their tradition is that the bride & groom get alone time in a seperate room after the ceremony… to nosh and well, be alone (it’s an old tradition so you can imagine what went on back in the day!). I think it’s a fab idea!

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    MrsSl82be 9010 posts, Buzzing Beekeeper @ 4:50 pm

    Great idea!! We won’t have a separate room, but maybe we can go to another floor and section ourselves off from everyone else for dinner. Thanks! :)

  15. frenchbulldog Member
    frenchbulldog 1088 posts, Bumble bee @ 4:52 pm

    That is a great way to insure you eat and get time together :)
    It reminds me of the appetizer break the Pinot Noir’s had – I definitely want to do that!

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    malheurrose 48 posts, Newbee @ 6:26 pm

    Dorks? Naw, you guys are AWSOME!

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    preppydoc 42 posts, Newbee @ 6:49 pm

    I love that you took some time out for yourselves to dine alone… I have never heard of that and I think that it is brilliant!! That is something that I really want to consider…

    As for your song choices, being one of two in a fellow dorky couple, I think that they are perfect and really says something about you as a couple. Who said that you have to have cheesy love songs that are so generic anyway? Rock on your wedding looked amazing and like it was super fun… We want a causal outdoor wedding so I am biased.

  18. hotcocoa Member
    hotcocoa 2098 posts, Buzzing bee @ 7:41 pm

    I love that you guys took time out to enjoy the moment (and the food) with each other. Mr. HC and I will spend a little time alone together after the ceremony, per Jewish tradition. We’ll definitely remind our wedding peeps to bring us food!

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    ceecee, Guest @ 8:49 pm

    I noticed that you use a lot of other people’s pics in your posts. I was thinking of using Travis for my photographer. Did he miss some moments or something?

  20. pinotnoir Member
    pinotnoir 799 posts, Busy bee @ 9:18 am

    The tree of love is awesome!

  21. greentea Member
    greentea 765 posts, Busy bee @ 1:32 pm

    @ceecee: I’ve responded to you via email since it was too long for a comment :)

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    Crash 377 posts, Helper bee @ 4:48 pm

    Sweeet Caroline

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    Crash 377 posts, Helper bee @ 12:44 pm

    I got it right :)

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