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I am. I’m marrying a music snob. A music snob that doesn’t dance. Mr. Joey is a self-proclaimed music snob who is part of music snob group. That’s what I get for marrying a guy I met at a music museum, I guess.
Luckily for me, he doesn’t criticize anyone’s taste. He knows what he likes and what he doesn’t. There are definitely band and musical genres I like that he doesn’t, but he never says word and doesn’t complain if Brit Rock is playing (Keane, Travis).
What does this have to do with the wedding?
Well, when we started planning, I put him in charge of 3 things: music, drinks, and rehearsal dinner space. He’s been great about the ceremony music. I think he may have already picked out the pieces he wants played. The reception? Well that’s another story all together.
The first problem is the first dance song. Nothing “cliche”, he says. What does that mean? Well, nothing by Sade, Diana Krall (who he loves), Frank Sinatra, or someone similar. Also, I’m pretty sure it means nothing you’ve probably heard on popular radio. I suggested a few classic Beach Boys songs and song by Ryan Adams called When the Stars Go Blue, but he wasn’t too excited about them. Finding a song could be as hard as finding a tie!
The second problem is that he doesn’t know what to do about the dance music. He doesn’t dance, and the songs that he likes that have a good beat to shake your booty to are probably not appropriate for a wedding. I might have to step in and put together the dance mix, but I know he’ll cringe when he hears it.
Is your hubby-to-be a baker, artist, or musician who exhibits a bit of profession-related snobbery? Did that snobbery affect your wedding choices (music, cake, food, invitations)? Did you let him have his way, or come to a compromise?
oooh, we are considering when stars go blue. I love that song!
Oh, tell me you’re going to be able to get Mr. Joey onto the dance floor!
My FI is just like yours - though he would never admit to being a music snob. He has the same concerns/wishes regarding what songs are played as your FI AND he doesn’t dance either. I suggest all sorts of things and he says things like.. ya we can edit this list later 
Hi Miss Joey–I am so excited to read about a Seattle Bee!
My FI loves rock, particularly AC/DC. We’re basically on the same page about the first dance songs we’re considering, though we haven’t picked on yet. But I already know he wants to play like “Back in Black” immediately after our first dance song. I think he envisions people flooding on to the dance floor in some kind of ceremonial kick-off to the dancing portion of the reception. However, I envision me standing there trying to dance like Angus Young and just looking totally stupid and embarrassed! We’re still working that part out…
Good luck with your music selections!
p.s. did you meet Mr. Joey at the EMP?
Sounds like Mr. Joey and Mr. PT would totally get along!! I finally got him to dance at a friends wedding last year- needless to say we booked the DJ on the spot for our wedding.
Your husband-to-be sounds a lot like my husband, who has a music collection that just plain blows my mind! Oddly, I had the opposite problem — I thought he’d be totally into doing the music for the wedding, but I ended up picking out most of it when he could have done a much better job.
Both my fiance and I are music snobs who miraculously have extremely similar taste in music! Talk about a match made in music heaven!!!
We’re collaborating on what to play at our wedding, including some performances by us!!
Mr.D is a typography snob - I just let him have his way. 
My FI is also a music snob, but what makes him so much worse is he is obsessed with “jam bands,” which isn’t remotely mainstream or wedding-compatible. His favorite bands are the Grateful Dead, Phish, and String Cheese Incident, and I’m sure he would make our entire playlist of just those groups if I let him. I’m trying to find ways to inconspicuously incorporate his music without too much of a hippie vibe.
I also wanted Ryan Adams “When the Stars go Blue” as our first dance song, and he’s just not having it. We’ll see which direction everything turns. Good luck with your music snobs, ladies!
My husband is a music snob. He listens to various obscure music that the masses have never heard. I love his music taste, but I knew that most of it wouldn’t really work with our wedding because people want to dance to stuff they know. When it came to our wedding music I let him pick all of the dinner music. We also chose our first dance song together, the wedding party entrance song, and the ceremony/processional and ceremony/recessional. ;o)
Ha! Mine is a music snob too! Tell us, what are a few of Mr. Joey’s favorite bands? Maybe if we can gauge his tastes we can help you out!!
As a photographer, and as a guy, I am really picky about the photos for my wedding. I’ve gone the route of talking about what photos are important to us, and then delegated it to a trustworthy fellow photog - one who’s style we both like, someone we wanted to invite anyways, and who we’re comfortable working with.
Perhaps ask him if he has someone in his group who can do that for him as well?
@Kara321: Yup, we worked at EMP together
@LzzNYC: Ha! Me too!
@Miss Burgundy: Some are easy to work with like Spoon, Jay-Z and Modest Mouse. But try dancing to the Bad Plus. He likes a lot of stuff, it’s just getting him to admit it. I think he might do a Otis Redding, Jame Brown selection.
uh, i feel ya! kinda on both sides though. I work in the music industry and my fiance is a musician (well, a structural engineer…but also a musician) and we have had the HARDEST time deciding on on reception music. We’ve been back and forth on band vs. DJ so many times i can’t even tell you! Because we love music so much, it makes it so hard to choose. We want something that we will enjoy, but it has to please the crowd too. it’s a tough one!
My FI is a shoe designer. Yep. I’m marrying the holy grail of men. What does that mean for our wedding? That he can see the design flaw in every piece of footwear. Does he say it out loud? Nope (love him!). But I know he’s THINKING it!!
I’m in exactly the same boat! And I want to DANCE at my reception — and not to obscure 80’s punk bands…
I’m a design snob and he’s a music snob! I’m designing our invites and other paper materials…I’m not really holding back, but this is what I do so I refuse to let it be subpar. Sometimes I sit and think about how much $ we could have saved not doing letterpress and our crazy layout format but man oh man, it’s going to be SO worth it. We’ll be putting together our own playlists for the wedding b/c hiring a DJ would probably just be a waste of money (lunch reception = not as much dancing?) plus I know FI will have a laundry list of do not play songs, haha.
My hubby-to-be is a music snob too! He has put himself in charge of reception music, but he keeps coming up with “classics” that haven’t been listened to in years, or bands that I have never heard of! I worry that no one will understand his “superior” tastes, but I am letting him take the reigns, since I get to have final say on most other wedding-related decisions. 
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Mrs. Joey, Seattle Age and Occupation: 28, Project Administrator for Public Health NGO Fiance's Age and Occupation: 30, High School History Teacher Engagement Date: June 24, 2008 Wedding Date: August 2009 Venue: Eastside Catholic Chapel and Lake Union Cafe About Me: I'm a Seattle girl through and through except for the fact that I don't drink coffee. I love my job most of the time because I get to travel and work with brilliant people who are trying to prevent Malaria. I love DIY projects of all sorts, cooking, and watching sports. I'd wear anything at Anthropologie and could spend all day on Etsy. I love to travel but shouldn't because I always get myself into unbelievable situations!
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